Do you know how to speak well? Can you talk well?

Speak well = high emotional intelligence.

It's true. Generally, people with low emotional intelligence will try all kinds of ways to improve themselves by hitting others.

Such a person is "not good at talking".

Poisonous tongue. To tell the truth, you're not acting, there's no need to be vicious.

Poisonous tongue, commonly known as "shaking wit".

How can a clever shake get people's attention?

Of course, it's by suppressing others.

In daily life, the consequences of suppressing others can be very serious.

When you meet a good-natured person, you will be scolded for a few words, and the two sides will have an unpleasant quarrel;

People with a bad temper will resort directly to force, don't believe it.

Speak well and remember: don't have a poisonous tongue.

Gossip. Gossip is a weakness of human nature.

Otherwise, why. Care for the growth of celebrities gossip association.

Financial gossip girl.

These are all red and purple, rich and oily.

Why? Because gossip will reveal a person's privacy.

It can satisfy people's curiosity.

In the company, if you like to gossip about people, do you think you will be popular?

Especially those newcomers in the workplace who refine the gossip leadership, they are directly reminded by their colleagues every minute.

In the future, who will dare to tell you important news?

Speak well and remember: don't gossipTo be continued).

We have heard a lot of sayings, "strict teachers produce high apprentices", "filial piety comes out under the stick", as if strict or even strict can cultivate excellent talents. But we have also heard "good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June." This is where the magic of language comes in.

When I was a child, there were not many opportunities to listen to the praise of my family, and some people said to their parents, "Your girl is so white, so cute", "What is white, that's yellow"; Someone said, "Ni is good at studying", and then there is a reply, "Ni is studying well now, but she can't go to the senior grade......Father is also a variety of blows, from appearance to temperament, as if after a blow, and then say "you just can't stand the wind and rain", the heart will be very happy. I don't want to talk more about the education methods of my parents, after all, they have a low level of education, and they love their children by instinct, and it is inevitable that they will not do enough.

For me, this caused me to have low self-esteem for a long time. I always feel that I am not beautiful, that my body is not good, that I am not talented enough, that I am not good at anything. Later, I fell in love with reading in the days of loneliness and inferiority, and reading built my self-confidence, and I no longer put other people's evaluations above my personal pursuits.

When Jane Eyre said: Yes, I am ordinary and not beautiful, but when we come to God through the grave, we are equal. Yes, equally.

Later, I believed in equality, no matter who you are, as long as you can talk to each other as equals and get along with each other as equals. I found my own self-esteem and belief. It's just that the influence of the original family will always backfire.

Self-confidence and self-esteem are perhaps so contradictory for most people. Sometimes, I know how to encourage, and sometimes I can hit hard. Sometimes it's warm like spring, and sometimes it's inevitably anxious.

Talking well, sometimes it's hard. Home will hurt people, and this is not deceiving. Every child comes to the world, may have the shadow of innate genes, but the acquired education is also crucial, parents change the child's change, adults should always adjust the state first, their own pressure, emotions to dissolve, with a peaceful attitude to face the child's growth process of various problems.

To be a mature adult, to be an adult who keeps growing, to build a healthy home for your child, to give him a sense of security, to teach him the ability to deal with problems, all of this needs to start with good talking.

When you are able to speak well, be emotionally stable, have a calm attitude, and firmly tell him what is the right thing to do, I think the reception is much better than yelling.

In the past two years, I have learned a lot of things, and my understanding of myself is relatively profound, while thinking about how to adjust my state, while thinking about how to give children a more rational education, I know that I am not good enough, but I am willing to change, everything can happen.

1. Speaking well is a compulsory course in life.

Everyone has their own habitual tone of speech, which can reflect a person's heart, and others can feel his attitude towards people and things from a person's tone.

A good tone will make people gain good popularity; A bad tone will only make people farther away from themselves. People who speak in a good tone know how to take care of others; A person who speaks in a good tone is one who takes people to heart. People who speak in a good tone will take the feelings of others to heart.

Such a person will bring kindness to others and reap kindness from others.

Therefore, people with a good tone will have a wider and wider path in life.

Sometimes, the tone of a person's speech is more important than the content of the speech. I don't know if you have ever had the experience of when you ask someone for help, he always ignores him, speaks in a cold tone, and sends you away in a few words.

After that, even if I encountered a difficult problem, I was reluctant to ask him for help. Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. Words can be heartwarming or sad.

If the same sentence is said in a different tone, the listener will also have different feelings. When we talk to someone, we can judge whether his attitude towards us is good or bad by his tone. A perfunctory person will not speak in a sincere tone; Sincere people, the tone of speech will not be perfunctory.

When you have good thoughts, you will speak well. Only when the heart is peaceful and tolerant, the tone of speech will be good. Speaking well reflects respect and consideration for others.

Second, speaking is not only art, but also learning.

A wise and sensible person knows how to speak more appropriately. Many times, we can see from the tone of a person's speech, his attitude, cultivation and quality, as well as his emotional intelligence. When a person speaks, he can control his tone very well, and such a person must have a high emotional intelligence.

It has been said, "Subtlety and propriety in conversation are more valuable than words." "Whether a person is talking well or not can be heard from the tone.

People who usually speak in a good tone must not have low emotional intelligence, and they are also more wise in dealing with the world.

The ancient adage says: "If you say too much, you will lose, and disaster will come from the mouth." Speaking well is a lifelong obligation.

People who can control their tone of voice will know how to speak calmly, no matter what their emotions are or how stressful they are.

A good tone can make people feel like a spring breeze, and it can also make people get twice the result with half the effort. May you use gentle language to welcome your own good fortune.

Everyone can speak, but not everyone can speak well.

Speaking well is a kind of cultivation, but also a kind of ability.

A person who can speak well must be a very powerful person.

People who can't speak well will inevitably lack cultivation and ability.

Observe the people around you, and you will find that the more capable people are, the less they will be able to speak well. On the contrary, most of those powerful forces will speak well and rarely lose their temper.

So, how do you speak well?

Read more books, read books that manage emotions, and read books that can improve personal cultivation. People who read a lot tend to be emotionally stable. Emotional stability also has the basis for speaking well.

Learn more and improve your personal abilities. The stronger the ability, the better you can speak, so if you continue to improve your ability, you will be able to speak well.

Talking well is not to stuff the other party into the corner, and to say that the other party is slow and auspicious, that is not called to speak well, Tongyou to speak well is that both parties are satisfied, and the bureau is comfortable, there is a saying in the past in the rivers and lakes, called Vientiane to return to spring, you say that everyone is happy, this thing is easy to do, I will tell you from the bottom of my heart, communication is 70% emotion, 30% is content, this thing is very difficult to do, but I said, you are very happy.