How to deal with the relationship with the strange friend?

The correct attitude should be to "seek common ground while reserving differences", and "seek common ground" to improve in the debate; "Differences" so that different points of view exist. This is the case with the debate between Marx and Engels. At that time, the French scientist Bi Tremo wrote a book that Marx considered "very good".

Engels, on the other hand, believed that "there was no value" and that the opinions of the two could not be unified. Through repeated, sharp and friendly arguments, Marx finally accepted Engels' views; On other issues, there are reservations. In this way, we seek common ground while reserving differences, and through arguments, we all move our opinions one step closer to the truth.

The correct way is not to clash head-on, so that the argument proceeds in a relaxed way, because the head-on conflict is easy to make both sides unable to get off the stage, and it is possible that the argument will turn into a quarrel, or even escalate into a scolding.

Continue to be loyal and trusting. He does not slander his friend because of differences between the two parties, and even defends his friend's prestige and views on some occasions and helps him speak. Believe in the good qualities of your friends.

Be equal and respectful. Don't stubbornly think that you are right and he is wrong, there is no difference between friends, if you hold your own 100% correct attitude, even if the other party is really wrong, he will feel that you are not respectful enough for him, and have a rebellious mentality, "What if you are wrong?" It would have been a natural reaction for him.

Actively seek solutions. Don't let disagreements continue to be a barrier between the two people, and actively come up with some solutions to overcome them and reach a consensus. The longer the disagreement exists, the greater the ***.

Kind people are very likable people in today's society, and when they get along with friends, a friend who has a lot of opinions every day and a friend who is empathetic must be the latter more popular. We have seen a lot of fights between girls, many of whom claim to be good friends on the surface, but behind their backs they say that each other is not good, which is probably the "plastic sisters". If you are not kind enough, you will feel that your friend is not good enough to do anything, you can see his fault in any little thing, and after a long time, he will also feel your pickiness, this friendship will naturally not withstand the impact of reality, and it will not be long before you can say goodbye to each other.

We must be clear about the position of our friends, don't care too much about each other, everyone has their own life, we can't cross the line, and be more understanding.

Distance yourself for a while. Differences in favor of both sides remain in a "frozen" state, allowing time and facts to prove who is right and who is wrong. Avoid further widening of differences.

There are many unsatisfactory things in life, and what kind of life we have depends on what kind of attitude we have. Friends have always been the object of our hearts to confide in, and when you encounter a difficult matter, you often want to talk to your friends and listen to their opinions. In the process of you confiding, if every time you say, "I'm too unlucky, this kind of thing happens", "There is no way to do this, it's really difficult", after a long time, you will give your friends a feeling full of negative energy, and gradually everyone will not want to contact you anymore, or when you want to chat with them again, they will hesitate to accept your invitation.

But if you are a person full of positive energy, your life must be sunny, optimistic people will be very satisfied with the state of life, this atmosphere will naturally attract friends to get closer, emotions can affect each other, everyone likes to make friends with optimistic people.

You have to learn to be tolerant, and it's not a big deal to encounter strange things.

The reason why "friends" are put in quotation marks is because in many cases, we don't know who is weird at the beginning, and many people originally thought that they got along well with someone, but suddenly because of something, people felt that they were completely exposed, and they could no longer afford to be called "friends".

If you are made angry by the people you have little contact with, you may still feel that it is nothing, just give up useless socializing. But what if it's a classmate in the dormitory, a colleague who works together, or a roommate in a shared house, and it makes you feel weird?

The stiff relationship is basically these two ways, some people's anger value quickly rises to the peak and explodes, and some people choose cold violence. Two roommates in college once quarreled fiercely, how "ruthless" was it? It's the kind of room door open, two people shouting.

The cause is not a big deal, roommate M's sister came to Beijing to look for a job, and said that after the adaptation period, she could live in the company's house, and live in our dormitory first. But roommate Y especially doesn't like to have outsiders live in, M didn't ask her opinion before, and after expressing dissatisfaction twice but not getting M's action response, he told the building manager directly. The aunt went upstairs to check on people, and a scolding war broke out.

I've always felt that it ...... come across this kind of civil caseIf you want to be in harmony, you have to think about what the reason is behind it and how this thing happened. For example, this can be explained by the classic attribution theory.

Trivia: Attribution theory is a motivational theory about judging and explaining the reasons for the results of other people's or one's own actions. But in the process of judging, people tend to make the mistake of attribution bias.

And looking at the success of others is just the opposite, when others succeed, we will feel that they are lucky; If he fails, he feels that his ability is too poor. Attribution theory is often used to explain people's mental activity when they succeed or fail at work, but it can also be used to explain emotions as well. Like a connecting question, we are used to connecting "good things" with "me".

And the "bad things" are "someone else's". It's the same when lovers quarrel, we all remember all the shortcomings of each other, and how much we have done to each other, before we feel that we have been greatly wronged, and the backlog has become quarrels and accusations.

Since you are "friends around", it means that you yourself have regarded them as friends, which means that you are also their friends.

Friends get along more about getting along with each other those feelings, if you are very happy together, the friendship will definitely last forever, if each other are hiding their own ideas, such a friendship is likely to appear this or that crack, it will affect your friendship, so slowly understand them at the same time, to do to them what you really can't accept, you can take out, you sit together, let's talk, talk, maybe any problem is solved!

Let me tell you an example from my side. Really, my roommate, he's really weird to a certain point, when we first started college, we were all unfamiliar with each other. Everyone has to introduce themselves.

When I started to get acquainted, I spent a happier afternoon. But when you go to bed at night, do you know how strange this person is?

The door to our dormitory is locked, and it is okay to lock it back. Then this person has to lean a stool against the door, I was very curious at the time, I said this look is completely unnecessary, if you are afraid of someone coming in, let's lock the door back, if it really doesn't work, this is still monitored, it is impossible to enter and steal your things.

But this man just didn't listen, he just thought, I must use a stool to close the door, so that he can sleep peacefully. At the beginning, we thought that everyone was not particularly familiar with him, and he could do whatever he wanted, but after two days, it was really inconvenient, so we forced him to get this problem.

There are many other people's strange problems, and I won't list them all here. But what should you do if you have very strange friends around you?

First of all, if your roommate, or your friend is particularly weird, then there is no way, his person is like this, ten fingers are not long, you can't ask him because of one of yours. Just let him change his strange habits. It's his business that he's weird, and it has nothing to do with us at all, all we have to do is take care of ourselves.

He is very strange in the eyes of others, so in the eyes of others, we just want to be a normal person, don't let this wonderful person turn you into a strange person. People say that if two people get along for a long time, they will definitely be contaminated with some of the breath of the other person, but we must remember that we must keep our hearts, he is a weird person, that's his business, and we have nothing to do with a dime, he wants to force us to have his habit, we have to resolutely say no to him?

Secondly, there are some strange people, if he is particularly withdrawn, we had better stay away from him, and don't point fingers at him. Because most of these people have diseases in their hearts, they are prone to do extreme things. If you were to him face to face, what if he suddenly gave you a mouth while you were sleeping at night?

This is all very possible, even if he blatantly does not dare to break up with you, but who can you talk to about wearing some small shoes behind his back? When you're not in your bedroom, take your towel to shine your shoes and your toothbrush to brush the floor. Do you know all these things?

Therefore, it is better to mess with a gentleman than a villain, and if it is strange, let him continue to be strange, and just ignore him from a distance.

Generally strange people are funny physique, natural, what can you do, only look at him wonderful, I really can't stand it, just help him correct it.

Friend is weird, if you can't accept it, then don't play with him, if you don't mind, then talk to him.

Friends are very strange, then you don't have to deal with it, since you think it's weird, why do you have to do something.

You have to learn to accept him, everyone in the world is different, you have to treat him as a friend, you have to tolerate him.

It's really nothing strange about friends, the main thing is to look at yourself, and if you can accept it, continue to be friends.

Since you think he is your friend, it doesn't matter if he is strange or not, as long as it is good to you, you should not disturb himself.

Getting along with wonderful friends is your patience! Patience! Patience! The dog jumps over the wall when he is in a hurry, and he has reached the limit as a quality citizen.

Isn't it good to have a friend who is weird? He must have brought you a lot of joy, and you can occasionally relax with him.

It's good, he can always bring you happiness, find out that you are a normal person, and have hope for life.