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Empathy - Put yourself in your shoes, and the anger may be gone. Also, a very cliché practice: count 10 numbers silently before getting angry.
You can also think of three questions:1Did he do it on purpose?
2.Do you have to get angry? 3.
Does getting angry solve the problem?
My temper has become a lot more irritable after work, and after realizing that I am trying to do this, it has some results, so you might as well try it too. I wish you to be gentle soon!
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The problem is not your emotions, but your character.
Personality is hard to change, it's relatively easy to change the way you deal with problems.
Before you get ready to go big.
Start by asking yourself a question: Are you at fault on this issue?
Let's think about the problem from my husband's point of view.
In short, come before others.
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Thinking of Guo Degang's joke that as soon as the two quarreled, his wife silently went to brush the toilet, and the toilet was brushed with her husband's toothbrush o( o haha
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Do not delete or report if you have brushed points
One is missing.
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Imagine his good, the things that move you, understand him, will make him love you, he will do better, love is mutual, bad will not be angry.
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Learn to cook, dim sum, etc., and participate in some activities.
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Use your brain to think about your husband's difficulties.
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Think about the serious consequences.
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Me too.,I just can't control it.。。
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How not to let my husband's emotions affect me? If you want your husband's emotions and don't affect yourself, then you don't care about your husband, it's better to be separated from him, not together, you can't meet, you can't see his emotions, he won't affect you.
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Hello this friend, I personally think that first of all, you have to enlighten him, you must stand in his perspective to help him speak, so that he can be happier, and secondly, I hope that your husband is a responsible person.
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When I had a quarrel with my husband, and it was very fierce, and there was always friction between husband and wife, at that time, as soon as the anger came up, quarrels were inevitable. Women like to sulk, especially when they meet a more selfish man, it will always make a woman angry and can't beat him with a stick. So, how do you learn to regulate your emotions after a fight with your husband?
01 Force yourself to take a deep breath.
I know that getting angry will cause problems in my body, but few people can truly calm their minds like water. So, force yourself to take a deep breath, keep your face away from the man who makes you angry, and make your eyes clean, or at least look comfortable. Then take a deep breath, tell yourself not to calm down and not stop, and then just breathe deeply again and again.
Take more deep breaths and you'll notice that the anger in your heart will gradually lessen until you can be rational enough. In this way, it is a soothing for your bad mood and can also keep yourself a little rational.
02 Don't have any communication with that man.
Many people say that husbands and wives should reconcile immediately after a quarrel, I just want to ask you, who will be in the mood to deal with that man with a good temper just after a quarrel? If you continue to communicate or communicate with that man, or face to face, you will find that your anger is going to ** little by little, and it will rekindle the fire of your contradiction just now, at that time, you will only become more and more angry and angry. Therefore, after a quarrel just now, quickly find a place to stay with yourself, and let your emotions find an environment where you can place and slowly calm down.
03 Divert your attention elsewhere.
Let me tell you, those women who have experienced quarrels again and again in their marriages deeply understand what it is like to quarrel, especially when facing a somewhat selfish and unreasonable man, they will really be very resentful. Then, if you try to reason with him and communicate with him as others say, you can only give yourself the urge to kick him to death. If thinking calmly will also make you more and more angry the more you think about it, then it is better to divert your attention, learn from the author, go shopping online, look at those beautiful clothes, and buy a few for yourself.
Or buy a few types of health teas that can beautify and nourish your own beauty, in the process of shopping, you can not only divert your attention, but also give birth to the feeling of loving yourself, which will naturally reduce the chance of sulking.
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First of all, you have to tell yourself not to get angry, because being angry will make you sick and make you old, and you can change the topic and do something else.
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I think it's important to calm down and don't always talk to the other person with emotions, think twice about what to say and what not to say.
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When the quarrel is particularly fierce, you should leave the room, you should keep a little distance from your husband, you can take a look at the scenery outside, and you will not be so angry at this time.
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You have to think more about how good he is to you, and if you are particularly angry, you can go back to your room to calm down for half an hour.
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My husband is easy to get angry and can't control his temper, and he always says something hurtful, how can he maintain his marriage?
In fact, about marriage, I think it depends on two people to maintain, and the efforts of one party alone are far from enough, and all feelings need to be worked together by both parties. The husband is easy to get angry and can't control his temper, and he always hurts others, which will easily hurt the other half, and how should the woman deal with it, first of all, I personally think that you should avoid its edge, and when your husband loses his temper, don't hedge against him. Wait for the other party to vent first, otherwise it will easily cause greater conflict.
Then, after he calmed down, he made it clear that his words were hurtful.
Then I think the most important thing is to find the point where my husband often loses his temper, why do you lose your temper, communicate with him more, find the problem, many communicating couples often don't communicate much, resulting in completely not knowing each other's true thoughts, and there will be a lot of unnecessary conflicts. Think more from his standpoint and create a warm family atmosphere for your husband. Let your husband feel warm and comfortable when he comes home, maybe he won't lose his temper easily.
There is also the fact that women should also dress themselves up to make themselves look youthful and beautiful, rather than lifeless like a yellow-faced woman, so that the relationship between the two will only get worse and worse.
In fact, whether it is a husband or a wife who loses his temper, but I think it is actually a very difficult thing for the two to come together, and I think we should cherish it, especially for families with children. Don't give up on a complete and happy family easily. Every relationship is hard-won.
Everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and when two people quarrel, they should think more about each other's strengths, rather than blindly magnifying each other's shortcomings. Personally, I believe that if two husbands and wives encounter something together, they should feel it with their hearts, rather than blindly judging right and wrong. You should love each other well.
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After he has calmed down, you should have a good talk with him and tell him that if you continue like this, it is likely to hurt each other's feelings.
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Maintaining a marriage does not depend on one person, two people should work together, and in this case, you should talk to your husband, and you should let him control his temper.
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Be sure to communicate with your husband, if you continue like this often, it will ruin the relationship between two people, and let him change.
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You can have a good talk with your husband, say what you think, and ask him to make some changes so that your marriage can continue.
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At this time, you need to have a good discussion with your husband, so that he should stop saying such hurtful things again, and every time he says such things, you should remind him more.
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In our helpers, there are many such marital problems: in a marriage, the wife gives more, while the husband just blindly enjoys the benefits of the marriage and does not want to bother, does not want to give anything. Below, let's take a look at Amethyst's analysis of this type of man, who is an out-of-home marriage and family counselor:
Such a man is mentally immature. To be exact, they are still a "boy", and their roles have not changed. They are still the children of their parents, not realizing that they are already fathers and husbands.
Therefore, it is a natural consequence that wives and other family members are unable to assume the responsibilities and obligations of the family. Let's leave the "eldest son" to the younger son.
Why is the temper big, because the emotions are uncontrollable and there is no ability to manage emotions, which is also a manifestation of children. When their desires are not met, they treat them with bad emotions instead of really seeking a solution to the problem. I don't make much money, and I don't have the ability to make a lot of money.
Because you lack the ability and courage, you complain about others, you stand still, you don't know how to improve, you settle for the status quo. When you are compared to others, when you are despised by others, your temper is even greater. There is no other way but to lose your temper.
Because of the above factors, what is the reaction of the "big boys" when family problems and conflicts arise? There are only two words: "escape", escape into an extramarital affair, and the husband who has a visitor has even staged a drama of "running away from home" many times.
What should a wife do in the face of such a husband? First of all, it is necessary to correctly guide the husband to take responsibility for the family and share the heavy responsibilities of the family, instead of forcing the husband to take responsibility through accusations and complaints. For men, blaming and complaining can only make them feel disgusted and disgusted, and it is not conducive to the transformation of women into men.
Secondly, the wife should continue to self-cultivate, continue to learn, improve communication skills, achieve effective communication, end the original ineffective communication, and conduct in-depth communication between husband and wife. Husbands and wives should learn to communicate effectively and talk less nonsense, or not to say emotionally critical words, as these will only have the opposite effect. Finally, the wife must learn to control her emotions and help her husband grow.
Good people are not born, and no one is born to be a good husband and father. Those good husbands and fathers are all acquired, and women play a big role in them.
Many women may say, is this kind of decadent marriage still needed? Even if you want to, it's the man who should change, right? Why do women do so much work?
It's all because some men change unconsciously and need women to help grow. No one is born a good lover, and a good marriage is based on the achievements of both parties!
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I think it's up to the two of you to communicate with each other and solve problems with each other so that you can maintain the whole marriage, and if your husband is still like this, I don't think there is any need for the two of you to be together.
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For this situation, I think you should live separately, keep a sense of distance, don't stick together all the time, the more you like to stick together, the more likely you are to have problems, and the more you like to quarrel and quarrel, which affects the relationship.
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You should reward your husband and tell him that if you can control your emotions every time, then give him a little more pocket money, so that your husband will gradually improve his mood.
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This requires good communication with him, so that he understands his problems, and allows him to give him corresponding signals when he is excited, so that he can control his emotions.
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This is a very bad phenomenon, and you must ask your husband to correct her bad habits, otherwise it will affect the stability of your marriage.
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Talk to your husband about this problem after the next time you get angry, and hope that he can correct it, and if he can't correct it, he will divorce.
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In life, I believe that there will be times when there will be conflicts between every couple, but as the saying goes, husband and wife quarrel at the head of the bed and at the end of the bed, there is no overnight feud between two people, sometimes it is indeed angry, but it is good after being angry. Under normal circumstances, it is the husband who coaxes his wife, after all, as a man, he must be generous. But men also need to coax, if it is really not right, you might as well coax your husband, so as to promote a harmonious relationship between husband and wife.
Women have a very deadly killer feature, that is, coquettishness, no matter when the right coquettishness can make them go more smoothly. It's inevitable to be coquettish in married life, if you really did something wrong, then you can be coquettish and beg him for forgiveness, or take the initiative to let him hug in the past, it's easy to get angry, after all, who can resist a lovely wife. <>
Usually the husband always prepares gifts for his wife, buys things and so on, but don't forget that men also need to be cared for. Especially when he is angry and wronged, then as a wife, you can also prepare a small gift for him, what you usually like but don't buy, when you see the gift, the husband naturally understands what it means, since you have done this, ** and angry. <>
When two people quarrel, they don't really want to be angry, the main thing is to see which of them can speak first. As long as you can take the initiative to give each other a step, it would be good for the two of them to talk about it. Quarrels are not terrible, the most important thing is to see whether two people are willing to maintain the relationship.
Not only men can buy gifts for women, nor are men the only ones who apologize to women, husband and wife are mutual, there is nothing that should or shouldn't, the most important thing is to respect each other, understand each other's difficulties, and manage the relationship together.
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