How to protect yourself more tactfully?

Don't criticize others. We should try to maintain a friendly attitude at all times, and do not try to criticize others behind our backs, but should try to protect those around us.

We should try to keep a low profile, some things do not necessarily have to be shown even if we understand them, there is a saying called "the gun shoots the first bird", we should be careful not to be injured by mistake.

People who value others, whether it is superficial respect or actual respect in their hearts, at least they will not easily look down on others. A person who looks down on others every day must have edges and corners, so we can't say that he is a very smooth person.

In terms of attitude towards people, we should try to maintain a balanced relationship, not easily stand in line, if we follow the wrong person, it is likely that we will never get ahead.

He especially knows the art of speaking. They won't say a word, because after saying no words, if you can't do what you boasted about at the time, you will be very unable to get off the stage, and this kind of failure to get off the stage will make you ridiculed by many people, and even lose the trust of some people.

In many things, if you take a stand, it means that you are on the side of a certain side, although you may not be right about the person, and it is easy to be misunderstood by others.

When we speak, we must pay attention to leave room and not fill the speech, otherwise, once it cannot be realized, how should we deal with it?

The day of the beginning is the time of destruction! Be able to borrow from others.

People who are low-key and know how to smile and bow their heads are smart people. The ancients said that low water is king. Only by learning to act in a low-key manner, to be a low-key person, and not to be too public, can we go longer on the road of life.

When getting along with others, if you want to protect yourself, then you must learn to be smarter, don't tell others everything, and leave a way out for yourself in everything.

Don't speak ill of others behind your back, never trust your friends at work too much, refuse someone who invites you to dinner for no reason, and don't be afraid of being blamed.

When getting along, you must protect yourself, have principles and bottom lines, and when you encounter some unfair treatment, you should be brave enough to speak out and don't wronged yourself.

For novices, it is recommended to read some easy-to-understand books first, like a book that beginners can understand when you look at it in a bookstore, and I feel that "Learn Character Color with Lejia" is not bad, and there is one more way to look at people after reading it, and then you can look at the workplace **, such as "Du Lala's Promotion", which can basically allow you to deal with life in life. If you have a small success, you can read a book on psychology, and only by understanding the psychology of others can you cope better. In fact, it is difficult to say that it is difficult to live in the world, it is simple to say that it is simple, some people are born to communicate with the material, some people are not good at communication, for example, me, I was very afraid of seeing people when I was a child, and I gradually went to socialize in high school, as long as I communicate more and know more people, you can know what to do to this person, what to do to that person, understand their likes and dislikes, do not do to others what you do not want.

Books are indispensable in theory, practice is more important, to make sincere friends, first of all, you must dig out your heart and lungs, become a sincere friend, the general small mistakes are not counted, as long as you do not make mistakes in the route, then this is a matter of course. For ordinary friends, they often come out to exchange feelings or chat online. For the leader, try to let him know you, and even call him a brother, understand his preferences, and don't commit his taboos.

The above is just a drop in the bucket, and after reading the book, you will know how deep and interesting the knowledge is.

Oh, and also take a look at some taboos in the workplace and officialdom, the knowledge of gift-giving and the art of speaking, as long as you get these things done, then you are a professional in the workplace.

This person must be in black and white, get along with gray scale, must grasp this measure, advance and retreat in a certain way, abide by the principle, neither make simple words, nor secretively, know the world but not the world, out of the rivers and lakes and far away from the rivers and lakes.

If you are generous, don't make friends with people who like the AA system.

How to behave in the world? Stay away from situations that make you feel unhappy; Stay away from places where there is no value for growth.

Reservations: Excessive arguments are not helpful and unself-contained. In general, one should not rush to express one's attitude or express one's opinion, leaving people uncertain. Cautious silence is shrewd evasion.

In April 1927, Du Yuesheng, ** Rong and Zhang Xiaolin organized the Chinese Communist Association. On the evening of April 11, he booby-trapped Wang Shouhua, the leader of the Communist Party workers in Shanghai, so that the Communist workers' armed forces were quickly suppressed the next day, that is, the purging of the party, which the Communist Party called the "April 12 Incident".

1. If you want to see a person, it is best to look at the way he does things to others and his ideas, which will be more real and profound than what he shows when he does things to you. But the problem is that people often don't think about it.

2. When you are not used to a person, don't directly oppose him, it is an irrational approach to disclose the contradictions between yourself and others, and you must learn to avoid and prevent the occurrence of this contradiction, and at the same time, the most clever way to deal with the person who is opposed to you is to pass on this unaccustomed feeling to others and transfer the contradiction to others.

3. Say the advantages of others as much as possible behind your back, pay attention to your words and deeds, and say less bad things about others. Easier said than done, it's harder for me, and I have to try to correct it.

4. Don't be afraid to do the wrong thing, you have to do it decisively after thinking about some big things, don't let intuition hinder you, and don't let inertia hold you back. (This is my most common mistake).

5. After doing things, don't discuss with others or worry about what others say about you, let alone explain to others, unless you are a necessary person, don't think about it repeatedly.

6. The view on some things, I think it is more profound, remind myself to use it more when dealing with practical problems, there is no need to share it with colleagues, this is a manifestation of quality, we must learn to choke some ideas in our hearts, do not say it easily.

7. Think more about everything, take more ideas, and don't easily change your statements and practices.

8. Loopholes in the system are not necessarily bad, you can make up for them by grasping the way of leadership ideas, and through ways and methods that are beneficial to you.

9. When thinking about problems, the starting point is to put on your own interests rather than your own feelings, as long as your interests are not damaged, don't easily retaliate against others, winning without a fight is the highest state of dealing with relationships, don't think about others too simply, you can think of others can definitely think of it, and you must learn to keep empathy.

10. Don't be afraid that others will think of you as a fool, the key is not to be a fool yourself. This is the city.

11. The leader must not be coerced on the issue of treatment, but the leader can be reminded.

12. Look at what you want to complain about as the problem you are facing, what you think about is how you can make the development of the situation move in your favor under various complex game rules, and those things that you have no way to control and solve or even affect should rationally remind yourself not to think about it, because in your current situation, complaining about it is like complaining about your birth, which is not positive at all.

13. When dealing with some interests and things, we should pay attention to the technique and long-term, and we should not be blind and hasty.