How to communicate with someone who is higher than yourself

3. Natural attitude, no need to be restrained Honorable people are higher than us regardless of status, experience, and knowledge. Socializing with them often makes us awe-inspiring, and sometimes we feel a sense of coercion and silence. As ordinary people, especially young people who have never seen the world, we often seem to be out of shape in our actions, and our words are particularly awkward and blunt.

In fact, the honorable person is also our equal object of communication, but also a natural relationship, we must respect each other on the one hand, on the other hand, but also based on ourselves, keep the square inch, maintain the true color, natural and normal communication, do not have to be restrained. On the contrary, it will show your social charm, win the recognition and respect of the other party, and the distinguished person will be happy to develop friendship with us. Xiaobin is a talented and motivated young man, and he wants to associate with some respected seniors, but the final result is that he fails.

The main reason is that Xiaobin is too restrained, looking like a wrecked and trivial committee, of course, he disappointed his predecessors, how could he develop friendship with him? Fourth, skillful matching, not arrogant From the perspective of the process of communication, the honorable person is the protagonist of communication, and we are the supporting role, in a secondary position. This is the status quo of communication, and it is also the law of communication, which is determined by the identity and communication energy of each other.

We must actively support the noble, enthusiastically cooperate with the noble, saddle the horse before and after, obey the needs, and listen to the dispatch. This is in line with the reality of communication, not only will not damage one's "worth", but will also gain the trust of the honorable. And if you fail to correct this relationship, you will not properly display your abilities, you will play with your talents, and you will even turn your back on and exclude the noble, which is often counterproductive.

Xiao Can always wants to show his talent and get an old man he respects the most to recognize him. Once, the old man sang Peking Opera at the party, although he didn't sing well, he still won applause, and Xiao Can thought that his bright voice would definitely make the old man feel like a bosom friend. So a Peking Opera song was sung loudly and high-pitched, but the old man felt very unnatural on stage.

Although Xiaocan is kind, but he "resists" the old man like this, will the old man still develop friendship with him? View the original post

5. Take the initiative and be sincere, and make a gesture The behavior of the honorable person should be consistent with his identity and status. They generally do not take the initiative to associate with us, and as ordinary people, their status is lower than his, so they should take the initiative and be full of sincerity, take the first step, and make a friendly gesture, which is a virtue of respecting the elders, and it is also a common practice of communication. Xiaowen met an accomplished writer at a conference, and he cherished this relationship very much, but he was an ordinary person and a small character, so of course he did not attract the attention of the writer.

But Xiaowen regarded it as natural, and he was not angry, and he would send greeting cards to the writer every holiday. Finally, the writer remembered Xiaowen and had an unusual friendship with him. 6. Seek help for advice and accept care The noble one is a symbol of strength, and in front of him, we seem very weak and immature.

So accept it and ask for care. This is what we seek and urgently need in our dealings with the honorable, and second, as the honorable person, he will also get the joy of giving and supporting, which is a kind of realization of self-worth. To find care, we must respect the wishes of the noble, and second, we must be moderate and appropriate, and we must not rely on or attach ourselves to the honorable person.

This includes appropriate help and a certain degree of seeking advice. This will be recognized by the Venerable and will be the fulfillment of his friendship. Xiao Gang respects a well-known teacher in our school very much, takes the initiative to worship him as a teacher, and often asks some questions for help and support.

Because Xiao Gang respects his work and rest habits and habits, every time he asks for advice, he will gain something. In this consultation, the teacher also became interested in Xiao Gang and gradually developed a deep friendship. View the original post

Let me first talk about how to improve my status, that is, my prestige.

First of all, you have to be assertive and don't follow the crowd. Have your own mind.

Secondly, you have to be independent and don't rely on others for everything. Don't think about what other people think when doing things.

Then, don't use too many maybe, but, or, such uncertain words when you speak, that will make you less firm in what you say.

Don't say too many meaningless words, don't always say don't know, say do it if you can do it.

Then there's the need to be confident.

Maintain a warm and cheerful personality, but don't mean helping others in everything.

For example, if you go to help someone all day, and one day you don't help him, he will blame you, and he will take your help for granted.

Then be honest and communicative with people.

Introverts are generally very sincere, so my confidants are more introverts.

I'm also an introvert, so the friends I make are very good.