Boyfriend like this, can I get married, help

Updated on society 2024-05-25
36 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    From your description, I can sense that this man has serious machismo and is very vindictive, maybe he is tired of you, I think you should talk to him well, talk to him very seriously, let him know that if you continue like this, the consequences will be serious, let him know that you can live well without him. Look at his reaction, if he's willing to change, you can give him a little more time and watch how he performs, 5 years have passed, not more than a few months. You shouldn't get married in such a hurry, otherwise he will think that you are a punching bag and can bully you, and he will not cherish you in the future.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Now it's not a question of whether you get married or not, it's a question of whether you want to continue to live with this man. If you feel more and more that each other is not as suitable as before, not so tacit, and even feel that you can't communicate, and mutual understanding has reached the limit of both parties, then it is better to calmly separate for a while.

    You should never get married for the sake of getting married, even with someone who hasn't been together for 5 years. A woman's virtues, sometimes make her own good, but they fuel the temper of the other party. If a woman of such virtue is not cherished by this man, then marriage will only be the beginning and endless continuation of the suffering of both parties.

    Let's take a look separately, what is he busy with, how long will he be busy, and how much can he still invest in this relationship, even if it has been good for 5 years, and now that the contradiction is highlighted, everything must be put aside and this problem should be treated well. If long-term emotional investment is only a very light response, then it is better to turn around and look forward to the man who is really qualified to enter the marriage hall with you!

    Happiness is in your own hands, don't hold it, if love is long-lasting, at least let us find the right person who is worthy of our life!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    We don't take anything to our senses, but if you say that about him, then I don't think you'll complain much about him.

    None of us has the right to interfere with you in doing anything, and it's the same to make decisions, since you have talked about the problem, then you should have a good talk with him, don't say that you have talked about it, every time you go to talk to him, are you sure that your mentality is correct? Since you have been talking for 5 years, you should know him very well, what do you think are the conditions for you to find a husband, and is he eligible?

    Since you can't bear it anymore, why are you still so entangled?

    My husband is someone who wants to live with him for a lifetime (it can't be a lifetime, but he will also be with you for a long time) Are you ready to endure it all the time in the future? Are you ready?

    And you said that he only has a little more money than you, and you can't live with the little money you have behind him? You're better than him in every way, so why are you putting up with it like this...

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    He's not for you, and he needs a stronger woman than him to suppress him. And you need someone who truly loves you and will take care of you to get married. Enjoy life.

    The two of them hold hands until they are old. Give him up. Don't mess around with him.

    There are many good men. Set yourself free. Love is sweet.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    What do you want, you want money, he is rich, he can marry.

    You want to be free, he's not busy, he can marry.

    You want to be considerate, he is gentle, and he can marry.

    What you want, he doesn't have, don't break up.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Don't care how long you've been talking, emotional things have nothing to do with time, if you don't agree, it's over, and don't regret it in the future.

    Love is supposed to be happy, what about you now?

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If that's the case, he's been asking you to put up with it, what's the point of those two people being together.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Let it go, you see how tired you are (I mean you're tired).

    If you can't get along with your personality, you can't force it, which is not the same as cultivating feelings.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The past is unattainable, the present is unattainable, the future is unattainable, the future has become the present, the present has become the past, go as you like, see if you can get it???

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    No one can ask you about this question, but you can.

    You just need to think about whether you have been doing well in the past 5 years, and then think about how you have to live like this for the next 30 years, can you accept it?

    Yes, don't think about anything, get married! It's not too young.

    No, don't think about anything, break up! Divorce is even more tragic!

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Love is for enjoyment, not for suffering.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    If you want to be fast, you can't reach it, and if you see small profits, you can't do big things.

    Communication is the premise, figure out the real reason, and then solve it.

    In the process, do not "reason and talk about feelings", this is an invisible pressure on the man, which may lead to the other party fleeing.

    It is necessary to understand what the boyfriend's attitude is towards the time of marriage, and whether there is a clear time plan.

    There are already planned situations

    Understand the reasons for your boyfriend's plan and first express your understanding.

    If there is a problem that you can help solve, you can raise it and solve it together.

    This makes it easier to shorten your boyfriend's schedule and get closer to your own needs.

    If you don't have someone you can help with, don't try to tell the other person what is wrong, respect his plan, and take care of your self-esteem.

    You can tell the other person what your expectations are, but respect his decision, but hope (don't think, just hope) that the wait will be shorter, so that you will be very happy.

    Remember, a man is relatively rational, don't use your emotions to control him, it's counterproductive.

    There is no planned situation

    Maybe your boyfriend hasn't raised your relationship to the level of marriage yet.

    Don't worry, there may be several factors to this.

    It depends on the situation.

    First, the internal pressure is too great, and the emotions are ranked last.

    It may come from the boyfriend's requirements for himself, or from the requirements of the boyfriend's family.

    This situation, which needs to be faced together, is also a test, don't press it step by step, even if it is successful, this marriage has been estranged at the beginning.

    Second, the external pressure is too great, and the emotions are ranked first.

    It may come from oneself or one's own family's request to the boyfriend.

    In this case, it is necessary to self-examine, whether there is a significant difference between the parents' requirements for the man or some of the economic demands expressed by themselves in the process of dating the boyfriend and the boyfriend at this stage.

    Very realistic, for example, the requirements to buy a house or a car.

    Relief can be given by lowering expectations and changing requirements.

    Third, in the worst-case scenario, the boyfriend does not plan to get married.

    In the communication, it can be felt that it is best to have a third party to help judge, because you may not be able to detect your boyfriend's change of topic and other means when you are in a hurry to get married.

    The so-called twisted melon is not sweet, in this case, make a decision as soon as possible, whether to continue to fall in love, or to find a marriage partner to break up.

    Communicate to understand the truth, and the solution depends on the specific problem, the point is, calm down, don't let the rush control your emotions, leading to bad results.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The most important thing in encountering such a thing is communication, you can ask your boyfriend why he is reluctant to marry you, and also use the right method to solve the problem between two people.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    When you encounter this kind of thing, you can ask him why he doesn't want to marry you, if there is any reason, and if the reason is not convincing to you, you can choose to break up with him.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    When you encounter this matter, you should ask your boyfriend why he doesn't get married, and if the reason is sufficient, he can agree, and if not, break up directly.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Your boyfriend is unwilling to marry you right away, at this time you should know and understand the specific reason, whether he is afraid that he is not ready, or he does not want to get married at all, if he is not ready, he should be asked to express his concerns, sometimes you can't think too much about marriage, the more you think, the more you don't dare, you should be brave to take that step and take responsibility!

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Then you can ask him to give you a time. It's the time to be able to marry you, well, don't let him drag it out, if you can wait for him, then you can have a relationship with him, and if you can't do it, separate from him.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You should still urge your boyfriend, if your boyfriend has never wanted to marry you, he just doesn't want to be responsible for you, or he doesn't want to be with you, so you should still decide whether to be with your boyfriend or not.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    When you encounter this kind of thing, you have to communicate with your boyfriend as soon as possible and ask him why he didn't get married. Ask him what are his concerns and concerns? If he is not yet qualified to get married, then you can only wait, or break up.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    There is no need to rush and deal with feelings smoothly. Things that come naturally are not something that can be solved by urging. It is necessary to strengthen the emotional interaction between boyfriends and make boyfriends feel the power of love.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    You have to communicate well with your boyfriend. Find out why he doesn't want to get married. If he was married, you should break up with him right away. If it's because of Peking Opera, then wait a little longer for your boyfriend.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    You have to communicate more with your boyfriend so that you will know why he is reluctant to get married, everyone has everyone's thoughts, maybe he is not ready to get married.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    First of all, you should talk to him about the reasons for his reluctance to get married, and secondly, observe his attitude towards the relationship, and then prescribe the right medicine to solve the problem.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    The first paragraph: My boyfriend is getting married, and it's too late to redeem it.

    Faced with the reality that her boyfriend is going to get married, her girlfriend's mood will inevitably be hit. Although he has been silently expecting to save his heart, perhaps we should understand that there is no law of love, and there is no back button, and if the relationship between the two does not develop smoothly, it will not be possible to break up when there is a breakup. Therefore, when the news of our boyfriend's marriage comes, we should have a rational understanding of our emotions, accept this reality, and also prepare ourselves for a better future.

    The second paragraph: let go of the past and start a new life.

    Even though our boyfriend is getting married, we can't just give up pursuing our own happiness because of this. There are many beautiful things in life waiting for us to pursue. We can make new friends and broaden our horizons. You can also learn new skills and improve your strength.

    These are all ways that we can be happier and more fulfilled. Therefore, we should not be bound by the idea of recovering our boyfriends, but should bravely face our lives and start a new chapter.

    The third paragraph: Feel love, and cherish the people in front of you better.

    The fact that our boyfriend is getting married reminds us that love is not absolute, and it requires us to put a lot of effort into it. On the road of life, we will meet many people and experience all kinds of feelings, but every success and failure will bring a lot of inspiration to my friends. Therefore, while we can't get back our boyfriends, we should also pay attention to the friends and family around us, seriously experience the gains and pains brought to us by love, cherish the people in front of us more, and make our feelings more beautiful.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    He got married suddenly, and you can't accept that it's not your boyfriend, if it's your boyfriend, how can he not marry you, so you accept it, don't accept it, in short, he's married, it seems that he can't wait for you, and it's really fate with you, or he may want to marry you, you specifically don't want to marry him, he can't stand it with dragging, he may marry someone else, or you are an alternative to him, and it's normal for him to get married, Originally, you didn't have anything sincere, that's why it's like this, now you can't stand it, you have to accept it, after all, you are scared to death of this thing, it's always legal for people, you don't have anything to do with it, you have to live if you're uncomfortable.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    You can't accept your boyfriend's sudden marriage, so find something else at this time and don't think too much. It's good to take it slowly.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    This fact you have to accept. They are all adults, and they must learn to grow and endure. It's not worth it to be sad for someone who doesn't love you. Everything will pass, and hopefully you can come out of this relationship.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    It's not worth it for you to give up your boyfriend so easily, and there's no need to bother with him, look forward, the next boyfriend will be better.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    This kind of scumbag is not worthy of your love, forget about him, find someone worthy of your love, and wish you happiness!

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    You should think on the bright side, it's good that you didn't marry him, otherwise you might get hurt even more.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    This is already a fact, so adjust it as soon as possible!

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    If I put you to sleep, I don't want you.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    I'm also going to get married at the end of the year.

    I won't make my marriage extravagant, I discussed with my girlfriend that I would just have an ordinary banquet and save the rest of the money for our future development plans; democratic resolution on family matters;

    Take the wedding photo first, then set up the banquet, and finally get the marriage certificate! Everything will be completed within one month at the end of the year, be yourself, don't follow the flow, don't follow the trend;

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    Really detailed haha I'll take a look at it too.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    After reading all of the above, it shows that he is immature, and he should have no plans to get married, and he is not honest enough with you, there are still a lot of problems between the two that need to be spread out. Maybe he won't marry you for the rest of his life (this makes me feel like this when I look at this).

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    There's no reason for this Maybe he hasn't had enough fun now Some men feel that they don't have much freedom after getting married, so it's better to keep the status quo He doesn't want you to see his family What I'm afraid of is that the family will urge you both to get married after meeting After all, you're both old Now what you have to do is Give him time Tell him your hardships You can't keep doing this.

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