How to find the psychological pillar, how to find the psychological pillar?

Hello, if you look at the topic alone, this question can be divided into 3 parts. 1. Put your heart on others and regard others as the pillars of your own psychology. 2. Pin the pillars of your own psychology on "things".

3. "When the sky falls, there is a tall man on top of it, taking himself as his pillar and holding up a piece of the sky for himself." ”

1. Treat others as your own pillarsIt is suitable for people who are less confident, because they want to be needed, so they regard others as their psychological pillars. This is the easiest way to find a psychological pillar, but the foundation of such a pillar is too weak, and the strength of the pillar depends on the mood of the other person, if he betrays or flies solo, your inner world is likely to collapse.

2. Put the psychological pillar on the "thing".This "thing" can be an object, a target to catch up, or even a celebrity biography as a benchmark. Build your own inner pillar through sustenance and catch-up, but there is also a great risk of doing so, either because you can't reach the expected goals and become a depressed person, or by constantly achieving small goals one by one, you will gradually become a successful person.

3. Let yourself be your own psychological pillarThis is undoubtedly the most reliable way to establish the correct three views, strengthen your own psychological construction, do not interfere with your inner world due to external objects, and keep yourself consistent. Become my own pillar, let him wind and rain, I stand still.

If you consider yourself a person with a fragile inner world, you can choose to work your way up from 1-3. Putting your psychological support on someone will inevitably give you a certain degree of inner pleasure, but always keep your sanity, avoid being overly dependent on others, and then keep setting small goals for yourself in the process of getting along, and strengthen your self-confidence and action by achieving small goals. Finally, break away from the first two items and make yourself your inner pillar!

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Find someone who understands you and you trust. It doesn't have to be on yourself, you can pass it on to your friends, loved ones. Or glory, freedom, love, these can be your psychological pillars.

Hope it helps.

I think it's just meditating in my heart that I think I can do it myself, and repeated repetition still has a certain effect, after all, this psychological suggestion is our own method.

I think the most important thing to solve psychological problems is to have a good psychological quality, I think a good psychological quality should be more important, only mental health is healthy.

I think the most important thing in psychological problems is self-regulation, and it is most important to find the pillar in your heart, don't care about other people's opinions, and do your best.