How to deal with the relationship between play and study in the dormitory?

I would say take a firm stance! Stick to your own principles and bottom line, this is very important! Don't give up on studying just because you have to accommodate your roommates to play and give up on your goals.

Be sure to finish your studies before going to play with your roommates, it's true, you only have more time to play when you study well, instead of going to the back to make up for it desperately, and don't be assimilated by your roommates. You must know that life is your own, and only by resolutely completing your own things can you consider cooperating with others! In the end, you will find that what you gain is valuable, and you will not regret that you did not study in order to accommodate.

The best thing is. When you see people learning and they have shown that they don't want to play, all you need to do is pull out your stool and sit down. Quietly, whether you are playing with your mobile phone or studying, don't disturb others.

You don't need more partners, just three or two. Note, the "three taels" I said are the "three taels" of your whole life, you have met countless people in your life, and in the end your close friends are only three taels, so why do you think that among the six or seven people in the dormitory, there must be one who can become your like-minded partner? In other words, there are not many people in the world who can really listen to your heart, and you think that those who can really understand you are just you weighing the pros and cons, and wronging yourself to make a choice.

Using the accumulation of time, any two people who do not know each other can become friends, but there are often very few partners who can really understand you, progress and communicate with you.

The relationship with the roommates in their dormitory stops at ordinary friends, so that they will get along well, and respect each other like a guest, although this word is not used to describe roommates. It's time to learn or to learn.

I've been just as confused as you and want to have a good relationship with my roommate, but that's a premise. The premise is that your roommate wants to learn just like you and has the same goals as you. The Tao is different, and it is not conspiratory.

If they want to play in the dormitory, do you have to sacrifice your future to have a good relationship with them?

There are 6 people in my dormitory, but I often go out alone, and I take different classes than them. You have to believe that those who have the heart to get along with you will get along well, if you don't want to get along with you, no matter how much you want to integrate, you can't integrate, please stick to your main principles, and we are still students, learning knowledge is more important. Social experience can be learned in all aspects of life.

Do you want to rely on the pouring of time and give up the time to study in exchange for a group of sailors, or concentrate on studying, enrich yourself, and find your life partner to a higher place.

But one thing is different, I never worry about my relationship with my roommates, because I have a clear social orientation for myself. What kind of people should I reach out to? Especially in college, our circle is wider than in high school. We should have obvious judgment.

In fact, many people are quite anxious about the dormitory relationship, after all, after a few people in the dormitory have been together for a long time, there will be a little contradiction and dispute. At this time, it is extremely important to learn to handle the dormitory relationship correctly.

1.Take the initiative to do things. In fact, few people can take the initiative to do something, take the initiative to care about their roommates, take the initiative to help their roommates solve conflicts, study problems, and take the initiative to persuade them to study.

In fact, if you take the initiative to do these things, your roommate may still not care about it on the surface, but in fact, he already has a good impression of you in his heart. In the later stage, whether you are a conflict mediator or do something wrong, your roommate's attitude towards you depends on the impression of you in the past.

2.Don't worry about it. People with a small belly are prone to contradictions with other people, try to do more things that suffer losses, such as bringing meals every day, bringing garbage, bringing couriers, etc., these don't have to worry about the number of returns, and they are not happy to mention their roommates, of course, for "special" people, they will not be big fools, right.

3.Don't overdo what you do. Many people's contradictions are caused by excessive jokes, and there are problems in teaching others, don't keep saying that you really don't listen to class at all, why haven't you learned anything, after all, you are not someone else's parents and teachers, you have failed the exam, your grades are lower than mine, you really play tricks and the like, and it is nothing to accidentally say it once, and it is easy to have contradictions if you often say it.

4.Put an end to isolation. Once there is a crack in the collective, we must learn to repair it in time. Tell the other party about the grievances in a timely manner or reconcile them in your own way, and be sure not to speak ill of people behind your back, or win over small groups.

5.Do not violate the privacy of your roommates. Everyone has their own secrets and enough curiosity.

When it comes to the privacy of our roommates, let's not try to find out. The other party has a special sensitivity to this field by turning a domain into privacy, and any topic that tries to break into this field is not welcome. In particular, it is important not to tammage through the clothes of your roommate without their consent.

We must pay special attention to this issue, and do not ignore the details because we think we are acquaintances. In addition, when we live in the same dormitory, it is inevitable that we will know some of the privacy of our roommates, and we must also keep our mouths shut and tell others that it is not only disrespectful to our roommates, but also immoral. We must do the above aspects, otherwise we will anger our roommates and happen"Rivalry"It's inevitable.

In fact, there are many more of these are my personal experiences, and I can also pay attention to the others, so I won't repeat them.

Finally, I hope that the dormitory relationship of all netizens is harmonious.

The dormitory relationship of college students is not quite the same as the feeling of the previous dormitory, which is somewhat subtle and somewhat complicated. We are no longer casual young people, and we will also take many factors into account when dealing with dormitory relations. If I want to say what I learned from the handling of dormitory relationships in my four years of college, it is probably to hide my emotions, point to the end, and tolerate others, these three points!

The first point is to hide emotions. Probably everyone doesn't understand that the dormitory is supposed to be a very private place, why do you hide your emotions?

A dormitory is like a small group and a small family. There are frictions in the constant relationship, which is inevitable, so when we are dissatisfied with a person's behavior or lifestyle habits, or even to the point of hating it, what should we do? Straight to vent?

Express your frustration directly? Or is it just forbearance? None of that seems to be a good fit.

What we have to do is to hide our dissatisfaction as much as possible, express our opinions tactfully, and say that we will leave a line in life and see each other in the future, which is indeed the case. We have no way to speculate what a person's future will look like, whether there will really be something that needs help in the future? So what I want to say is that whether it is in the handling of dormitory relationships or in daily communication processing, we must leave a line for people, don't meet each other, you can meet in the water, but you can't leave resentment.

The second point is to get to the point. I really feel this point, and we have a very good relationship in the dormitory, and we are very friendly. In the dormitory, I belong to a group of people who are motivated and study hard, I have a roommate who is a little lazy, every time I see her skipping class and sleeping until noon, not writing homework, not studying, I really feel that this is very wrong.

I'm just thinking about a dorm, the relationship is not bad, I can't watch her so lazy, I'm going to save her! So, I tried to persuade her every day, and she listened to her at first, but slowly ignored it, and even our relationship seemed a little stiff. At that moment, I really understood what it meant, lifting a stone to hit my own foot, it was very painful and sad.

Although I don't quite accept it, and I don't really agree with the statement "it's none of my business, hang high", but it still has a certain amount of truth, and since then I have understood that no matter how close the relationship is, it is necessary to understand that it is enough to get to the end.

The third point is to be tolerant of others and learn to bow your head. When there is a conflict with my roommates, I have to sleep in the same room every night, and I feel awkward and uncomfortable like never before. To change this status quo, we can only choose to face the contradictions, not to run away.

The biggest problem may be that the person who doesn't want to bow his head first, the other party may have the same idea, so we might as well bow our heads first, say a soft word first, and this contradiction may be solved. We must learn to look at the problem from the perspective of others, maybe we can understand that the starting point of this contradiction is in the first place, and to be tolerant and forgiving, this pimple will naturally no longer be a problem.

<>1. Learn psychological empathy;

Psychological empathy, in layman's terms, is to compare the heart with the heart. Generally, the small contradictions in the dormitory can do this, and the problem will be solved gradually, because most college students are adults, and after psychological transposition, if the situation is not very serious, it can generally be resolved;

2. Learn to take a step back and make a step;

If a conflict arises, remember to take a deep breath and it is best to avoid it for three minutes before dealing with the problem. Take a step back and open the sky of the distribution group, and remember the psychological side: suffering is a blessing, young man!

3. Use intermediaries to deal with contradictions;

If both parties are impulsive, consider using a mutual friend or counselor to resolve the conflict. The intermediary can better resolve the contradictions between the two sides;

4. Take the initiative to resolve contradictions;

Some students, especially after a conflict, are often reluctant to take the initiative to interact with each other because of their negative anger, one is to take care of their own face, and the other is to worry that the other party will not accept it but be embarrassed. In fact, as long as the opportunity is grasped well, the unhappiness between the two sides can be easily resolved. For example, when the other person is sick, take the initiative to visit; When the other party fails the exam, take the initiative to persuade him, etc.

When you are a student, you spend a lot of your time in the dormitory, and this is especially true in college, so it is more important to establish good interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. How? First, be yourself; second, learn to observe the situation of your roommates; Third, keep a good mindset!

First, do what you need to do well.

If we want to establish a good interpersonal relationship, we should first do what we should do, for example, when it is time for you to clean the dormitory, we should clean the dormitory seriously, we should tidy up our belongings, we should consciously tidy up our belongings, and the most important thing is to pay attention to personal hygiene! These are the most basic requirements!

second, learn to observe the situation of your roommates;

The roommate relationship with Shengxiao is mutual care and mutual understanding! Therefore, before doing important things, you must learn to look at the situation of your roommates, for example, if you want to turn on the sound to play games, and your roommates are still sleeping at this time, then consciously put on headphones; For example, if your roommate has a cold, and you feel that you need to turn on the air conditioner to cool down, then you need to be considerate of your roommate and just bear with it!

Third, keep a good mindset!

It is inevitable that there will be contradictions between people, what should we do if there are contradictions? The best solution is to calm down - it's normal for conflicts to arise, we all have to live together for so long, why do we have to look at each other with a strained face every day? If you want to open up a little, there will be no worries, and the interpersonal relationship will naturally be harmonious!

1. Know how to communicate and communicate with your roommates. Acquaintance and acquaintance between people start from communication, so maintain a normal communication with roommates, so that you will not be ignored, and no roommate will be ignored by you, resulting in gradual estrangement, and then indifference and contradictions;

2. Remember not to influence others, including life, thoughts, etc. The bedroom is only ten square meters, and there are four to six people living in it, and it is absolutely impossible to affect each other, but we should try to minimize the impact, for example: someone in the bedroom definitely likes to get up early, some people love to sleep lazy, and people who get up early will inevitably make a sound, because this is normal, but if he gets up and starts to talk, put ** This is to affect the normal life of others, and the impact of normal washing will be accepted, because this is uncontrollable, but speaking, putting ** is controllable and avoidable noise, It is difficult to make people accept, in the same way, whether we are listening to songs, playing games or even listening to words in the dormitory, etc., taking the initiative to put on headphones is a quality (of course, excluding the "self-amused center");

3. Don't establish a group in the dormitory. There are several people in a dormitory, if there is still a group phenomenon, then this dormitory is definitely not a harmonious dormitory, there are naturally many contradictions, the surface may seem ordinary, once there is a fuse, it will immediately ** Lu Bend;

4. The head of the dormitory should recognize his own functions and play his due role. Some people serve as the head of the dormitory, thinking that it is just a name, and some people are the head of the dormitory, just to be the boss, few of the head of the dormitory play a substantial role, always thinking about how to be a good person, to win over their own forces, so finger grip, if you are the head of the dormitory, you must put the handling and coordination of the relationship between the dormitory in the first place, don't face the contradiction and do not squeak, when talking big, afraid of responsibility, remember: the dormitory has contradictions The head of the dormitory is mainly responsible;

5. Grasp the "degree" of everything when doing things. How to seek a balance, that is, everyone grasps the "degree" when doing things, if each other has a good grasp of the degree, then there will be no major problems in the dormitory, and the relationship between roommates will naturally be "iron", because the control of the degree is based on mutual understanding;

6. Don't look down on or bully anyone, and don't think too much about others looking down on you and bullying you. Indeed, the most aggrieved thing in daily life is to be looked down upon and bullied, and it is difficult to accept it no matter who is going to bear it, so do not have such words and deeds in the dormitory, which is the premise of handling the dormitory relationship well, because the basis of equal communication.