Should I ask my boyfriend about the past?

Updated on society 2024-05-20
32 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    If he wants to tell you, he will naturally say If he doesn't want to mention it, if you ask him, he will have different degrees of disgust, you can ask temptingly, just once, if he says it, just say it, don't say it, don't force it, everyone has their own past, they have a comfort zone in their own hearts, if he is willing to put some things at ease, whether it is reminiscing or doing his own growth precipitation, you want him to take it out and show it to you, he will feel that he is hollowed out, he will be insecure, he will be uncomfortable, if you have only known each other for a short time, you are not very familiar with it, so you want to understand his past I think you can see your friends around you, and they're usually the same kind of people, and as for you, the friend who looks at him with your eyes is a bystander, and you can see what he looks like.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Wait for him to take the initiative to tell you!

    If you ask directly, he might get angry.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    You just find an appropriate opportunity, just mention it a little, if he wants to talk to you, he will naturally tell you, if he doesn't want to say it, don't mention it, save him from being unhappy

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    What is the significance of the past, you ask? Can you guarantee that you won't have an idea after listening to it? Who has no past, the past only belongs to the past, it is impossible to become the present and the future, you have to grasp the present and the future and not let them become the past.

    What's the use of caring about things that have become facts but don't make much sense?

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    If you think it doesn't matter, you don't need to ask, if you feel like you can't get over it, just ask. With each other, it's important to be honest.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Wonder? If your boyfriend really loves you, he should tell you what you ask, but you will definitely be unhappy. Because he's talking about a past with someone he likes.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    The past is the past, the present is the present, and since the past has become the past, why hold on to the past? There are many benefits to not holding on to the past, so let me tell you, why don't you talk about the past?

    Everyone goes through some stories, some setbacks, maybe because of something, maybe because of something, maybe because of some people. When you decide to be with this guy, it's actually a new beginning. Every day after you get together is a new story, as for your boyfriend having some emotional experience, this is a normal thing, and the person who can ask this question should be a girl who has no emotional experience, so I'll tell you why you don't ask your boyfriend about your emotional experience.

    If you ask your boyfriend about his emotional experience, curiosity kills the cat, and I believe everyone should have heard it. If your boyfriend tells you about his relationship experience, there are two consequences. First, you will wonder if your boyfriend is sincere to you, and then you will experience every day together, and you will think in your heart, he and his exes have also experienced it, so are you very uncomfortable?

    Another result is that you are generous and receptive, depending on your personality, if your personality is frank and straightforward, then you will only listen to your boyfriend's past, and will not take it completely to heart. If you are a sensitive, suspicious person, then after you know what your boyfriend has been through, these things about him will become some dynamite for your later life.

    Most girls will cause a series of troubles because of their boyfriend's emotional experience, because they can't do it without thinking about the previous things, so if you can't accept it calmly, don't ask your boyfriend's emotional experience, because he may be immature, and now he has become mature, as long as he is good to you, you can feel that he loves you, this is enough, there is no need to affect your emotional score for him because of past events, If you want to know his emotional experience, you just want to know if you are the most special in his heart, in fact, you don't have to care too much about these things, don't worry about some small things, your life will be better, you just cherish your current boyfriend, don't know too many things, it's not much good.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Because I am very sad after asking clearly, I will pay special attention to the other party's emotional experience, and the two of them will quarrel because of this matter.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Because his boyfriend doesn't want to remember the hurt he once caused, when he recalls, he will remember how he was hurt at that time.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Don't ask your boyfriend about her past emotional experience, mainly because it is easy to arouse her pain about the previous relationship, I think when you are with your boyfriend, he really likes you, you must tolerate her past, so that you will be happy together.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Because every boy has his own privacy, if that relationship has passed, it means that he has given up his former girlfriend and just wants to manage the relationship with you.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Because once you ask him about his past emotional experience, he will think about it again, the girl he once loved and the bits and pieces of that girl, didn't you push him to that girl's side? So don't ask your boyfriend about his past relationship experience.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Hello, because everyone has their own past, it's just that some people are willing to say it, some people are unwilling to mention it, and you choose only the person in the future, so if the other party doesn't want to mention it, don't get to the bottom of it.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Why bother and ask for trouble! If you want to say that he will naturally say that the two of them have been together for a long time, they will naturally know it slowly. But don't dig and ask, don't pay too much attention, don't talk about it all day.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Don't ask your boyfriend about his past relationship experience, why? ...Because after you know those details, your heart will only be more uncomfortable, so why bother to be unhappy. This is the right attitude towards your boyfriend's relationship history:

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    Because your boyfriend's emotional experience has passed, if you ask in great detail, it will only hurt the feelings of both of you.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    After asking, you will be sad, so it is better not to ask.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    : The past is gone, and the most important thing is your present and future. It's easy for a woman to try to ask about the other person's love history because she cares about her boyfriend, but in fact, if you are generous, the other party will be honest with you.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Hello, if your boyfriend always asks you about the past, you tell him, if you don't want to date me, then pull it down, the past is in the past, it's normal to fall in love, it's not that you can choose to get married if you fall in love once, and of course you won't get married if you don't meet the right person. If you can accept that you have a relationship in the past, you don't want him to have too many problems, if you tell him everything, it is possible that he will look down on you, so don't say what you shouldn't say. After all, it's his past, because he accepts you now, and now he doesn't accept your past.

    So there's no need to tell him too much about the past. When he knows everything about your past, he will dislike you even more, so don't mention it if you shouldn't mention it.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    When your boyfriend asks you about your past, you can have some reservations and don't tell him everything. If he doesn't say it right, he will be angry or jealous, and it will eventually affect your relationship.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    First of all, the one in love does not need to take the initiative to confess his love history to the other party, and even the word confession is too humble, it should be said that there is no need to take the initiative to tell the other party his love history.

    Secondly, if the other party asks about your past love history, you can tell the other party generously and truthfully, there is a key point here, that is, you can't lie.

    For example, if the other person asks if they have a history of cohabitation.

    If you really have this experience, tell the other person truthfully, yes, it's okay.

    The key point here is, let's be honest.

    The reason is very simple, most people don't just fall in love, they meet the right person after experiencing a person, and thus enter the palace of marriage.

    Everyone will experience some people, some good people, some bad people, and finally become their current self, and in the same way, falling in love with anyone is a past tense, just their own past tense.

    We don't take the initiative to say it, because the past feelings belong only to us, and there is no right or wrong in it, so we don't need to apologize or repent to the current one.

    When asked, let's be honest, the attitude here is that I like my current and I am willing to share my past with him, whether it is good or bad, the past is a part of me.

    If the incumbent can accept my past, we'll be together well.

    If the incumbent can't accept my past, we'll part peacefully.

    The words may have been fierce at the time, but I was true to the present, because only the present can accept the true self and be qualified to spend the rest of my life with me.

    Remember, don't lie when your partner asks about your love history.

    Because if once a lie is told, first of all, a confession bureau becomes a deception, and some people may say, it is a lie told to keep the other person, but a lie is a lie, and you did deceive your object in that situation.

    The second and most important point is that this lie may become a time bomb in your future life, if it is detonated at a certain moment, the result that the other party cares about plus deception is actually a double blow, and the consequences will be very serious.

    But if you tell the truth, it is equivalent to letting two people solve the bomb at the moment, and the two people communicate smoothly, maybe the bomb can be successfully defused right now.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    My boyfriend asks me about my relationship experience, then I will tell my boyfriend what I have been through, and if this man is truly in love with me, I am sure he will not care about what happened to me before.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    I would tell my boyfriend about my emotional experience and the pain and frustration I had suffered emotionally, and then I would say that this would be fine.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I will tell my boyfriend that the previous relationship experience is over, and I don't want to think about it anymore, and I hope my boyfriend will not ask again.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    I think I'll tell my boyfriend. But some sensitive topics will be reserved and will only tell the boyfriend the general content.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    After all, everyone wants to be the only special one in someone else's heart, don't lie, just need to tell him something about your past properly, and there is no need to say everything.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Find a suitable opportunity to explain honestly to your boyfriend, explain the reason for the breakup, and like your current boyfriend, which is conducive to the long-term development of two people, and don't say it again after saying it once.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I'll probably tell my boyfriend from beginning to end, because I think it's important for both people to be honest.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    I might say that the previous things are in the past, and I don't remember much about them, and I want to start from scratch.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    I'll probably tell you the truth, because there is no need to hide these feelings, they all belong to the past.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    It is recommended to reply to the other party humorously, why bother with these, let the past things go away with the wind, why break the casserole and ask in the end, this is asking for trouble.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    Tell him about it, tell him about himself, if he accepts it, he will be happy, and if he can't accept it, sooner or later, he will let him know.

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