What problems are discovered after a relationship?

For example, the shortcomings of the girlfriend were not discovered when they were in love, but the shortcomings of the girlfriend came out after they were together, they didn't like to clean, and they slept lazy every day.

After falling in love, I will post that I am really not suitable for love, and then I will think a lot of things that I didn't think about before when I am in love, and now I will think about it, and I will think a lot.

I will only find reality after falling in love, I will think a lot before falling in love, but these are idealized, and I may only find out when I am in love, it turns out that the other party is not so perfect, and he has many shortcomings that I can't tolerate.

In fact, after two people fall in love, it is not as beautiful as they imagined, sometimes I feel that the other party is particularly lazy, delicious and lazy, does not clean, likes to sleep lazily or something, and the two quarrel every day for some trivial things

If you can't do it, it's better not to promise at will, and don't pack tickets at will. I remember being woken up at night when I was with my ex, she was in a bad mood and wanted me to talk to her. But I was very angry, I was busy late that day, and I had to go to work the next morning, so I was really tired and sleepy.

scolded her, and then went back to sleep. Woke up to find her crying all night. When I asked her what was wrong, she wouldn't say.

Actually, I've missed an opportunity. When I first started with her, I could stay with her until late, but now I don't care about her, and I think why is she so ignorant I don't know if I'm tired, and I murdered her. Come to think of it, she is not a willful little girl, she must have needed you very much at that time, so she wanted to wake you up in the middle of the night.

Maybe just want you to give her a reassuring hug. Later, I regretted it very much, isn't it just tired or sleepy, the other party didn't realize it when he needed him, but he missed the opportunity. ‍‍

Every point the other party gives you actually needs to be reciprocated. This is how it is balanced. In the same way, blindly giving and not reciprocating will also make the relationship unbalanced.

Don't think you're doing great, I love you for giving everything, and when the relationship is out of balance, it's not far from the end, so it's still necessary to ask for it. Know how to cherish the people who love you, and be grateful for their love and dedication.

Sometimes your love may overflow and you think you give a lot to the other person. But the other party thinks that it is just a burden, which many people misunderstand. I feel that I love each other very much, but the way and intensity of your love may not be acceptable to the other person.

You've wasted your efforts and added stress and annoyance to the other person. Then love is unhappy in love.

Girls don't take their fathers as a benchmark, boys are hurt. This discovery came from a friend. His girlfriend is in love for the first time, and it seems to us that this guy has done a good job. The most basic specialization.

1. I do a good job of hurting my girlfriend. But when she fell in love for the first time, she always felt that he hadn't done enough. Because her father is a multimillionaire, he is obedient to his wife and daughter, and he takes care of his family very much.

Friends' female votes always talk about their fathers to count his shortcomings. My friend is very sad, in fact, we all understand that this girl really doesn't have much experience and hasn't been hurt, so she doesn't know how to cherish it. Similarly, some girls' fathers may be a negative example, please don't use this as a benchmark to lose confidence in the relationship. ‍‍

The active party at the beginning of a relationship, always the one who pays more, even if they are together, it is difficult to reverse, if the girl's psychology is not strong enough, and she can't get the expected care after a long time, the two sides have conflicts, and it is easy to speed up the process of breaking up.

Love comes from life, don't live in your own imagination to love someone, or change others according to your own imagination. Adulthood, personality can't be changed. No, don't force each other.

When I am in love, I am calculating with you, especially when I say that my salary is not enough and I am short of money, and I can't go out with you for the time being, and I am reluctant to spend money for you. Always emphasize material pay and return, I will invite you soy milk fritters for this meal, next time you want to give me steamed rice noodles, believe me, even if the monthly salary is from 2k-10k, he still won't be generous to you. The essence of a person's selfishness and miserliness will not change, and the only person he loves is himself.

Don't agree to be together because others are good to you, people who didn't like it at first are difficult to love because of touching, don't settle for yourself, and don't let others down.

There will always be problems in love, some of which are due to the lack of freshness, lack of understanding and trust, which can cause many problems in the relationship, which may eventually lead to a breakup.

When there is a problem, there is a way to solve it, and when you understand the root cause, you will know how to solve it.

Freshness. The two people who are just together have a sense of freshness to each other, you will understand each other, humble each other, and use this way to gain each other's favor, then love makes you feel sweet, and many needs will be met.

No one will expose their shortcomings and show more of their strengths, for example, what the other person wants to eat, you will buy it no matter how far away, and make the other party satisfied in this way, because you care about everything the other person feels, and you don't want to lose the other person.

With action, sweet words are indispensable to coax people, and women may feel like honey in their hearts when they hear it, and women may think that you are the best person in the world; In the same way, women are like lovers in the eyes of men. Because of the freshness, when the two of them don't fully understand each other, you are all good in each other's eyes, and even beautify each other to a certain extent, imagining in the direction you think.

But will it be so? As the novelty decreases, they can see each other clearly.

Why does the freshness fade? Because after the two of them have been together for a long time, they will return to their true selves. In love, you will look for a comfortable lifestyle that suits you, and that disguise will slowly transform and make yourself more and more real.

At this time, you are looking for your own comfortable lifestyle, and the other party's lifestyle may have differences, so there will be more problems.

That's for sure. And no matter what the relationship is, after getting along for a long time, there will definitely be problems. After all, everyone's values are different, and some issues must not be 100% the same, so there will be differences and frictions.

Especially in romantic relationships, among many interpersonal relationships, love is relatively more special. Love is more exclusive and time-sensitive than friendship and affection, which provides conditions for the emergence of new problems.

So in a relationship, it doesn't matter if something goes wrong. It is important to maintain a mindset of mutual trust, mutual tolerance, and mutual forgiveness.

What are some things you only know about after you've been in a relationship?

1. When you fall in love, you know that the object is sent by God to anger you.

2. When you are in love, you know that as long as you pay sincerely, you can't be cool.

3. When I fell in love, I realized that I was so fragile that I couldn't afford to hurt it.

4. When you are in love, you know what it means to switch emotions freely and capriciously.

5. Only when you are in love do you know how happy it is to be pampered by someone.

6. When you are in love, you know how rich you are when you are single.

7. When you are in love, you know that the man's mouth is the water in the toilet.

8. Only when you fall in love do you know that your boyfriend can play more than yourself and can act better than yourself.

9. After falling in love, my aunt didn't come, and I was scared.

10. When you fall in love, you know that when a man is coquettish, a woman has to stand aside.

11. I only know when I fall in love, and I will become brothers after a long time.

12. Only when you are in love do you know how good it is to be single.

13, when you are in love, you know how sweet the sweet love is.

14. When you fall in love, you know that women are all monsters.

15. I only know when I am in love that drinking water and eating can be praised for being great.

16. When I fell in love, I realized that TM didn't find a boyfriend but found a son.

17. After falling in love, I realized that painting cakes was also a science.

18. When you fall in love, you know that a man pulls for 23 hours a day! (Another hour on the way to).

19. Only when you are in love do you know that it is not enough to fall in love with someone.

20. You don't know until you're in love, and it's interesting to watch others talk.

21. When you fall in love, you know that when two people fall in love, they should not change each other's minds, but they should be with people who think the same way.

22. When you are in love, you know that it is impossible for two people to be glue all the time after being together, don't always pester each other, and leave a little personal space for each other.

23. Only when you are in love do you know that you are with the same three views, and don't change yourself in order to cater to others.

24. When you are in love, you don't know that you don't try to touch the other party's bottom line.

25. When you fall in love, you know that people outside the city want to go in, and people in the city want to come out.

This is normal, and it's not just about falling in love, sometimes you can find your own shortcomings when you make friends.

First of all, as far as falling in love is concerned, you were alone before you didn't talk about it, eating alone, going out alone, walking alone, etc., almost all of them were doing one thing by themselves. Of course, you don't feel that you have shortcomings or anything like that, because no one compares you to you, and no one will find out or say it.

Falling in love is the process of getting started, and it's normal to find problems.