For the sake of my children, I am tormented in my marriage, am I stupid?

First of all, correct a concept: Western psychologists have done a survey results show that the mental health of children in single-parent families is better than that of children who have lived in the shadow of family discord for a long time. In other words, dying with a person who is not in harmony with you is more painful than divorce for children.

First of all, I still advise you to do everything you can to change your husband first, most of the time, people can still change, the reason why we haven't changed is because we don't know the essentials, you'd better read some psychological books, take a look at his psychology, he should still be able to change.

Also, my father used to beat my mother a lot when I was younger, but when I was a little older, he suddenly got better and became gentle and friendly, and I still do the same, I don't know how.

Of course, a complete home is still the most important thing for the children, and if your husband is really bad habits, then your divorce is actually better for the children.

With so many questions, why not consult a psychologist?

Let me tell you a story about a man who crossed the river carrying a bag of gold and silver treasure on his back. When he arrived at the center of the river, the boat leaked, and the man was drowned because he was reluctant to bear the burden.

Many times, we are carrying such a burden, which may be money, reputation, responsibility, family affection, etc. If you feel that you really can't bear it, you have to take this burden off, because you may end up drowning because of it.

Of course, if you can convince yourself, persevere, for the sake of your children, and not complain and blame the unfairness of fate, then you are definitely a saint.

Finally, I would like to send you a sentence from Li Zongsheng's lyrics: People, no matter how capable they are, it is difficult to resist the unkindness of fate.

Whether you stay or leave, there are troubles, just be your truest self.

Addendum: Don't sneak your child on the run, running away is never a good way to solve the problem. Face it directly, be brave, and if you do decide to leave, speak up.

If I were you, you would definitely leave, how will you live after you are like this now? Living so unhappy all day long, he will be sick at that time, emotions are very important, his health is not good, what will happen to the child in the future, it will be better if he leaves, and there are so many bad habits, home is like a hotel. It's not responsible at all and drags you down, or put pressure on him to take on a part of the family, if you don't want to pay a little to you, it's an invisible quarrel, isn't it interesting?

You say,"Now that I think about it, it has been ten years since I realized it, and we have not had a single heart-to-heart conversation"; Why not? From your previous description, it's not that you don't have feelings for your husband anymore?

How can you know what the other person thinks without trying to communicate?

And he "often doesn't go home, either drinking or gambling", which is really infuriating, but could it be that he is not confident in himself, he is indeed manly and willing to degenerate? But no one really cares about him?

Of course, this is just my speculation, and I hope that "my heart will be in a bun" can throw my heart behind and take the first step bravely.

Bless you.

You can see that you have given a lot to your family, and you are a good wife and mother worthy of respect; Although it is said that for the sake of the children and family, you still have the right to choose your own happiness, if your husband really still has you in his heart and loves you, then he will respect your choice!

Not stupid, you are great, as you said, and your husband has problems in all aspects, and most people will choose to divorce the situation.

In the end, such a marriage will still end in failure, because two people have no feelings, and it is impossible to get along for a long time, because this kind of life is very painful.

Many people will feel that divorce is very harmful to children. But I didn't think about it. There is no happiness in this family.

Is it really better for children to live in such an environment than after a divorce? Allowing children to grow up in a discordant family environment can be more harmful to children. There was no laughter in the house, and during the Cold War, parents often quarreled and even fought.

What brings children is not happiness, but full of negative energy.

Many people will choose to maintain their marriage for the sake of their children, and if they want to live happily, they will try to change themselves and change each other. But some people, although they are not divorced, have already chosen to separate, take care of each other, and will only communicate on the issue of their children.

Summary. In fact, the person who is most unpleasant in your marriage is yourself. Only when you are happy can you give your daughter a happy life.

The unhappiness of my own marriage has brought misfortune to the child and affected the happiness of the child's life, and I feel very sorry for her, me.

Hello. Dear, it's a pleasure to serve you, unhappy marriage is not your one-sided thing, you don't need to put all this on you.

In fact, the person who is most unpleasant in your marriage is yourself. Only when you are happy can you give your daughter a happy life.

I don't know how much your marriage has affected my daughter, but I can feel your guilt and heartbreak.

I don't think you're sorry for anyone, and you're most sorry for yourself. Let's make ourselves happy first!

Dear, I hope I can help you, it is my honor to help you, I wish you a happy life and a happy new year!

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I have always thought about my children, and I want to provide them with a better life, so that they can be satisfied both mentally and materially, and I have survived by relying on this belief.

I have always thought about my children, and I want my children to have a better life, so as not to drag them back, so I got through it.

In the marriage that I have been working on for the sake of my children, I think that as long as the money is in place, everything is easy to say, and watching the children grow up little by little, I will feel very happy when I rely on myself, and I will forget the unhappiness of the past.

It's hard to endure, thinking that there is hope for the sake of the child's life. Now that the child has grown up, he is doing well.

In fact, I survived by seeing my children grow up happily, and I constantly instilled happy things in myself.

For the sake of the child to persevere, in fact, the husband and wife have no feelings at all, so is it necessary to do so? Let's analyze it for you.

1.It is necessary to maintain the marriage. If the child is too young to bear the absence of a father or a mother, it will cause the child's psychological incompleteness and incompleteness.

2.If the contradiction between you is not very big and can still be resolved, then try to persuade the other party or try to accept the other party, which will be more conducive to the child's growth.

3.If there is a big conflict between you and it has reached the point where it cannot be saved, then there is no need to maintain the so-called marriage, and there is no need to use the banner of children, which will cause more harm to the children and make them more rebellious.

4.An unhappy marriage will cause harm to both parties, and it will also cause harm to the children, since both will cause harm, then the lesser of two evils, don't bring this misfortune to the children.

Equal. Lack of equality is often one of the causes of quarrels and relationship breakdowns. When one of the spouses is under family pressure and feels that the pressure is great and unequal, they begin to have a quarrelsome mentality and compare themselves with each other, and this is the time when war is triggered.

Faced with such wars, it often makes it easier for marriages to be in crisis and become out of control.

2.Trust issues.

The lack or loss of trust is one of the biggest crises affecting the success of long-term relationships. Without trust, a relationship loses two key pillars that help form a strong bond: safety and security.

1. On the conditions for divorce.

According to the provisions of the Marriage Law, if the relationship between the husband and wife has indeed broken down, a divorce may be granted.

2. About child support and child support.

For the issue of child support, it is necessary to carefully confirm the circumstances of both parties from the perspective of being conducive to the child's growth, but the child during the breastfeeding period is generally awarded to the woman for support, if it is not a lactation period, it is necessary to see that party is more suitable for the child's growth and solicit the child's own opinion. The parent who does not support the child should pay monthly maintenance until the child reaches the age of 18, and the standard of maintenance is generally between 20 and 30% of the annual income. If one party is not suitable to raise the child during the future maintenance period, the other party can go to court to file a new lawsuit to change the custody of the child.

3. On the division of common property.

The property acquired by one party during the marriage is the joint property of the husband and wife, and the joint property and debts of the husband and wife are jointly owned and borne by the husband and wife, and are generally half of the same person. If one party is at fault, the division of property can be divided with less or no share, and the specific share will be determined by the court. In general, after marriage, the prenuptial bride price is treated as joint property and cannot be refunded, and if there is no marriage, the other party can be asked to return the bride price.

4. About the divorce procedure, required documents and fees.

In the case of divorce by agreement, after negotiation between the two parties, they should go through the divorce formalities at the original marriage registration authority with the divorce agreement, marriage certificate and ID card of both parties and receive the divorce certificate; If one party does not agree or repents of non-performance after signing the divorce agreement, then the divorce shall be filed in the court where the defendant is domiciled, or in the court where the defendant has resided for more than one year, or if the defendant's whereabouts are unknown or imprisonment for more than one year, the divorce may be filed in the court where the plaintiff is located. The first instance is generally 6 months, and the second instance is 3 months. If the court does not leave the first judgment, it can file a new lawsuit after half a year, and the court of the second prosecution should generally rule away.

If the litigation fee for litigation divorce does not involve the division of property, it is generally 50 yuan, and if there is a division of property, the fee shall be paid according to the proportion of the property, which can be referred to the "Litigation Fee Measures".

Ten years of repairing can be crossed by the same boat, and a hundred years of repair can be repaired to sleep together.

Marriage is a major event, and you need to be cautious about divorce!!

First of all, let me tell you clearly, since the marriage has reached the point of support, there is nothing left to save, happiness is your own, you need to fight for it, and will a marriage that lasts be good for the children? Children are not fools, they can feel it. Another point, can't you give your children a healthy family environment after divorce?

Hopefully, these words can give you some help.

Can a hard-working marriage bring happiness to children? Such a family environment is not conducive to the growth of children, and children's emotions are also very sensitive.

Do you have to work hard for the sake of the child? I feel that it should depend on the attitude of the two of you and your thoughts on the future of the three of you in the future, whether it is really impossible to hold on or can be recovered, not to mention that everyone is selfish, since it has come to this day, how did they come together in the first place, think about it!

Barely there is no happiness, if there is outside, what's the point of holding on.

The specific situation of this problem is analyzed on a case-by-case basis, and it is really necessary to be calm in everything you do.

If there is no result, the long pain is not as good as the short pain.

Seriously support what the 2nd floor said Please consider carefully.

Everyone has the right to pursue happiness, and you should look at how Chi Li educates her children.

Nearly half of the post-70s generation believe that "it is necessary to maintain a marriage for their children".

More than forty percent of the post-70s have a conservative attitude towards divorce, they believe that the marriage should be maintained for the sake of the children, even if the marriage is miserable, but in order for the children to have a seemingly complete home, the two should not easily say divorce, which may be the experience of people in the post-70s age group.

70 80 90 Netease Women's Gang Emotional Survey Issue 6 Nearly seventy percent of the post-80s who have suffered deeply from it think it is not necessary.

The post-80s generation should be regarded as the first generation of children facing the tide of divorce from their parents, and some of them are deeply affected by "parents do not divorce for their children", because such a family seems to be complete, but in fact exists in name only, and everyone tortures each other.

Is it necessary to maintain a painful marriage for the sake of children?

It should not continue to suffer for the sake of the child, be good to the child, and be okay at any time.