Poor sons and rich daughters, but why do boys have to be poor?

Because boys grow up to be responsible. Therefore, poor children generally have a sense of responsibility. This is called the poor finding a home.

Poor boys can make boys stronger. The boy has eaten a lot of snacks, and when he grows up, he has a strong character and will not panic no matter what happens.

Poverty raising refers to letting boys learn to be independent and self-disciplined, which is a correct guide for children.

Many people think that the so-called "poor children talk about the poor, and rich daughters" means that boys should be treated strictly and give less money to spend; Girls should buy good things and spend more money.

But in fact, raising a son in poverty is an investment in the boy's life; Raising a daughter is an investment in cultural accomplishment.

The true meaning of "poor" raising boys.

Perhaps, many people think that raising a boy "poor" means controlling the child's expenses and not giving him too much enjoyment, so as not to spoil him. This understanding is relatively one-sided, and there is a certain difference from what we call "poor" raising.

We believe that the more important significance of raising a boy in "poverty" lies in the value of tempering, exercising and cultivating children's will, character, and mentality through the personal feeling of "poverty" and "hardship".

To sum up, we can mainly understand and grasp the following aspects of "poor" boys:

Let the boy live a "hard life".

When the economic conditions are good, parents with bulging pockets spend their money on raising their children, which is understandable. Parents can create a good learning environment for them, but they must not give them too extravagant material comforts.

Otherwise, save the money and give it to him when your son grows up and has a normal view of money.

For the sake of his son's positive progress, for his son to develop the virtue of diligence and thrift, and for his son to not be full of warmth and think badly, it is better to let him live a "poor life".

Let the boy experience frustration.

The flowers in the greenhouse can't withstand the storm. Holding it in the mouth for fear of melting, and holding it in the hand for fear of pain, the Liangzi concept of loving potatoes will prompt the boy to be not strong-willed, have poor psychological endurance, and go to extremes when he encounters a slight disappointment or setback.

Setbacks inspire a boy to be brave and courageous in the face of the difficulties he encounters. As a parent, you must allow your son to experience a "setback" and encourage him to overcome it and overcome it.

In fact, there is an old saying about "boys should be poor, girls should be rich". In traditional Chinese society, "the male dominates the outside, and the female protagonist is inside". The requirement for men is to "cultivate Qi and rule peace", a man must first cultivate himself, and then manage his family well, and then he can govern the country and level the world.

Even if it's just an ordinary man, at least he has the ability to support his family. Therefore, if a boy wants to be poor, he must refine his mind and work his muscles and bones from an early age, so that he can endure hardships and tiredness. Poor men are more able to withstand tests and take on great responsibilities.

Girls want to be rich because in the past, a woman's status, situation, and happiness were completely dependent on men, and her future all lies in marrying a good family, and women can change the social level by marrying people, so in the traditional society where women are not talented is virtuous, girls from large families receive a good education, and they can afford to play the piano, chess, calligraphy and painting. Wealthy girls will have a higher heart and vision, and their behavior will be more decent. Girls who have been well taken care of since childhood will be psychologically healthier and more easy-going, and they are more suitable for being the daughter-in-law of a large family.

Besides, if the parents invest in the girl, they will not marry her to a poor person casually, and the rich girl is prepared to be the daughter-in-law of a large family, and she will have a good life. The structure of modern society has undergone fundamental changes, the economy has become more and more affluent, and there are fewer and fewer children, and it is no longer possible to "poor" only children, but many families are pampered with children. And habitual and abundant are two concepts.

There are norms and requirements for enrichment, but there are no habitual practices, so there will be many problems in habitual maintenance. Nowadays, many children eat delicacies from the mountains and seas, wear brand-name clothes, and live in high-rise buildings. In this way, there are many "moonlight clans" and "gnawing old clans" who are used to being pampered.

It is dangerous for a woman in modern society to wait for a man to provide her with a rich life. She should learn to take responsibility for herself like a man, and at the same time, she should not lose her soft charm so that she can live in harmony with her other half. Therefore, in modern society, whether it is poor or rich, the most important thing is to make children happy and hungry.

Children do not have the concept of rich and poor, only the concept of being happy or unhappy. Be simple in terms of material, let go of management, and let children take care of themselves from an early age. Regardless of whether it is a boy or a girl, as long as the childhood is happy and peaceful, and the relationship with parents is healthy, he must be a person with full energy, and it is possible to deal with any setbacks in life in the future.

Boys and girls alike should be equal in their family background, economic situation and education style, and should not be discriminated against on the basis of gender. Therefore, boys and girls should not be raised differently because of their gender.

The practice of poor boys and rich girls is seen as unfair treatment of children. This can affect children's self-esteem and confidence, and in many ways can limit their developmental opportunities.

Children should grow up in a fair and equitable environment, where they should have the opportunity to receive an education, develop skills and pursue their dreams. Their gender should not be a limiting or dividing criterion. Therefore, parents should do their best to provide the best living conditions and educational resources for their children, regardless of whether they are boys or girls.

Don't be stupid, the normal mentality is to raise children according to their own ability and financial resources, and both boys and girls treat children's physical and mental health, hands-on ability, and brain instinct ,...... without discriminationEducation is responsible for each other's good children and high-quality children.

Don't have a rich daughter, you will definitely have endless messes to clean up, endless ancestors, and in the end, no one cares about gratitude for your efforts.

My cousin's two daughters, that is, rich, both husband and wife are rural, planting land and planting fruit trees, going to work as a small handman to sell in their spare time, are all manual work, but the two daughters are raised like rich girls, and also buy a private car (although second-hand), the two daughters only know how to enjoy the bottom-line needs, and they don't care how hard their parents are, even the boyfriend they are looking for is a bastard, just like it, don't shout Tong cares about others, anyway, there are parents to back up to satisfy themselves.

Anyway, you can see the end of life at a glance.

Isn't this Zheng Shutan digging a pit for himself.