Why do people who are more capable tend to be less social in life?

We are born as independent individuals, with our own thoughts and attitudes. In this large group of society, you have to learn to deal with other people, different people have different opinions, when others and yourself disagree, will you stick to your own ideas, or "forget it"?

For those who have their own thoughts, or insist on themselves when they disagree with them, they are often labeled as unsociables, and are considered withdrawn and eccentric by nature, and few people communicate with them.

People who don't fit in are lonely on the surface, people who fit in are lonely on the inside, and those who live well are usually those who don't. Seriously, the more capable people are, the more "unsocial" they are

Will not be assimilated by group consciousness.

When I went to dinner with a group of friends, we were stuck in a dilemma about what to eat. One person suggested that we should go to the buffet anyway, and the other person chimed in, and gradually everyone acquiesced to the buffet.

And in your heart, you don't want to eat a buffet, so you put forward your true thoughts. In the eyes of everyone else, they will think that you are very unsociable, and they all say that they will go to the buffet together, but you are not attached.

But have you done something wrong? You didn't, and there must have been others in that pile of friends who didn't want to eat buffets, but only you brought it up. At this time, you can do what you want to do, you don't need to cater to the preferences of others and do what you don't want to do, and spend more time on yourself, instead of following the tide and being assimilated by the group consciousness.

Stick to your heart and have your own clear goals.

You can disagree with someone who disagrees with you, but you should respect the right of the other person to express their thoughts. A truly capable person will respect others and stick to his own ideas when he disagrees with them.

Because they know too well what they want and have a clear goal, even if everyone is on the opposite side of him, they will not wonder if they are wrong. If there is no goal in life, it is no different from salted fish. It's easy to stick to your heart, but when you're really in a certain environment, many times you feel like you're different, and when that time comes, will you remember what you thought in your heart?

The more capable people are, the less social they are, because they have a clear goal for what they want to pursue, and they will not easily give up their true thoughts because they are questioned by others, and they will not be assimilated by group consciousness, and they dare not put forward their opinions because they are afraid of the strange eyes of others. If you don't conform to the crowd and can stick to your heart, it sounds simple, but it is not easy to achieve.

Because such people have a unique way of thinking, and they don't have much common language with ordinary people, the stronger their ability, the more unsociable they are in life, which is also a very normal phenomenon.

The more capable people are, the more gregarious they tend to be in life, because they are naturally cheerful and self-acquainted, able to treat others as friends, they generally have high emotional intelligence and know how to fit into different circles.

Because of his outstanding ability, others can't keep up with his pace, and the people around him can't compare to him, so he goes alone, and people with poor ability can only do it if they are gregarious.

Because these people are very capable, they feel that they don't need to rely on others and only rely on themselves to do things.

Because the more capable people are, they tend to live well on their own and are not willing to spend time catering to others.

People who are really capable often don't fit in in these three aspects, and they will grow up a lot after watching it.

1. The more capable colleagues are at work, the more afraid they are of wasting time.

In the eyes of colleagues with strong grasp ability, the harvest of a job must be proportional to the investment, if you want to do a good job, you must invest a lot of time, so these colleagues attach great importance to time, but for their own career development, resulting in a lot of their time wasted, especially some meaningless entertainment, is very reluctant to participate, if you don't go, you will not give the other party, go is a pure waste of time; Therefore, you should deal with these competent colleagues and try not to waste their time so that you can manage the relationship.

Second, the more capable colleagues at work, the more they are afraid of doing things that will not produce results.

The reason why a person is very capable is that he must pay more attention to the results of his work, and in the eyes of these colleagues, all things that have no results are a waste of time; Then I am worried, through my own efforts, I have also put in hard work, I am very afraid that things will not be done well, and I am always afraid that it is a meaningless thing to lack bright skin; Therefore, without this kind of thinking in the workplace, it is difficult to have the ability to mix well in the workplace.

Third, the more capable colleagues at work, the more afraid of the complicated relationship between everyone.

At work, the relationship between everyone should be dealt with, but it is also necessary to prevent everyone's relationship from being too complicated, once the relationship between colleagues is very complicated, you will waste a lot of your time to deal with this matter, it is easy to cause yourself to be unable to concentrate on doing things, for many capable colleagues, it is very annoying that the relationship is too complicated; Therefore, when getting along with everyone, it is important to pay attention to the quality of the relationship, rather than more colleague relationships.

They will not have their own ideas and collude with others, so communication efficiency is low. This is also the advantage of the powerful, so the truth is in the hands of the few. Such people are mavericks, and others can't keep up with the pace.

If others can't keep up with the pace, the ability to start a business alone will be admired in my heart. It's not just the other party who hurts, it's also not going with the flow and concentrating on what you like.

Usually these people study in their spare time. May be reluctant to take the time to cater to others and not have to be as attached to others as they are. Indifference to strangers is because they don't want to be distracted, because they have their own opinions, those who don't follow the crowd.

But one day, you will find that such a person is very special in learning, maverick, and will make friends with himself.

This is not necessarily, some people are not social because they are selfish or have a bad temper, or they are introverted, etc.

Often alone, have the ability to think alone, be able to solve everything by yourself, and often soak in the library, Yu Jianbo's logical thinking ability is clear and vertical, and his language expression skills are very good.

People who don't fit in, they are either very capable, or they are more withdrawn, then this kind of person, her work ability is relatively strong.

Because people who don't fit in, they are more assertive, will follow their own hearts to live, and will not be swayed by other people's opinions, so such people will live better.

Unless there is a communication barrier, there will be aphasia after a few years of misfit.

People who don't fit in tend to be more successful, because such people are able to have their own unique way of thinking and can take a different path, so such people live better.

What is the purpose of our social circle?

Aside from the glamorous, the most essential reason is to "huddle together for warmth" and get resources from others to the greatest extent.

Of course, if everyone is like this, then in order to get someone else's resources, then you have to share your own resources.

That's the essence of being gregarious, trading!

So why do some people fit in?

If people have much more resources than you have, and don't have your resources at all, do they still need to exchange them with you?

If your so-called resources are not of value to him at all, will he still exchange them with you? For example, you live next to an influencer store. Many people often ask you to bring some goods.

And there is a person who also lives nearby, is it necessary for him to ask you to bring the goods? Or maybe someone doesn't like the products in that online celebrity store at all, will he ask you to bring the goods? The answer, of course, is no!

There are also some people who do not quite conform to the general trend of their three views, so they will also be incompatible with most people. For example, most people like to show off their abilities in front of their bosses. If someone is willing to tout you in front of their boss, they must cater to a lot of people.

But have you ever seen someone who overbragged in front of his boss because his friend helped him shoot Sima Fart, and ended up turning his face with his friend?

Therefore, the reason why people who do not fit in will live better is also very simple!

Second, people who don't fit in tend to be independent, and independence also requires capital. So, often people who don't fit in, are more capable!

Third, people who do not fit in are principled and not easily disturbed by others. This kind of person often has a sharper sense of observation, deeper insight and rapid execution, so the probability of success is higher!

Fourth, people who don't fit in don't start out with it. They have not only tasted the benefits of being gregarious, but they have also tasted the harm of being gregarious. Therefore, this kind of person knows better how to grasp the relationship and distance between people.

They are unsociable, not by cutting themselves off from others, but by keeping a proper distance. This is the result of "evolution"!

In other words, people who don't fit in and people who like to fit in are two levels of people!