Tell me how to manage a marriage.

Remember the three most important words, the first word is forgive, the second is forgive, and the third is forgive. There is no perfect person in the world, so there is no perfect marriage, if there is a problem in the marriage, it will be repaired, but only repairing it is not enough, if you don't plan to forgive the other party's mistakes, it is useless for the other party to fix anything. Sometimes, it's not so much that the other person's mistakes ruined the marriage, but that you didn't forgive the other person's mistakes that ruined your marriage.

Sharing responsibilities, couples are not just people who sleep together, but more importantly, they share it together. For example, if one party has an economic crisis, such as unemployment, the other party is obliged to provide economic **. But when I talk about shared responsibility, I don't just mean that, simple things like housework have to be shared between the two parties.

Don't take the perfect marriage for granted, marriage always starts with perfection, romantic marriage makes us feel that the rest of life is perfect, this mentality makes it difficult for us to accept the flaws in the marriage, we will be angry because of the slightest flaw, and both parties will quickly be disappointed. In this way, the marriage is in jeopardy. In order to develop in the long run, it is necessary to think at the beginning of the marriage that marriage always starts with perfection and gradually moves towards imperfection.

Learn to create romance: Many introverts complain that they don't know how to be romantic, in fact, personality does not determine whether you are romantic or not, as long as you put a little effort into it, anyone can find romance. Learn to create romance by asking the other person what is romantic and then creating something like that.

Sometimes it's not that we lack romance, but that we lack the courage to be romantic.

Even if the relationship between husband and wife is good, don't completely expose yourself to each other's eyes. The unpredictable swaying self-reservation can attract the attention of the other party even more, and there is a kind of thoroughness that wants to study each other. To study his heart, we should know how to read words and colors, and pay attention to words and deeds.

Gather his affections, become familiar with his instincts, master his personality, and gain insight into his psyche. Look at his expression, whether he likes it or is sad, whether it is happy or bitter, stop when he speaks, don't let him nag you. When he is in a good mood, accompany him to pour out his heart and go deep into his heart.

When he is depressed and distressed, give him spiritual and spiritual comfort, so that he feels happy. The backlog of worries and worries will be willingly confided in you, and what you will gain will be trusted.

Be more considerate and tolerant in life, after all, there are too many trivial things in married life, and if you are careful about everything, it is too easy to quarrel; There is more dedication and understanding in marriage, everyone's ability is really limited, sometimes it's not that I don't want to, but I really can't do it; There is more sensuality and romance in the relationship, life is already very boring, and we must keep our feelings fresh.

As a wife, you must first learn to understand men, to dig and explore their psychological drives, to let yourself dive into his inner world silently, to better care for him, to study him, and to truly understand him. What men love is the pressure of society, the fatigue of life, and the heavy responsibilities of the family. What does a man carry on his shoulders?

And what do you endure? It's hard! It is to endure humiliation and exhaustion, and what is often needed more than women is love and care.

Marriage management, every married couple with a happy life has their own way of business. Two people in a good marriage must be able to understand each other and support each other.

Twilight descends from the Bishan, and the mountains and moons return with the people. But regardless of the way it came, the sky was wide and verdant. Hand in hand with the Tian family, the child opens the thorns. The green bamboo enters the secluded path, and the green pothos brushes the clothes. I like the latter sentence the most, quiet and free, happy and forgetful.

Xizhou Song" recalls the plum under Xizhou, and folds the plum to the north of the river. The single shirt is apricot red, and the double sideburns are young color. Where is Xizhou? Two-oars bridgehead crossing. I feel that Xizhou Qu is the most suitable poem for hand-copying, and every time I copy it, I enjoy it again.

How many marriages and marriages include rent leakage, in fact, they are acting in Fengsou Li Field.

1. Learning to shout is not able to communicate.

The bond in marriage is not children, nor money, but the mutual growth of the spirit, which is a partnership. Two people may have different personalities together, one may be more strong and impatient, and the other may be mild. If two people don't have a common language in life, it's hard for a relationship to continue.

If they share with each other every day and know how to put themselves in each other's shoes, then their lives will become very interesting. After a while, the common language will become unfamiliar to couples who have not communicated for a long time, and life will become boring. In this way, if they continue for a long time, there will be no affection between husband and wife, and their marriage will also change, so the most important thing for couples to get along with each other is to learn to communicate first.

2. Respect each other.

Husbands and wives need to learn to respect each other, which is also the most basic condition for growing old together. Both men and women have their own face and dignity. If they don't get each other's respect in marriage, it's always at the end.

We often say that men are afraid of their wives. Actually, it's not fear, it's love and respect. Men have a lot of face on the outside, so as women, we should give men respect and dignity.

Don't always talk about the shortcomings of men, learn to praise each other more. When two people are together, it is a continuous learning process. Over time, they will get to know each other.

This kind of mutual understanding and companionship can accompany them to old age, and it is also a marriage that we all envy.

3. Loyalty. The most important thing for two people together is loyalty, loyalty is very important in marriage, you determine the quality of the marriage and whether the marriage can continue. Since we have chosen each other, we must be responsible for each other, even if I can meet a better person, we must keep our bottom line, if we easily betray the marriage, it will rise to a character problem, and if we encounter betrayal in the marriage, the two people will not be able to go to the end.

So in my opinion, the most important thing in marriage is the word loyalty, and only loyalty between two people can make love stronger. Marriage is like a practice, two people from ignorance to the end of each other to old age, this process is not long or short, it is the love between two people for each other to grow old together.

Marriage requires patience, or rather, each of us cannot be wanton in this world, and we need to be patient.

But marriage is by no means long-lasting by mere patience, let alone happiness. Balzac said: Let the husband and wife know each other and understand each other, and then tolerate and love each other in order to maintain a happy marriage.

Falling in love is a process of constantly discovering each other's strengths, while marriage is a process of constantly discovering each other's shortcomings.

When two people live together, it is definitely impossible for everything to match, and they will always find that there are some habits and behaviors in each other that they are not used to.

But marriage is not child's play, you can't divorce Ji Hui because of whether to put ginger in stir-frying, whether to put ** in stinky socks, watching a ball game or watching a TV series, right? Since we know that no one is perfect, a little more tolerance and patience for issues that do not involve principles is also a compulsory course for marriage.

Of course, this also requires the participation of both parties, if it is a one-man show, patience becomes meaningless, there is no marriage, only one person can be present to play the whole scene.

For a long-lasting marriage, both parties know how to take a step back, and they know how to tolerate each other and endure each other. Unilateral forbearance may make a marriage last, but it must not make a marriage happy.

A marriage is piled up by the trivialities of life.

For those daily unsatisfactory trivial matters, you can endure it for one day and two days, but what about one or two years?

What really destroys a marriage is never the few unwashed dishes, those few quarrels that are not worth mentioning, but the despair of trivial matters that have accumulated for a long time.

The change of an intimate relationship is an adjustment in the direction of the good of both parties, and unilateral compromise and concession will only make the intimate relationship more and more unequal.

He loses his temper with you, and you endure it; He picks and chooses all kinds of things from you, and you endure it;

He takes your dedication for granted, and you endure it;

He doesn't take you seriously more and more, and you still put up with it.

People always have to make inches, and if you endure and endure, he will get inches.

Why put up with it? Some things, if they don't explode in silence, perish in silence.

Freud said that unexpressed emotions never go away. They were simply buried alive, and one day the Tantuan would erupt in an even uglier way. A good marriage needs a little temper, give the other party a slap in the head, let him know that it is enough to stop, this is the protection of one's own rights, the defense of the status of marriage, and also to set the bottom line for the other party, so that the other party knows that he is his equal wife, not a servant who is calling around.

The state of the parents' marriage is often projected onto the children's attitude towards marriage. Because of your parents' marriage, you refuse to get married, and you refuse to live such a life that requires patience.

In fact, this is a kind of self-defense, yes, if you reject marriage, you refuse to hurt, but at the same time you reject the possibility of another happiness.

Uncle Zhi suggested that you should learn from your parents' marriage and be a person with a temper and ego, instead of letting your parents' marriage leave a shadow on your life and dare not accept marriage. There are countless possibilities in life, don't set limits on yourself, as long as you are strong enough, you dare to try everything, including the marriage you fear.

Marriage is the beginning of another stage of life and the continuation of love. Being able to enter married life is the best ending for every pair of lovers. Love finally blossomed and blossomed in the form of married life.

If you want to make the flower of love bloom undefeated, keep your youth forever, and eliminate fierce auspiciousness, you need certain skills and methods to keep it fresh. A good married life makes people happy physically and mentally; A bad married life makes people miserable.

If you don't know how to manage your married life, then even if you are a loving couple at the beginning, you may hold hands and be relatively silent, and you will eventually separate.

A good marriage should be run like a career, and if you do these six things, you will be very happy.

1. Treat the other half as a teammate and partner.

In married life, you can treat your other half as your teammate and partner. At work, many people are kind and calm to their colleagues and partners, so you should adopt the same attitude and working methods towards your significant other in your married life. Because at work, you will definitely not get angry with your colleagues, and bring this kind of work attitude to your marriage, basically many contradictions can be properly solved.

Don't be furious, angry, and unscrupulous when you encounter a single thing. When both sides encounter problems, don't get angry at every turn, communicate with the other half with a good attitude, tone, and wording, and negotiate together if there is a problem, so that even if there is a big contradiction, everyone can solve it calmly.

Many times, considering the problem, looking at the problem, and dealing with the problem from the other party's perspective will bring many unexpected results. The other party will also be infected by you, and slowly he will follow your example, put himself in the other party's shoes, and many problems in married life will be solved naturally.

Two people can cooperate in the division of labor in the family according to the strengths and weaknesses of both parties. Each has its own role to solve family problems. Then many of the family's housekeeping problems can be properly solved.

Customize the reward and punishment mechanism like the company, similar to the family norms, and everyone enforces compliance together.

For example, when it comes to housework, you can't let one person take care of it, and both parties can negotiate and share it. After all, two people have to get along day and night for decades, and if housework is pressed on one person for a long time, there will definitely be complaints over time. Encourage each other to take on household chores together, and regularly reward family members (outstanding employees) for good performance.

2. Treat your in-laws as important customers of the company.

Getting along with your in-laws in married life is also a very important issue. You can treat them as important customers of the company as if they were dealing with problems at work, and they must be treated politely. In the company, you will definitely not offend your important customers at will, so the in-laws are the same, greet each other with a smile, and occasionally give some souvenirs and small gifts.

Even if you don't like to get along with them, you have to maintain a good, friendly, and good relationship. After all, as in-laws, you will be a long-term relative, and it is necessary to maintain a good relationship. Some in-laws are not easy to get along with, you don't need to offend them, you don't need to have a deep relationship with them.

At this time, push your teammates and partners up and let him take care of the problem.

Treat each other with respect. We should clearly know that marriage is very important to each of us, and everyone hopes that they can have a happy married life, but we should clearly know that this is not easy for us, do you understand? Many times, marriage is not as simple as we think.

Really, the world is so complicated, even if it is a husband and wife, their interaction with each other is so indescribable. Actually, you have to know that those loving couples, they respect each other very much when they get along, do you understand? Only mutual respect can create a good marriage.

Get along as equals. We should know that we all live in this world, we are all human beings, we are all equal, and there is no distinction between high and low. Do you understand?

In marriage, if a man has machismo and thinks that a woman is an appendage of a man, then such a marriage is doomed to be unhappy. In fact, as long as you look closely, you should find that those loving couples, they actually respect each other, do you understand? This is the secret of their wonderful marriage.

Always trust each other.

I know that marriage is not easy for us, and a happy marriage actually requires us to pay a lot, but you know what? Marriage is not what we think, as long as you give it will be rewarded. Marriage has never been a fair and equal thing, you know?

Maybe many times you will envy other people's marriages, maybe many times you will feel that others are very affectionate, in fact, there is a secret, do you understand? Husband and wife, only mutual trust, can create a happy marriage together, do you understand?