Fear of the opposite sex !! Fear in the heart!!

You were born in 1989, right? It's only a year older than me, and I think it's a lot of the way around our age.

But I'm not like you, I'm a boy, and I'm a little nervous no matter who looks at me.

Especially in class and exams, I am most afraid of the teacher but I didn't cheat, what am I nervous about??

I am usually nervous to meet acquaintances on the road

Hey, I've been numb for a few years

It's okay to think about it, and you can't die It's better to let it be, I found that I don't care about it and it's better now, but I'm still a little nervous during the exam

The doctor told me that the symptoms would go away over time, and that I hope you get better soon

This is an obvious mental disorder, so a few words here can't explain things and let you really understand what you should do, so you should still go to a psychological clinic to find a real psychiatrist, which may be quite a serious psychological pathology that will affect your life.

Maybe the guy you see in the eye is more shy than you. So you don't have to be afraid of boys (in fact, boys are also cute, oh, cuteness is not a girl's patent) haha.

Why is this definition made upstairs?

In general, we call it shyness.

This is a sign that I am not confident and shy enough. You are only 18 years old, in that kind of emotional germination period, fear of the opposite sex may be that you are ashamed to admit such feelings, and few people around you talk about love for men, so once you touch this, your nerves will immediately react, making you feel at a loss, immediately wrap yourself up, and dare not take a step, this is not considered fear. Only in the future when you see that the people around you are falling in love, watching and listening too much, you will be calm.

Furthermore, you must know that life will experience the practice of love, you use your own immaturity as an excuse, how lame this is, everyone will not be mature when they are in love, the practice of love will only make you more mature, let you know how to love someone, how to take care of others, learn to give, learn to think about problems from the other person's point of view, etc. Love will give a lot of things, so don't shut it out, but don't deliberately pay attention to it either, go with the flow, and make it happen.

Other boys have the same natural reaction, with the exception of some. There is no difference between men and women except for their physical characteristics, and the difference is due to the different ideological outlook and needs brought about by groups and environments. If it is not love at first sight, you can relax and treat it with the mentality of a friend, if you have not started to love each other, you must not show special love, only what should be done between friends, and let the other party see that you are the same for other friends, otherwise the other party will misunderstand that you like him, and the ending will not evolve, because most of the situation the opposite sex talks about love together, and there is very little talk about friendship.

Even if it is love at first sight, girls also ask to be reserved, although boys want to get your likes as soon as possible, but they don't want you to be a very casual girl, easy to get and easy to lose! Maybe you understand these truths, but if you think about it carefully and practice, you will still understand it and slowly know what you should do!

My personal opinion.

First of all, not confident enough. Solving the problem of self-confidence can be improved in many ways.

An image, change your own image can greatly enhance your own perception and confidence, from imperfect improvement to good to excellent, as long as you change, change to a certain you or from the people around you are satisfied or praised, which confidence comes naturally.

When your ability improves, the events you do will naturally improve, so your own sense of honor or the praise of others will not come unconsciously, but confidence will also come.

Three personality, like the current development of civilized society, people's behavior or morality are watched by everyone, when you are not respected by others, you respect others, when you do not get the praise of others, you praise others, when others will be honored in their own human rights or identity, and this honor is given by you, others will naturally be more impressed by you, in the world, others will naturally have reservations about you in the number of courtesies, you give them respect or praise such actions, they will naturally give you! , this is the advantage of emotions but the disadvantage, although it is, but it is real!!

If there are details that can help you, you can try it.

Take it easy to contact him, keep your own mentality, contact with the mentality of an ordinary friend, maintain your own mentality every time you meet, get to know the person you like with your heart, get along many times, and slowly it will be natural, and only the person who allows you to relax is your other half!!

About Maturity... You have a misunderstanding about maturity, maturity is obtained by experience and the thoughts of your own head, not maturity when you are older, ok! For example, if you do something very, very naïve, and many people laugh at you because of it, next time you will know the consequences of it... If you don't do it, you won't know it.

It's still the same innocent and cute.

For a boy chasing you, one, if you are interesting to a man, humorously say that you don't want to find a boyfriend yet, but you still have a chance! By saying this, it shows that you are interested in him as well. Or maybe I don't want to find a boyfriend yet.

But to some people, even if you are still friends with him, you will have a layer of estrangement, alas, all said, if there is something you like, it depends on what others do, and people can be his girlfriends.

2. If you don't like it, it depends on what you say, and I'd better not talk nonsense, so as not to let people say it.

It's better to hurt the other person than to hurt yourself.

There is also the fact that men are not so vulnerable.

Just don't be ambiguous with a few boys at the same time, it seems to have such a meaning depending on your situation, men hate this the most, pay attention.

Judging from your situation, you should look good, men just love their appearance more than their interior, they can highlight their shortcomings and even beautify them because of the beauty of girls, this is men's generosity. Of course I am.

I think you have to make it clear before you start, and that's probably because you can't handle it well.

Finally, in love, if you break up with your friend, don't fall in love with a friend who knows this friend very well, so that you will be embarrassed to meet in the future.

And the current boyfriend and the former boyfriend will never be friends. Don't be confused and want them to be friends. Unless they're all great men, but is it possible. Thank you.

Long live understanding. The best way to do this is to treat the other person as a same-sex friend at the beginning and give them a certain amount of trust.

It's nothing.,You're still young.,Only 18.,I haven't experienced so much.,It's normal to meet it.,But I think you usually don't usually deal with boys.,Say that you're very sensitive when you meet it.,Don't think too much.,Usually more contact with the opposite sex.,It's a friend.,Contact with more people.,For those who feel good, you can also develop deeply.,Hehe.。 Is there anything else you can ask me about, so many of them are hand-made, I hope to adopt, thank you.

In terms of feelings, it is best for everyone to buy the opposite side and explain clearly, the reasons for liking or disliking. But everyone is always stupid when faced with the object of their affection, like a child who doesn't understand anything. Life is slowly experienced.

The attitude towards feelings needs to be sincere, and whether it is sincere or not, everyone can understand each other. There is no such thing as who is right or wrong when it comes to feelings. As long as you don't deliberately cheat or hide anything, you won't feel guilty.

I don't want to be in love, but please don't refuse to be loved, and don't make the relationship between friends stiff!! Everything will be much better if you have a calmer mind!!

People have good fortune and misfortune, and the moon is cloudy and sunny, so why bother to seek fulfillment all the time, why bother to seek perfection in everything. You know, no matter how good your conditions are, there are people who don't like you, and no matter how bad your conditions are, there will be people who will love you. Everything in the world must follow the path of balance in order to have great harmony and true joy in the world!

As you said:

I'm at a loss, what should I do? How to deal with this situation?

That's whether you're not brave enough or there are some past factors that lead to that.

Force yourself to communicate for a long time with friends and classmates of the opposite sex around you. You can also learn from Guo Shuyao to hug and overcome fear with the opposite sex you don't know.

Slowly try to contact more people of the opposite sex, starting with strangers, then becoming friends after more contact, and finally developing according to the situation.

Try to find one you like to accept once, and escape can only become more and more afraid!

Go see a psychiatrist and don't think it's inconsequential, it can stay with you for the rest of your life. Dealing with heterosexual relationships is an important part of ensuring your daily life.

In fact, for everyone's first time facing the person they like, there is the feeling you said, but the degree is different! It's yours and yours, and it's useless if it's not you, so be natural.

Lovers start with friends, if you really love, and he is also interested, you tell him that it's okay, and as a boy, as long as you don't have a girlfriend, it won't be too awkward, unless his personality is too soft.

Relax, I guess it's because you haven't lived with your father since you were a kid. Therefore, it is possible that your father's attitude towards you and your mother indirectly affected your impression of men.

It's not that hard, and I'll take my time.

1, do you know how to ride a bicycle, in fact, electric cars are better than bicycles, if you don't know how to ride a bicycle, it's okay, you have to despise 2 riding electric cars from psychology, don't take him too seriously, 18, have confidence! It's about overcoming psychological barriers.

2. On the road with few people, sit on the electric car, support the ground with both legs, slowly turn the handlebar, the electric car will move forward slowly, hehe, grind your feet and walk forward for a distance, and slowly lift your feet when you are a little proficient. In this way, you will find that riding an electric car is very simple. This is also a practical action.

3. Tie a horizontal stick to the back of the electric car, hehe, assuming that you can hold this thing upside down, it won't hurt you, and the weight of the electric car is not large, don't worry about hurting your arms and legs, of course, it's better if your dad or your mom gives you support. This is the real thing.

All you're worried about is falling, touching your arms and legs, and old injuries. Don't worry, the arm and leg have been operated on after all, it's not a popsicle, it's not so fragile. A little caution at the beginning can completely prevent this from happening......Brother, I wish you success.