What happens to women who live alone all their lives after divorce?

I have to say that after my friend's divorce, the first few years were very sad, but then I slowly got better with my own efforts.

When we were still in school, she and her boyfriend had known each other for less than two months before getting the license, and then they got married naturally, and I knew that she was not happy at the wedding.

Not long after she gave birth to a child, she divorced her husband, and I wondered countless times if this was the fate of a woman born in the countryside.

When I came home at night and heard someone crying in front of my door, I was startled, and I saw my friend through the door, and when she opened the door, she hugged me tightly and said, "I don't have a home." ”<

She took the only money she had left on her and took a taxi to me, and she didn't ask for a penny from the family, so I temporarily introduced her to a job.

Later, in the past few years, she has been very popular, I asked her if she wanted to find a boyfriend, I have a lot of stock here, she said no, I don't need a man like this. At that moment, I felt as if she had gone through a lot of vicissitudes.

She said that she would never find a man in her life, it is better to live alone than two people, to live comfortably on her own, to love to travel and see the scenery when she has nothing to do, and envy her for enjoying life.

Women with a strong sense of responsibility will live well after divorce, because they are responsible for their families, responsible for their children, and more importantly, they are responsible for their own lives.

On the other hand, a woman who divorces because of impulse, she will let herself follow the so-called "feeling" and "fate" to make choices, in fact, this is irresponsible to herself, and divorce without thinking clearly about the consequences, which is equivalent to putting her unprepared self in the social jungle, and there will be no good results.

So how can a woman move towards happiness after divorce?

1.Before the divorce, it is necessary to be fully mentally prepared.

In our current social environment, for those who plan to divorce, in addition to the pressure brought by the divorce itself, they also have to bear the pressure from the environment.

Even if you are fully prepared for divorce, when the marriage relationship is really ended, when you lose the familiar life of the past, lose a certain state in the past, even if it is a painful state, it will arouse strong anxiety and fear in your heart, not to mention facing child support, financial pressure, etc.

Therefore, preparing for divorce is an important step in finding happiness again. After the divorce, practical issues such as child support, residence, and economic income must be considered clearly, and marriage cannot be confused, and divorce should of course be clear.

2.After getting divorced, you have to re-establish your own life circle.

Before the divorce, many women only had husbands, children, and even mothers-in-law in their lives. Girlfriends and friends rarely get in touch. After a divorce, you will need a lot of emotional appeal and emotional support.

At this time, you need to make more friends, but these friends must not bring you negative energy, or friends who have also experienced divorce, because the content of the conversation will always stay in too many negative emotions, and communicate more with friends about life outside of marriage. Don't confide too much about your marriage to your ex-husband to people you don't know.

3.Reflect on yourself and change yourself.

Any failed marriage is caused by both husband and wife, and each of the husband and wife has shortcomings and problems in this failed marriage, but who is more responsible. A divorced woman should reflect on why this marriage failed, her own mistakes, her own shortcomings and shortcomings.

If the last marriage was divorced because of personality discord, you have to reflect on whether you got married after a thorough understanding of your ex-husband when you were in love, and whether your decision to agree to marry your ex-husband at that time was too hasty; If the divorce is caused by a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must reflect on whether you have achieved the filial piety that a daughter-in-law should do, and whether you have respected your mother-in-law;

If the divorce was caused by your betrayal of your relationship, you need to reflect on your betrayal. Reflect on yourself so that you can avoid these problems and mistakes again in your next marriage and live a happy married life.

1. Confused. If a woman's last marriage failed and divorced, then the most she felt on the emotional road in the future was confused, and the emotions she had paid were in vain, almost exhausting all her enthusiasm and hope for her emotions. A failed marriage is still quite a blow to a woman, and in this case, few divorced women can be happy.

Because a woman's trust in emotion and marriage is already very low, she doesn't know what kind of attachment she can have to happiness, and she feels that she can't get what she is pursuing, so she feels very lost and has no happiness at all.

2. Economic conditions.

Women are very happy after divorce, and economic conditions occupy an important factor, because their economic conditions are not good, their monthly income is rarely unable to meet the material conditions they are pursuing, and they cannot reach the level of wealth they want in life, so they will not feel happy. In fact, many women have a better mentality after divorce, and they are not forced to be in love and marriage, and their lives always have to go on, and they can't live because of divorce, so women are also strong and work to earn money to support themselves. Some women have high requirements for the quality of life, but she feels unhappy because her own financial conditions are not good, and she has not found a lover with excellent economic performance.

3. Partner. If a woman can't find a suitable partner after divorce, then she will feel unhappy when she lives alone, this kind of single life is very hard and tiring, and she has no lover to care for her and take care of herself. I lack a real support, I feel that this kind of life is very tiring, and my heart is tired, and a woman in this situation is not happy.

Fourth, work to earn money.

Divorced women have to work hard to earn money by themselves, then this kind of life is unhappy, because the work is very hard, and the life is not rich or even embarrassed, in this case, the woman needs to work hard and bear a lot of pressure, all of which are limb bases in order to earn money to fill the needs of life, and work hard for life. So much so that she gave up the happiness in the ideal she was pursuing, and the divorced woman in this case is very happy, and she has a bitter stomach to swallow.

Therefore, every woman wants to be happy, and it is the main thing to get the lover and life she wants.

The first type is undoubtedly a girl who is financially independent, the economic foundation determines the superstructure, if a person has a strong economic foundation, no one can embarrass him.

The second type is women who are strong in heart and are not easily defeated by difficulties, even if they feel uncomfortable because of temporary setbacks, they will not be discouraged and will stand up again afterwards.

The third type is women who are firm in their hearts and treat their feelings rationally, and they are disrespectful and easy to fall into a relationship. Bright code.

Very independent woman. Liang Xi is a woman with very advanced thoughts. A woman who values her work very much. A woman who worships money. A woman who enjoys solitude very much. A woman who is very self-reliant or a slag oak.

A woman who has been able to be very independent financially. A woman who has been able to no longer live on a man.

One: Perfect your personality first.

Love can be done by one's own nature, or it can be romantic, but in the face of marriage, we need to be a rational person.

So don't copy what you did when you were in love into your married life.

In marriage, you need to perfect each other's personalities.

If one person has a stubborn personality, the other person will learn to tolerate it at the right time, and even if they quarrel, they can reconcile in time;

One person is sensitive and fragile, the other person is thick-skinned, and going out will also make the other person feel a sufficient sense of security.

However, if the personalities of both parties are too similar, such as being more self-assertive, when dealing with conflicts or encountering problems, it is equivalent to missing a solution, or even-for-tat.

In intimate relationships, most people only see each other, not themselves.

Therefore, the sense of need is very high, and I can't extricate myself from negative emotions, accusations, and complaints, and I ignore the importance of doing my best.

If you want to better adapt to your new married life, you have to try to adjust yourself a little.

Although it is said that you should not lose yourself in marriage, you must also remember that in marriage, you cannot be stubborn about yourself.

Two: learn to live with each other's shortcomings.

What attracts us when we are in love is the advantages of the other party, marriage will magnify the shortcomings of the other party, and the process of running in between two people is the process of accepting and tolerating each other's shortcomings.

Everyone tries to find a perfect person, but unfortunately, in the end, you will find that there is no perfect person in this world.

I always believe that even if a person is good, I still think that he must have shortcomings.

When you are in a relationship, you only care about the good in the other person. Even, you will magnify the advantages of the other party ten times and a hundred times.

However, when it comes to getting married, it's very different.

All you see at this time is the other party's shortcomings, and the more you look at it, the more angry you become, and you are so angry that you can't wait to get a divorce and find another one.

My dear, depending on how you choose your lifestyle, whether you want to rely on others or on yourself, there are many ways to live in life, and the safest way to live is still on your own, I don't know if what you said is right.