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If you want to have a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, the family should be harmonious. Both of them must know how to fight and defend for the sake of the family. That's why it is also said that you should open your eyes before marriage, and after marriage, you should open one eye and close one eye, or close your eyes completely.
In other words, you can pick on a person's faults and shortcomings casually before marriage. But after marriage, this person is chosen by you, and you will spend the rest of your life together. So no matter what kind of faults and shortcomings he has, you have to choose to be tolerant.
And not accusations. Slowly, you will find that while you tolerate the other person, your mood will become more and more cheerful, and the other party will gradually become perfect under your appreciation. Family relationships will also become more and more harmonious.
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Husbands and wives should treat each other with sincerity in everything and learn from each other's strengths; We must learn to tolerate each other's faults and try to coordinate with each other in matters big and small. Everyone has their own personality, don't want to change each other and suit yourself, the best way to change is yourself, so as to maintain the original love. Husband and wife should be honest, and treating each other with sincerity is also the umbrella of love.
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Husband and wife must trust and understand each other, be more tolerant and considerate, and encounter contradictions everywhere in life.
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Educate children well, children in marriage and family are the bond of husband and wife's feelings, and children's health, happiness and sensibility can promote the love of husband and wife. Use weekends or holidays to go out for a trip or travel as a family, which can enhance the relationship between husband and wife, and at the same time release the pressure of work.
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Anyone who has ever raised flowers knows a truth. A pot of flowers arrives in your hands, whether it is leafy or rotten. You can change it, and with your hard work and care, the pot will be as you expect it to be.
The same is true for couples in a marital relationship. Whether the two of you are united because of love at first sight or matchmaking. It doesn't matter how good your relationship is during the relationship, or if you just get married for the sake of getting married.
After getting married, you are both on the same starting line again. If the relationship between husband and wife wants to get along, they must be watered with heart and nurtured with love.
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Husbands and wives should respect and understand each other. Respect does not mean being polite in everything, but rather the need for close and effective communication, so as to achieve mutual understanding and communication. Understanding does not mean that it is completely consistent, understanding is mainly to understand the personality psychology and concept of the other party.
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Husbands and wives should care for each other. If you have achievements, don't hang them high, thinking that you are great and ignoring the feelings of the other party. We must share blessings and difficulties, even if it is a snack and a small wear.
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The division of labor between family and career, in marriage, it is customary for men to fight for their careers, women for the main and with children, whether it is a man fighting for a career or a woman running a family, it is not easy for both parties, do not bring the unhappiness at work to the home, do not tell your husband every day about the troubles of taking children to do housework, understand each other and talk about the psychological words to both parties.
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There may be quarrels, but be sure to pay attention to the scale. Understand the reason and purpose of your quarrel with the other person. And it's important to understand that arguing isn't just the only way to solve problems.
When you are arguing, you are not only hurting the other person, but you are also hurting yourself. Therefore, when encountering problems, the only way to deal with them is to quarrel fiercely. Understand this truth, and you will find that it is very stupid and ridiculous to quarrel with yourself.
So, in marriage, you have to understand that what you have to solve is the problem. It's not about finding a reason to fight with your lover.
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1. Each other's living environment and living habits are comparable.
Marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also of two families. Both husband and wife grew up in different living environments and developed different living habits. Some people love cleanliness and tidy up their homes.
Some people are sloppy and feel that as long as they are comfortable, they don't need to clean up their homes. So imagine that these two people will live together for many years without differences? It depends on who is more tolerant.
And that's just one of our many habits. You eat elegantly, and he loves to smash his mouth when he eats; You have a little bit of a cleanliness fetish, and he often picks his nose in public; You like to be a little more refined, he often goes out unkempt ......There are too many living habits, and these living habits come from the family environment in which we have lived since childhood, so imagine what it looks like to integrate two completely different living environments together?
You have lived in the city since you were a child, and you have bought what you lack, although it is not a profligacy, but you spend two or three thousand a month; And he has lived in the countryside since he was a child, grew up with hardships, he has to save everything, use things over and over again, treat the food when it is moldy and then eat, and the monthly expenses are not necessarily thousands, save everything, and even pick on himself. If such two people want to live together and get along day and night, what do you think will happen?
There is nothing wrong with the practices of the two people, no one is extravagant and wasteful, everyone is careful and calculating, but the living environment is different, and their habits are different.
The second and third views are equivalent.
It is a headache for two people to have different views. Three views and world view, outlook on life, and values. Don't underestimate the three views, it affects your decision-making, your thoughts, your habits, your hobbies ......Wait, from the day your three views are established, it will affect you for the rest of your life.
People with different views get along with each other, and they don't talk speculatively for more than half a sentence. You like elegance and style, and he thinks you are sour; You are kind and friendly, and he often bullies the weak and fears the hard; You value the spiritual world more, and he puts money first. So let's ask, will the two live together without separation?
Yes, see who loves whom more, and see who can assimilate whom.
Third, the education and culture are comparable.
The level of education affects a person's comprehension ability, cognitive ability, personal quality, and the quality of the circle of friends. It's not that you have to be a postdoc or not, as long as it's comparable, it's not too bad. You discuss national events and economic ups and downs every day, but he doesn't know anything about it, and he eats chicken with a serious face on his mobile phone every day; You like to watch Shakespeare's classical plays, and often listen to "Croatian Rhapsody", and he watches the bubble play with tears in his eyes, playing your songs and my songs; You take him to a party in a western restaurant, but he complains that the skewers are not delicious, and others are polite and chatty, he farts angrily, and then winks at you with a hippie smile, telling you which food stalls are delicious; Your friends in the circle of friends are posting travel, projects, and understanding life, while his, the introduction of micro-business that can't be turned to the end, and occasionally you can see a few emotional fluctuations in mood ......Can two people with contrasting contrasts get along day and night together?
Yes, see who can endure more; See who is wiser and learn to change.
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Giving each other space and unreserved honesty are eternal topics of conversation between couples. They are not only about love, but also about the interaction and relationship between two people. Every couple has their own opinions and ideas, and giving each other space or being unreservedly honest will depend on the specific circumstances between the couple.
In general, the best course of action between couples is to respect each other on the basis of wisdom and understanding and to give each other the space to choose. This means that couples should respect each other and give each other space to practice their ideas, rather than their own opinions. After all, a marriage is not only about love, but also about communication and security.
If one party does not allow the other party to have freedom, then it may have a bad effect on the other party, leading to more acute conflicts between the two people.
In addition, couples should be honest with each other. Every couple has the right to understand each other's thoughts and emotions so that they can detect the existence of problems early and thus solve them. If there is a lack of mutual honesty between couples, it is easy to cause disappointment, which can eventually lead to marital crisis.
Overall, each couple's relationship differences can lead to different approaches to problem-solving. Some couples will like to give each other space, while others will value honesty. Space and honesty can be seen as a good complement rather than mutually exclusive concepts.
The most important thing is that husband and wife should respect each other, get along amicably, and constantly understand their own situation, so as to tolerate and help each other and achieve true marital happiness.
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Yes, there is much more to be done than to accept and change.
The way of getting along with husband and wife is something that both men and women must learn, so as to make their marriage longer, and learn more skills for husband and wife, these skills can make husband and wife get along more happily and make the relationship between husband and wife longer.
So, how can couples get along to make their marriage last longer?
1. Husband and wife should communicate more.
If both husband and wife want to be long-term, it is important to communicate more, many couples quarrel because of poor communication, and communication causes less communication. As long as couples communicate more, there will be no unnecessary misunderstandings. Family matters should be decided after discussion, whether it's breakfast or bedtime at night, it's a good time to talk about things.
Don't keep the problem in your heart, and speak up for your own benefit and your family.
2. Husband and wife tolerate and trust each other.
Learn to tolerate and trust the other person, not because the other person came home late, and don't be suspicious because the other person didn't show you your phone. Whether or not you accept the other person's trust, the other person will decide the time of marriage, maybe the other person has some bad habits that you can't stand, but you should help each other to correct them, don't always blame.
3. Pay attention to the way you speak.
When many people are talking or arguing, when they are excited, they often don't know that they will cause harm to each other, so there is a lot of dissatisfaction between two people, even if the couple is very close, but pay attention when talking, don't be excited for a moment, and say something to attack and hurt each other.
Fourth, actively correct mistakes.
One of the things that couples need to know when they get along with each other is to correct their mistakes in time, because the other person is their own family, and there is no shame in admitting their mistakes in front of their family. Don't stick to it after knowing your mistakes, which is not conducive to the relationship between husband and wife. Of course, the other person should not pursue it after apologizing to himself, knowing that appropriate forgiveness will deepen the relationship.
5. Remember some important anniversaries.
Women will remember memorable days, while men may forget, which can be noted down in mobile phone memos. Prepare a small gift for each other every anniversary, don't be too valuable, just be attentive.
6. Cultivate common hobbies between husband and wife.
If couples have common hobbies, there is an opportunity to discuss them with each other. Couples should not always talk about heavy topics, such as houses and children, etc., but discover some common ground, have a little common hobbies, so that they can get closer to each other.
7. Give each other independent space Everyone has their own friends, although they are husband and wife, there is no need to completely occupy each other's lives, give each other some personal space, which is more conducive to improving the relationship between husband and wife.
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