I understand the truth, but why do I still do things that are inconsistent with the truth?

A 24-year-old young man who has just started in his career may find it difficult to reach the sky in one step. The development of the career is closely related to their own ability, qualifications, experience and connections, which requires the accumulation and precipitation of work experience, and the sharpening and sublimation of experience, which cannot be achieved overnight.

You have encountered unfair treatment, at this time, we know that we need to face it bravely, so there are many "shoulds" formed from logic, such as you should face it bravely, you should fight, you should wait and so on (you should have heard enough in life). But now you're scared, you're trembling. Because that's not what your formal thinking thinks, an important way of working of your formal thinking is to equate A with AB.

That's how I am. I know that the more money the better, but the money in my pocket is pitiful. How to break?

Let's use this example to see that it has always been around us, for example: in a primitive society, you walk in the forest and suddenly you see a muddy thing coming out of a mud puddle, it has a big head, a powerful tail, it looks like a big cat, you immediately draw your bow and prepare to shoot an arrow, because you know it's a tiger, but it's covered in mud, you can't see that it's a tiger, but you know it's a tiger, and that's why.

In your childhood, you used to face unfair treatment, but at that time, you were young, you didn't have the strength to fight, so your anger turned into fear (in fact, this is a very good strategy, with fear avoidance, you save yourself in a more dangerous situation), and when something like this happens again, your formal thinking classifies the AC that happens again as A.

Logical thinking is easy for us to understand, after all, we have received education in this area since childhood, but we usually know very little about how image thinking works, although we have this way of thinking at birth, and we live and live by this thinking, but we have never been aware of it.

I think it is necessary to start by mentioning some of the author's thoughts about the human brain. Over the past 10 million years, in the process of ape evolution to humans, a qualitative change has occurred, and this change is that people have rational logical thinking, which is the opposite of perceptual image thinking. It is the great development of this kind of logical thinking that makes human beings begin to be more and more different from the way of existence of animals.

There are differences in the mode of work of these two types of thinking.

The reason why you know the truth is that you can't do it because the truth you know works at the logical level, while the action works at the formal level. That's why you know what makes sense but can't do it. So how do you make yourself able to do what you know?

There are many ways to do this, such as improving cognitive awareness, such as adjusting the working mode of formal thinking. In many schools of psychology, although the theoretical basis is different, they basically work through these aspects. In the author's opinion, in fact, it would be better if we could work together from multiple perspectives. ‍‍

Let's take a practical example. l, when he was a child, he faced some situations that he didn't want to face, when there was violence between his parents, he was worried that his mother would be hurt, and he was angry with his father, but he felt that he was small, and he couldn't do anything, this sense of powerlessness resided in formal thinking, and later when he confronted some "bad boys" in the same class, although he felt very angry, but his heart was very afraid, such things strengthened his thinking even more, so when he faced unfair treatment, The first is very angry, and the higher the level of anger, the higher the level of fear that follows. So he continued this pattern even after he became an adult.

So much so that when he faced injustice, he couldn't help but be afraid.

A better colleague has left, he is enthusiastic, humorous, and very motivating to the team atmosphere. It is precisely because of his good character that he is not strong enough and principled enough to carry out a lot of work. After a year of work, the pressure built up, and he finally proposed to leave on the grounds of "not adapting".

And when the leader tried to keep him by teaching working methods, he to:"I know everything, but it's really hard to do. ”This sentence put an end to my career experience.

In the process of getting along with him, I often can't help but give him some suggestions for improving my work, but the result is the same every time: I agree with and accept my suggestions, but I can always find many "strong" reasons for practice and change to explain why I can't do it. After shouting rock, there is no after, everything is business as usual.

Because I don't believe that I can do it, I don't believe that the routine of this truth is in line with my own current situation; Because of the fear that one's views or positions will be questioned and challenged.

"I understand" does not mean "I am willing to try", "I believe in change" and "I believe in my abilities". As a result, finding plausible reasons and excuses has become a habitual defense against doubts and challenges.

These habitual defenses allow us to maintain our own views and beliefs, to remain content with the status quo, to assert ourselves, or to choose to escape.

What's the use of knowing more of the same truth?

The first three work well, but it's hard for us to dominate easily, and the last one is easy for us to do. How?

Be open to all doubts and challenges, and restrain your habitual defenses.

Let's take a look at a case, the hit movie "Wrestle, Dad!" that was broadcast a while ago. The two girls in the movie don't understand their father's strict requirements for them at first. In the face of harsh training, they are passive, passive, and even try to escape.

This state of affairs lasted until they attended a friend's wedding, where a conversation with a friend became a turning point in their lives

They were touched by their friends' perspectives, and they began to reflect, act, and change positively. Eventually, this inflection point made them happen. Let's make a bold assumption about what would ......have happened if they had been stubborn, covetous, and evasive from training

At present, not all children can do what they do, face strict discipline, be able to listen to the truth, accept the good intentions of their parents and teachers, and actively change. On the contrary, people who have missed the opportunity to grow rapidly and achieve themselves because of fixed thinking, short-sightedness, and coveting comfort abound.

When you feel the most pain, it's also when you grow the fastest!

In fact, many truths in the world are reversed from the results of behavior, rather than acting because of the truths that people know.

A For example, a Zen pretending to be a person who did a good deed, and finally was bitten back. The truth of this matter is called: You can't be kind, otherwise good people may not be rewarded.

b If a person does a good deed and is rewarded in the end, the truth of this matter is called: Be a good person, because good will be rewarded.

But before this person does a good deed, he will not know what will happen to the other party, so at this time, there is no accurate reason for him to guide him, so this matter is likely to appear that he saves people and is scolded for being stupid, and if he does not save people, he is scolded for being cold-blooded, or he saves people and is praised, and if he does not save people, he is understood by others. And for this person himself, he saved people, no matter whether the result was good or bad, he was worthy of his own heart. It is understandable not to save people and protect oneself from right and wrong, it is all a reasonable thing.

Therefore, the so-called truth is like two or even more lines in parallel worlds, there is no absolute uniqueness, and it is precisely because of this that many people will have different opinions and arguments about the same thing.