What if you marry a superficial man who has no plans, no ideas, and no ideas?

Since they are already husband and wife, it is recommended to be more tolerant of their husbands, and for the problem of self-motivation, you can slowly follow the temptation, let him establish the confidence of self-motivation, and then work hard for a happier life for the family.

Communicate more with your husband, touch his heart, affirm him, support him, encourage him behind his back, give him confidence, let him know that he will succeed, because you inspire him behind his back, I dare not guarantee that there must be a smart and virtuous woman behind a man's success.

Did you have a baby? Marry such a person, never have children. There are also many unlucky children who give birth.

There is only a chance that a man will become motivated by the advent of a child.

If you already have children. It's up to you as a mother to take care of the child. If you can't give it, don't abuse it (verbal violence can also hurt severely).

Whether you are separated or not, you must ensure financial independence. Leave a part of the salary to save and don't give it to anyone but yourself, and you can deal with anything in the future.

In addition to not being motivated, does he have merit in your eyes?

No one is perfect, if you are really good to you, life is still good, even if it is a good life.

Again, are you really unhappy?

Think about the basics, and then think about if you get divorced, will you have a more chic and happy life than you do now?

Water flows to lower places, and people go to higher places, which is an inevitable trend.

In fact, if you ask so, it proves that you are confused now, you might as well think slowly, find what you really want, and try to change your life.

If you don't think he's your ideal person, you can choose to divorce.

Was it a flash marriage when you first got married? If you can, try to persevere, if you can't, the long pain is better than the short pain!

As far as your vision and conditions are concerned, it is the same to find another one.

With the two of you understanding and communicating, it's not bad to be slow.

It doesn't matter if a man doesn't have an opinion, as long as he has an idea, he may know how to be filial to his family, and he is a filial person He knows that his family is for his own good, for his own sake, I think you are a sensible person After all, your parents have more experience than yourself, and you have experienced more things, and it is good to listen to other people's opinions as long as you have an idea, plan for your future, consider whether it is beneficial to yourself, will help you, and be able to create your own happiness.

Just have your own opinions.

Why should such a man be nostalgic, a man who has no opinions, how to protect his woman, is simply a coward, marry him, there will be hardships in the future, and there will be guilt, you must think twice! Take care! Otherwise, it will be you who will regret it in the future, be cautious and cautious.

My husband is a man who has no opinions, no responsibilities and no conscience. No matter how big or small, they don't consult with me. All listened to the people outside, including his mother. There are a lot of things that I never think about for my family. So I'm really tired of marrying him.

Then take it as a son!!

Then you have to be assertive, you have to think, you are a human being.

I think you should get a divorce, but objectively speaking, you have to look at what "useless" means, and does your earning ability not meet your psychological standards? Because he doesn't make as much money as "other people's" husbands, do girlfriends feel disgraced when they get together? Women generally don't know why, they just say that I don't think he's motivated.

You have to know that whether a man is useful or not has a lot to do with his wife, and a harmonious relationship between husband and wife should be to support each other, make progress with each other, and get better and better together. If you feel that your husband is not self-motivated, it may be that you are not encouraging enough. Scolding is useless, only encouragement can make a man progress.

If he is useless at work, you can understand the things that ask him about his work, and understand the specific reasons why he is not improving at work, and if he doesn't know, you can help him find out. Let's see if there is a villain in the company who hits him, the relationship between superiors and subordinates is not handled well, or there is a problem with work skills. The authorities are obsessed with bystanders, and you can help him point out the problem.

If it is really a problem at work, you can find out the problem as a bystander, and you can do ideological work with him, if it doesn't make sense of him, then you need to consider whether the two of you have the same values, the same concept of two people is the basis of marriage, and the disagreement of concepts is painful. You feel unhappy, he also feels bored, and it is torture for the two of you to live on.

Back to the topic: "What to do if you marry a man who doesn't have it?" "There are feelings, improve him.

No emotion, leave. But you must figure out how to define the word "useless", whether it refers to the man's inability and inability to earn money, or whether you have been paying for the family and the man has been only getting in and out, or whether he can't meet your material and spiritual needs. In fact, no matter which one, these are your own choices, instead of complaining, it is better for two people to work together and struggle together, everything is your own choice!

Of course, you have to live on your own, and then if you can divorce each other, you have to divorce each other, and don't live with such useless men anymore.

I think it's better to separate. Because he won't bring you happiness in the future, he can't give you ideas when he encounters anything, and you have to carry a lot of things by yourself, which will be very tiring.

Divorce if you marry a useless man, because the most important thing for a man is to be self-motivated, if he doesn't have the idea of cheering up, you will always suffer if you follow him.

I think it's better to get a divorce. Because if the man is useless, it will only be the woman who suffers, and this marriage is unhappy.

Then divorce, I already feel that my husband is useless in my heart, why force myself to struggle in contradictions, men's self-motivation is innate, and persecution is useless.

Marrying a useless man, I think the marriage should be ended as soon as possible, because he will only be content with the status quo, not enterprising, and will not bring you happiness.

I think I'd better leave. If you feel that the other party is useless, you will be very picky, dissatisfied with the other party, and you will live in disgust and complaints all day long, so it is better to be happy.

I think you'll have to get a divorce. If a man is useless, then what else can you expect from him in life!

I think divorcing him is the best option. Now that you have seen through his useless nature, divorce him and stop the loss in time, otherwise you will have a hard time in the future.

It must be a divorce, do you think he's useless and keep it for the New Year? Hurry away and find a useful man!

Marriage needs to be understood and communicated, why he always changes jobs one after another must be a reason, is he not to do it, or he can't do it, as a man I think he also wants you to live a happy life, but nothing can be rushed, talk to him to understand his inner thoughts, so that you will not be so hot!

Hello this friend. Maybe you have a hard time, communicate well, give each other time, love has to tolerate each other's strengths and weaknesses! There is more understanding and trust between each other, and there is less suspicion and unnecessary strife!

Compare hearts to hearts and give both parties a space to play freely......May I be happy

In fact, sometimes he should think about why he changed jobs, for what purpose, what the new job position can bring him after changing jobs, and so on. It's not for nothing that things happened, I hope you can communicate more and live a happy life! ～

Then you don't bother with him. Work on your own future. People nowadays are unreliable. The future is all about oneself. If you are willing to work hard to manage what others give you. Believe in yourself. Don't blame men for being irresponsible.

What you can't do, if you can't leave him, you're going to suffer over and over again.

You can go out and go crazy with wild men and feel like real men, I'll help you.

If you have a strong personality, you will have a good life, and if you have a soft personality, you will leave.

It's okay to be a good person, after all, no one is perfect.

One thing cures one thing, marrying a useless man, you are destined to be a strong woman. Unless you want to get a divorce and find a useful man.

First, I will work hard to make money and be self-reliant, I will live with him, and second, if I can't stand it, I will divorce and find one, and I don't have to wronged myself.

First of all, it depends on what aspect of your man is "useless", whether it is "that aspect" or what aspect. It's important to figure this out. Let's analyze them one by one:

1.Physiological uselessness.

If the man you marry is physically "useless", then you are advised to leave as soon as possible. Don't wonder if it's okay to be a man, it's just that it's "useless" to leave like this. You know, if he has a physical problem, that's actually the biggest problem.

Because it's really about your happiness and your future. Even if you let go of the desire in your heart to be with him, he will doubt your original intentions, wonder if you are out of pity for him, wonder if you have any plans, and even if you talk to a man, it may sting him. And such a life will definitely not be happy.

2.Life is useless, ability is not enough.

If you say "useless", you are not physiological, but referring to his ability to work, then please think carefully about the extent to which his "uselessness" is "useless" and whether it affects your life. If it doesn't have much impact on your lives, maybe your so-called "uselessness" is not his badness, but your expectations are too high. If that's the case, what should we do?

It's very simple, you are strong yourself, you are "useful" to show him! In this society, it is not necessary for men to make money alone to support the family, you are also a member of the family, and you should also have the obligation to work hard for the family!

Of course, if what you say "useless" has deeply affected your life, life is going to become tight, and he still has poor work ability and does not want to make progress, and even does not want to work. If this is the case, please do not hesitate to leave.

What to do, it depends, good luck!

Marrying a useless man, it is usually the man's living habits and attitude towards the family that make the wife feel hopeless and unable to see the happiness of life, so what should be done in this situation, there are generally two possibilities.

Since he married him, then he accepted his fate, married a chicken with a chicken and a dog with a dog, this kind of thinking is a lot, and it is also very normal, after all, before getting married, you don't know what he will be like after marriage, if you find that he doesn't like to work, is not motivated, and treats the family badly, especially if two people have children, they don't care about the children, what difficulties the family has, as the pillar of the family, nothing can be managed, if this woman can endure such a life, After all, if you have a child, you still have to focus on the child, you can't let the child be without a father, so many women choose to swallow their anger.

But some people are not like this, some girls are very independent, and very demanding, especially for the quality of marriage, they are not willing to be ordinary, so if you marry a useless man, especially if you are not motivated at work, and you can't give yourself enough happiness and security, they will begin to urge her man to go out to find a job, improve their sense of responsibility, and take care of their own sincere heart, but if it takes a long time, in the long run, then girls will definitely not be able to stand it, they will break out, will divorce, Even if they have a bad reputation for divorce, they don't want to live like this for the rest of their lives, so there are many situations, and the current divorce rate is also increasing for this reason, sometimes I really don't blame girls, it's true that boys are too whimsy, too useless, and really can't give girls happiness.