In life, why do some people leave you as if they have drained all your strength?

Because the person you care about has left you, you will feel sad, and if you have a close friend, you will feel that a part of your life seems to be missing, and you may never meet such a good person next time.

Yes, it's because that person you used to really like very much, and even blush when you see him, because all the happiness that that person brings you is suddenly gone, and of course the rest is sadness.

Because in this relationship, you give the most and are very serious, treat each other as everything, and even sometimes rely on each other in life, and get used to each other's existence, once you leave each other, you will feel uncomfortable, and always feel that something is missing.

Because of all your efforts, time, money, and affection for him, but he leaves suddenly, you feel that all these years have been used in vain, as if time has suddenly left you.

If you like someone very much, yes, if a person who chats with you every day suddenly ignores you one day, you will be very uncomfortable. And if you like him, it's definitely even harder.

The person who left me was once all I had, including my life. So when she left, she felt that she had lost hope and backbone around her, as if she had been drained of all her strength.

Because I spent time and energy getting to know you, and then I was with you, and then we were separated, and it really took me a lot of energy, like the death of a pet you had for more than ten years, and this thing is even more sad than this.

I especially like my boyfriend, if he leaves me one day, my world will be black and will no longer be colorful, especially like him because he holds me alive.

If that brings you down, then when she chose you, I think it was a mistake. Because of this, life is exactly the test question for you. If you can't get through this, what will you have to rely on her in the future? Cheer up!

Don't be such a friend, just break up, get married and divorced. When the fate comes, it gathers, and when it ends, it disperses. Is there the pain of life and death? The old man is gone, and the new man will come, and maybe the real one that belongs to you has long been lurking around you.

As you grow older, as your experience increases, and you look at the people and things around you, human life is fragile. We must cherish every life around us and live our lives seriously and happily.

Each person presents a different personality due to their living environment and their own nature. Some things are so ingrained that you can't change anything. As the saying goes:

In this complex and changeable world, the survival of the fittest, for the change of others, sometimes our power or influence is only a drop in the bucket. The only thing we can do is to change ourselves, to push ourselves to adapt and grow. If you can't change others and choose to escape, then this will be a stalk of yourself after all, if you encounter it again next time.

Therefore, everything in the future is variable, and the only thing we can do is to change ourselves and adapt to others. It seems to be retreating, but it is actually growing and growing! ‍‍

Everyone from childhood to the present, all the way to the growth, all the way to the length, all the way to the pursuit, all the way to the goal, all the way to the experience, all the way to meet, all the way to change, different births, different families, different choices, different occupations, different environments, bring not two the same road together, each person by their own struggle to survive, how to change the life of others hard-earned personality and nature, change their own virtue is the greatest hope. ‍‍

When we are entangled and stubborn about one thing, we must learn to be flexible, consider from the other party's point of view, learn how to grow better, and what is the best relationship for each other. Instead of blindly making the other party obey their own ideas, it is hard to forget that the other party is tired of themselves. Give the relationship a relaxed environment, let it develop freely, healthily and happily!

In fact, everyone is an individual, so why find a way to change others? Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself, this is the realm that each of us should pursue!

Change what can be changed, accept what can't be changed, after all, it's difficult to change other people's minds, you can only do your best.

What to change someone else? That's impossible. It's easy to change yourself, it's hard to change others, others are what others have to do with me! The well water does not interfere with the river water, everyone has their own life goals, and each of them runs hard towards their own life trajectory! ‍‍

First of all, you have to think about why you want to change her, what to change from, what kind of appearance you can accept, and why you want to change it according to your requirements. In short, don't think about changing others and the world all day long, it's better to change yourself quickly, of course, if you want to change, you have to change as much as possible, otherwise it's still as good as ever.

There are no two choices. One is to try to adapt to his life and rhythm (provided that you love him enough). The other one left.

Selflessly, he said that he hoped that he could find the most suitable one. Be selfish, which do you think you are? It's not uncommon for Lao Tzu, Lao Tzu still keeps you for the New Year? ）

Everyone has their own independent thoughts and actions. When we can't change a person in life, we can also use our actions to influence him.

My husband is a person who cheats and cheats, he never takes the initiative to share housework at home, no matter how busy the family is, he finds a way to not do it, no matter who says something, he just doesn't do it, as soon as you talk about him, he is full of reason. In the unit, he also found all kinds of reasons not to work, as if he was very great, and he didn't know that he was not worthy of being a man at all. When you meet this kind of person, it's better to leave, and if you can't leave, you can just accept your fate, and you can only take on everything yourself.

A friend of mine was still reluctant to take the teaching certificate, and I tried my best to persuade her to try, but it still didn't work. In the end, I won't persuade her anymore, life is her own.

If you can't change her, try to accept her and change yourself.

If you don't learn to go out and try it now, there is no place for you at all. Even if you don't want to have very good and good living conditions in the future, you will live a life with ordinary family conditions, but at least you have the capital to support your family, and at the same time you have your family and parents to take care of, without certain skills, how to work, without work, where to get the funds to live. Although money is not everything, but today, if you lack money and leave your parents, you are nothing, and you can't eat... Therefore, struggle is to live better and more freely, to live oneself better, not to prove anything to others.

The first step is to achieve everything you want to do, first of all, you must have an economic foundation, so your current efforts are to be able to successfully realize all your dreams as a foundation to lay the foundation, life is all boring to see your own heart instead of complaining about engaging in the same work content every day, engaging in the same work every day is also a manifestation of your life patience experience, try to ask which day you are not eating and sleeping in the cycle, this is life, no need to be confused, everything is natural, and so you have an economic foundation, You can do whatever you want, and no one will stand in your way.

I would like to say to you as someone who has graduated and has a deep nostalgia for university life

Every college student has a dream in his or her college life. I don't care about the house, car, and ticket in people's mouths, and I want to be free and easy. The gap between reality and dreams makes people idle, even decadent, wasting the most precious years of time.

It is often said that the college entrance examination determines the fate of the decision. In fact, I would like to say that it is the years of life in college that really determine the direction of life.

Because the college entrance examination is just an exam, it may give people a different starting point, but the few years when they go to college create a person's character for a lifetime. Whether you work hard or are stubborn in your college life, it will become your basic attitude towards things throughout your life. There may be deviations, but this formation of a character that cannot be changed has always influenced people's behavior.

And depending on your question, you are basically a person who is "money like dung", but you must know that you will still have parents to support in the future, and you will have to marry a wife and have children, or marry and have children. All you have to do now is try to equip yourself with the ability to make their lives worry-free, you are not living for yourself. To put it mildly, imagine when your elderly and sick parents silently endure the torture of illness or even torture to death because they have no money, and when your children watch other children eat, use, and play with the good things their parents give, while you, as his father (or mother), are unable to give it to him.

Do you still think about your freedom and freedom in your heart?

Maybe these things seem boring to you, and that's because you have your parents holding you up. Without your parents, do you have what it takes to make yourself as good as you are now? Does it have what it takes to allow them to enjoy their old age?

And you, my dear classmates, are giving up the opportunity to cultivate this ability. Don't look down on wealth, which is not sinful, but a solid backing for your pursuit of freedom. You want to travel, carry a bag, pick up a bicycle, travel the world on your own, and see for yourself what the earth is like!

Then let me ask you, before playing, you can't even get the basic travel expenses, what should you do? Even if you use your parents' money to go out, and wait until after the play, you will be tired and tired. What do you do?

Your parents can't afford to provide you with financial **, and you can't support the family because you haven't practiced hard, what should you do?

First of all, you should first establish yourself as an absolute subject in the universe.

Zi said: If you have spare energy, you will learn to write.

Whether you are or will be engaged in a social profession, it is not enough to spend all your energy and continue to devote your excess energy to the study of philosophy, science, history and art. (I personally recommend that Chinese learn Chinese philosophy first.) To understand the world, we must first understand China. ）

You are now a first-year student in the School of Finance, which is positive. It should be your profession, and it will most likely be your means of livelihood in the future!

Albert Einstein once said: The meaning of existence is to contribute more to society.

To correct a mistake: the meaning of survival is definitely not to die! Can you say something similar to the great man, what else is there to think about? Side bottom dispels such negative thoughts.

Zi said: If you don't suffer from others, you don't know yourself, and you don't know people when you suffer.

Don't think too highly of yourself. Don't worry that others will bury your knowledge, but worry that you don't know much about it. That way, they don't know how to think about life and the meaning of life, and maybe they know a lot more than you do.

Don't think too low of yourself. It is unwise to take the initiative to reduce oneself to the level of an animal. There is no shame in being an ordinary person, workers, peasants, teachers, and doctors ......Most ordinary people are quietly contributing to society, and we enjoy their contributions all the time.

Can you say that their lives have no meaning?

I've read your question all the time, and you didn't mention your parents. You're not ignoring them, are you? Continue to be your youth for the time being, and become a saint later!

No one has their own beliefs, and it's good to find an ideal for yourself, but there's also a problem. It's the ideal choice. You should know that ideals are the foundation that supports the soul, if it is too simple, how can your mind be strong?

But if it's too hard or can't be done, you'll lose hope. In the end, nothing was gained. So this method is also a dead end.

Finally, there is faith. To be honest, this method is actually the best reason that there is no need for hypocrisy, I am only fighting for myself! ”

When I was a child, I said that we should read 100,000 whys, and when we grow up, there are always various reasons for us to do all kinds of things, and we are used to giving ourselves a reason, especially when we need this reason, but it is the inertia of self-will that needs a reason that defeats us, why, why, everything has to be why, in fact, why do we have to do it simply, do it seriously, do it seriously. Because there is a need for a reason, there are often too many reasons to not do any one thing well. Do you need a reason to do a good job, as a student, do you need a reason, do you need a reason, and doing anything that you should do well at that stage is a happy thing, isn't that enough?

Because you need a reason, you can't find a reason, because you need a reason, and there are too many reasons. Lost himself.

You also have a reason to work hard, you yourself say that you want to learn to cook, travel, so to do this, you must have a job that can take vacations and pay not less to support you to do what you like. Everyone has a time when they are confused, in fact, think about it, do what you must and can do, you can do what you want to do, so some processes are necessary. Sometimes the effort is to gain more freedom!