What causes the leftover men and women?

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1. Fear of losing your freedom from now on.

In reality, there are many older leftover men who are like this, they feel carefree and free before they get married, but they are afraid that after they get married, they will be managed by their wives, children, and some trivial things in life. Therefore, when they want to do their own things, they do not have enough personal freedom, and they need to report to their wives to do anything, which will make their original life change greatly in the social circle of friends, so this is not the life they want.

Second, there is no emotional experience in disgust.

A man's motivation for love is not love but sex. Driven by sex, men's understanding of love is often very different from that of girls. Especially when that person has good financial conditions, they will have more opportunities to squander the low-quality love provided by the girl, and enjoy it instead of investing in it.

After all, this is the innate nature of men, so men who are overly addicted to sex are more likely to lose themselves than women who are addicted to love, and some older young people do not have a little love experience, so they don't know what love is. Once a man is very slow and shy about love, he will turn his attention to other aspects, and over time, women and life will become a blank in his life.

3. Have a strong defensive mentality.

Human beings are very strange creatures, and the richer their experiences, they tend to want the other person to be more innocent. But, in fact, there are very few women who are very innocent now. If you have money, you feel that girls are coming for your money, and if you don't have money, you are afraid that girls will mock Ye or yourself when they don't have money.

Therefore, little by little, he was repelled by his own defensive psychology, so that he would always get used to living without a woman, especially when his parents took care of his diet and daily life, this feeling would be magnified.

There are too many reasons, too specific, and some of them are very strange.

In terms of himself, one is the family background, such as the high wedding bride price, the building and the car, etc., because the family's economic conditions are not enough to support, and no girl is willing to marry him if he can't afford to pay the bride price. There are also obstacles that there are many brothers in the family, the parents earn little money, and the sons get married in a bunch, and the parents can't take care of it.

The second is the psychological effect. For example, if you set certain conditions for yourself, you won't get married if you can't find the girl you like. Or there is a knot, such as having a crush on a certain girl or having an agreement with a certain girl, unless she does not marry.

As a result, he waited until the other party got married before he considered his marriage. It's a pity that some of them don't know that the other party doesn't know that someone is waiting for her.

The third is the problem of character. For example, he has a poor character, is disliked by everyone, and has a bad reputation.

For social reasons, such as gender imbalance, people were vying to have sons in the past few years, resulting in more men and fewer women.

Hate the poor and love the rich. For example, some places pay attention to the bride price, "thousands of purples, thousands of reds, and one green". Some also said that the man's family should have "five smalls": a little father-in-law, a little mother-in-law, a small building, a small car, and a small business.

There are only men and women left"This term refers to men and women who are relatively old but not yet married. While the term may have different meanings and definitions in different cultural and social contexts, common reasons include the following:

1.Changes in the concept of marriage: With the progress of society and culture, more and more people's concepts of marriage and family have changed. Some people are more focused on their careers, personal development, and free choice, and therefore postpone their marriage.

2.Education and career opportunities: Increased educational attainment and opportunities for career advancement have made some people more inclined to focus on education and careers rather than early marriages.

Financial pressures: Marriage and family bring with it financial responsibilities and commitments, and some people may not be financially stable or financially independent, so they choose to postpone their marriage.

4.Personal Choices and Values: Everyone has different standards and values when it comes to marriage and partner choice, and some people may have difficulty finding a suitable partner who meets their requirements, resulting in the continuation of unmarried status.

It should be noted that everyone's life and choices are individual, and the leftover men and women are just a kind of social label for unmarried people, and cannot completely accurately reflect the individual's situation and value. Whether or not to marry is a personal choice, and it does not mean that it is successful or not.

With the development and change of society, more and more people are facing a common problem - the surplus of men and women. The so-called leftover men refer to unmarried and older men; Leftover women are older women who are unmarried. The emergence of this phenomenon is not accidental, it is the result of a combination of factors.

First of all, the change of social concept is one of the fundamental reasons for the existence of the phenomenon of surplus men and women. In the past, the concept of marriage and family was generally the traditional "three obedience and four virtues", that is, women should obey men and honor their parents. However, with the progress of the times and the renewal of people's ideas, women have gained more education and economic independence, and they have begun to pursue self-realization and independent life.

Correspondingly, men are increasingly placing an emphasis on careers and the pursuit of personal fulfillment. This has led to a redefinition of the value of marriage and family in society as a whole, with many people paying more attention to personal happiness and contentment, choosing to wait for the right partner.

Secondly, economic pressure is also an important reason for the phenomenon of surplus men and women. As urbanization accelerates and the cost of living increases, young people have to face more economic pressures. The burden of buying a house, raising a family, educating children, etc., has caused many people to postpone their marriage.

For leftover men, it is difficult to find a spouse who meets the needs of the other party without a stable economic foundation, which is also one of the reasons why they are reluctant to enter marriage easily.

In addition, the rise of social platforms has also had a certain impact on the phenomenon of leftover men and women. While the development of the Internet has provided people with more opportunities to make friends, it has also brought more choices to the mind. People have access to more members of the opposite sex online, which makes them more picky and difficult to meet each other's demanding requirements for their partners.

Once they don't find the perfect partner, they would rather choose celibacy than live with someone who is not the right person for the rest of their lives.

To sum up, there are many reasons for the emergence of leftover men and women. Changing social attitudes, economic pressures, and the rise of social platforms have all had a profound impact on the concept of marriage. However, leaving men and women alone does not mean that they are unhappy or unable to find a suitable partner, and everyone should make their own choices based on their own circumstances and values.

The most important thing is that both leftover men and leftover women should face life positively and strive to find their own happiness.

Leftover men and women are men and women who are older but not yet married or unmarried. There are many reasons why there are men and women leftover, and here are some common ones:

1.Changes in the concept of marriage: With the development of the Jian Hanhu era, people's concept of marriage has changed. More and more people believe that marriage is not an inevitable life choice, or that they choose to marry later. This has led to an increase in the number of men and women leftover.

2.Increasing educational attainment: As education increases, women are more willing to delay marriage and seek opportunities for personal development as they pursue self-worth and career success. This also leads to a female surplus.

3.Differences in the concept of marriage and love: Some people are more critical of marriage and love, and they will have high requirements in terms of marriage partners, and this demand makes it difficult for them to find a suitable partner.

4.Social pressures: Social pressures on marriage can also lead to the surplus of men and women. Some people may be under pressure from social circumstances such as family, relatives, friends, etc., leading to anxiety and making it difficult to find a suitable partner.

5.Limitations of social circles: Some people have smaller social circles and may face relatively few marriage opportunities and choices. This makes it difficult for them to meet the right partner.

6.Increased economic pressure: The economic pressures of modern society often make people put more effort and time into their careers, which can lead to a lack of time and energy to find and manage marital relationships.

It should be pointed out that the existence of leftover men and women does not mean that they are problematic or unworthy of respect. Everyone's life trajectory is different, and the return of leftover men and women is just a phenomenon, which cannot be used simply to judge a person's value.

What is the reason for this?

First, society has changed, and marriage has also changed. The previous marriage was a matter of two families, the so-called good combination of two surnames, the upper is the temple, and the lower is the succession of future generations, and the main purpose of marriage is the relationship between the two families and procreation. Therefore, marriage is not a private matter of individuals, but the common interests of the family, so marriage is not autonomous by the parties, but focuses on the interests of the family, is a public matter, arranged by the family, of course, the family has been arranged for you early.

Now, marriage has become more and more a matter between two people, and it is decided by two people, and the freedom of marriage has been greatly improved, so there are many people who don't want to get married, many people who feel that it is not good to divorce, and many people who want to get married but can't find the right one. Therefore, the increase in the freedom to marry correspondingly increases the rate of non-marriage, which is an important reason.

Second, I have a structural theory of leftover men and women. Because there are many factors that affect the choice of marriage partners, such as age, socioeconomic status, physical characteristics, region, religion (including values), etc. Different people have different marital resources, some are rich and handsome, some are poor and ugly, and there is inequality between people in this aspect, which leads to the stratification phenomenon of marriage partner selection.

There is a tendency for women to choose upwards in Chinese marriage, that is, women tend to choose men who are two or three years older than themselves, tall, educated, and monthly income, and men can accept women who are slightly worse than themselves, and the result of the choice is the above figure. The women of the first tier are either married to the men of the first tier, or they are left; Women in the second class can marry both men in the second and first ranks; By analogy, we can find that women at the top and men at the bottom are the most likely to be left, because the proportion of these two groups forming marriages is extremely low. This is the so-called structural surplus of men and women, so you can see that some white-collar women with better conditions in the city and men in remote and poor rural areas are the two groups with the most leftovers.

Third, ultrasound, a gender disorder caused by sex selection, will exacerbate the difficulty of marriage. For many years, the sex ratio of newborns in China has been seriously imbalanced, and this normal ratio is about 104, that is, for every 100 girls born, there are about 104 boys born. But in some years, it reached 118, and even reached 130 in some places, which roughly started around 1995, and now these children have entered the marriage period, and the contradictions have erupted.

This is very normal, some people ask for tall picks, so they will get older and older, and some people can't find them.