I ve been married for three years, but my husband is still very ignorant of life, what should I do?

Updated on society 2024-05-24
23 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Boys are very naïve, although it is men who dominate this society, and they bear much greater responsibilities than women, but although they are very capable in their careers, it does not mean that they are necessarily very mature. Every boy will become a little child in front of the person he loves very much, and he will become very naïve in front of the person he loves, this is their true face.

    Most people accept the idea that girls must find a boy who is a few years older than themselves when looking for a significant other, because girls will be much more stable and mature than boys. After three years of marriage, your husband is still very ignorant of life, then you should feel very tired, because the man in a family is too naïve will make the woman feel very tired, I think you can talk to your husband about this issue appropriately, and when the two of you are together, you tell him all your thoughts, so that he knows that he feels very uncomfortable in such a state. You should also think about your husband's living environment since he was a child, whether he has been spoiled by his family since he was a child, so he has become very naïve.

    A man is tired of working hard in society, they will also be spoiled by the person they love, they want to find a force that can comfort them, I think no matter whether he is naïve or not, as long as he can take on the responsibility of the family, this is the best, because in life, if a boy is so naïve that he can't bear the responsibility of the family, it is really sad.

    In this real society, you don't have to think too much about complicated things, you have to live for yourself, and you have to be responsible for your own life, you have to always remember that you are an independent subject and do not live for others, so if there is something that makes you uncomfortable, you just talk to the other party to see if the other party's attitude will make you feel satisfied. If you don't want to stay in this situation, then make peace and observe his attitude.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    If you still don't know anything about your husband's life after three years of marriage, I think it may be because of the blind date, both of them have been introduced to each other by the elders of the family or relatives and friends, and they don't know each other before being introduced to the blind date, and after the blind date, they haven't gotten along and understood each other for a long time, and they get married relatively quickly, so they are not very familiar with each other's private lives and friends.

    In this case, you should first pay more attention to each other, since you are married, then you should live together. Pay more attention to what the other person is usually doing? You are a family, and you should still see it as a whole when necessary, and you can't always do your own thing.

    When you are together, you can talk more about a certain topic, exchange your thoughts and opinions with each other, and promote the relationship between each other.

    Learn more about the things that the other person likes, usually a person's free time will be a series of activities around the things he likes. You may also be surprised to find that the things he likes are also your favorites. This way you will have a general idea of his life.

    Get to know more of his friends, like things gather, people divide your other half and his friends, there are likely to be many similarities. Find out what they usually do.

    Finally, if you have the ability, understand and learn what your partner is working on, so that you can help him when he is in trouble. It will also be more understanding of his life at work.

    These are some of the suggestions I have given you, and I hope they will help you, and I hope that your marriage can get along more harmoniously and be happier.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Then you have to take the time to get to know him, get into his heart, and then integrate into his life. I often gossip with my husband about the troubles that happened when we were children, and our relationship has slowly narrowed between laughter and laughter, which is a win-win.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    I think your husband is just not mature enough, maybe he still has too little experience. In fact, you should be patient with your husband, and you can guide him in the right direction when he is about to make a mistake.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    This needs to be a constant wake-up call to my husband, let him know what his responsibilities are, so that he doesn't live so ridiculously anymore.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    If you have been married to your husband for three years, but you don't feel happy, you can also see at this time whether your expectations are too high, or your husband is not good enough for yourself.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    You must know that family life after marriage needs to be run by two people, while you don't feel happy, your husband may also feel this way, you can take the initiative to create happiness for yourself, care more about your husband in life, let him be physically and psychologically dependent on you, and he will be good to you.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Hello, happy to answer your questions. You've been married for three years and don't have any feelings. It means that you are together, and it is a mistake. It's a mutual torture and you should learn to let go. Don't let yourself be miserable for the rest of your life. Living in this mutual torment.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    Cultivate some common hobbies. The reason why you used to be unhappy was because you interacted too little with your husband, so cultivating some common hobbies can deepen the communication between each other and enhance the relationship between two people.

    Find ways to make yourself better. If you want to make life interesting, you must have enough ability, and the improvement of yourself is a shortcut, you can make yourself have a new mental outlook by working hard to fitness, you can also enrich your connotation through learning, and in the process of learning, you can also understand some deeper truths, which is also helpful to get along with the other half. At the same time, don't give up your work, strive for the top, and make a breakthrough in your work, which is also the embodiment of your value.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    It is recommended that you calm down and objectively think about yourself first, whether you have done it to make your husband full of happiness. Only by comparing the heart with the heart can we communicate better, and good communication can create a happy family.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Unhappiness means that the relationship foundation is not good, it means that the other party has not entered your heart, and the two of you don't get along and communicate very well, so you have to reflect on it, what the problem is, and then you can only change it from your own side to affect the relationship between the two of you.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    First, you have to keep it clear why the two of you are not happy, second, you have to find out if he really loves you, if he really loves you, he will give you happiness, if he really doesn't love you, then maybe the two of you are really not happy, but if you really want to keep this relationship, you can choose to talk to him, if you really can't get by, then you can choose to divorce.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    Some people have said that marriage is like a career, it needs to be managed, I don't know under what circumstances you got married, and you weren't happy together before you got married? What does the happiness you need look like, everyone's perception and requirements for happiness are different. If your own family conditions and personal abilities are good, whether you have children or not, you can consider divorce.

    Divorce is to give yourself a chance to find a better one. If you don't have the courage to divorce, especially if you have children, it is recommended that you change yourself first, so that you can become better and have more chances of happiness. If the other half is around, create more opportunities for two people to be together, and if you care about each other very much, try to become what he likes.

    Separated from each other, he went out and ran to his city without any obstruction. In fact, those couples who have been happy for a long time are not plain when they look closely?

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    You and your husband have been married for three years, but you don't feel happy, this is actually a phenomenon that many people will have, the love life after marriage is originally a return to the plain, just like boiling water, so don't worry too much, you just need to enrich your spare time, you can learn something you are interested in at ordinary times.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Then you have to sort out the problems of the two of you first, what is the reason for the unhappiness? Is there a reason for both of them? What are they? And then make changes based on these problems.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    You and your husband have been married for three years, but you don't feel happy, this situation has to analyze the reasons that make you feel unhappy between you, and then try to solve it, and if you can't solve it, you can only choose divorce.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    It mainly depends on you and your husband, whether the two of you really love each other sincerely, and whether your husband really cares about you? Trust you, if he really does this, you should feel happy, and if your husband doesn't do it, you can communicate with your husband, understand his thoughts, and then find a way to solve the problem.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You and your husband have been married for three years, and you yourself don't feel happy, what should you do, first of all, you have to find the problem between you, why is the unhappiness material dissatisfaction or the husband and wife are not satisfied, you have to find the problem before you can determine the solution.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    One: Expectations turn into disappointment.

    When a woman stays at home for three years, she will be completely derailed from society. Times are changing, and if you can't keep up with the rhythm, you will be eliminated by society. When a woman first gets married, she has a job and money**, so she will naturally dress up beautifully and be intellectually generous.

    But after staying in marriage for a long time, the only thing that can be discussed between a woman and a man is housework and money. From the previous dream, falling into the abyss of reality, men will turn from expectation to disappointment, and more and more disgusted with women's chatter. In the end, the in-laws were satisfied, but the husband was bored.

    Two: I hope that someone will share the burden.

    Marriage is not about marrying a "little ancestor" and going home, and no man really wants his wife to stay at home and only spend his own money. The in-laws want their daughter-in-law to stay, because they are afraid that the daughter-in-law's ambition is too big and she has made achievements in her career, and her heart will deviate from the family. But the husband wants to have a wife who can share the burden of the family with him, instead of a person who revolves around his parents all day long, but has no financial ** and increases his own burden.

    Therefore, when the wife does not go out to work and asks her husband for money, she will gradually get bored.

    Three: How to solve the problem of going to work?

    1: Deal with each case on a case-by-case basis. Women inevitably get married and have children, if it is three years before giving birth, you can indeed consider not going to work and fighting.

    The child is still young and needs the company of adults, and it is the enlightenment period, so it will be better for the parents to take it with them. At this time, the mother-in-law did not let her go to work, which is understandable, and she communicated with her husband in time to let him understand the importance.

    2: Communicate with your in-laws to let the elderly understand that her husband is under pressure if he doesn't go to work. The in-laws feel very sorry for their son, especially after marrying their daughter-in-law, they will be more partial to their son.

    Because one person raises a family, this tiredness is not only the body, but also the heart. In this regard, the daughter-in-law can start from this aspect and tell the stakes. Let the elderly understand that their daughter-in-law goes to work for the sake of a better family and reduce the pressure on their children.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    First of all, you have been married for four years, this time is not short, within this time, you get along, you don't trust it, you can explain two points.

    I have lied to you before, and you have a grudge against it, and you have never been able to let go, always thinking that the same thing will be done again.

    Your husband is more tactful and is the kind of person who likes to talk, giving people the feeling that he is unreliable, and he has been together for a long time, so he understands his life better, and he is even more reluctant to believe him.

    As mentioned above, thinking about this type of situation and problem is just a protective zone in your mind, automatically filtering and dealing with this kind of thing. No need to mind.

    It is suggested that you can try to verify the authenticity of what your husband said, if it is all right, it will automatically filter out the previous protective warning in your heart, and slowly let down your vigilance against him.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Married for more than four years, what does your husband say, you don't believe it a little, this feeling, how to say it, you must be extremely distrustful of your husband in your heart, your husband must have done things that hurt you before, or cheated on you, that's why you don't trust your husband so much, this feeling is very subtle, and it is difficult to change, if you really love your husband, you can actually let down your guard and try to believe it again, after all, if nothing else, he is the person who will accompany you for the rest of your life, if you have always had a mustard in your heartIt will also hinder your relationship, and your husband will definitely be able to detect that you don't trust him, so try to let go of the mustard, give him another chance, and try to trust him.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Is he telling too many lies that make you psychologically wary? Or are you insecure around him.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    1. Of course you will, as long as you both work towards the goal of loving life;

    2. Communication is very important, and marriage must be managed;

    3. Both of you seem to have neglected the marriage in such a state, and let it go as it goes, even if the two of you break up, such an attitude still determines the inevitable failure of the next experience;

    4. Cherish what you have and manage your current marriage well;

    5. The woman should pay attention to her own mood, dress herself up, and remember not to be sloppy, no man likes a pigsty-like home, even if the man is very sloppy;

    6. The woman should be more considerate and gentle to her husband, the softer the woman, the stronger the husband, and vice versa;

    7. The man should bear the pillar of the family, so that his wife feels that he can be trusted to marry the right man;

    8. In addition to work, the man should care about his wife's psychological feelings;

    9. It is recommended to go to a secluded place such as a coffee house once a month to talk and get close to the relationship;

    10. Both parties remember each other's birthdays, especially on Valentine's Day and Women's Day, and the man should give gifts to his wife;

    Do the above points, marriage is as sweet as honey, I wish you both happiness!

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