19 How to handle interpersonal relationships properly

First of all, we need to understand human nature, human nature is selfish, selflessness is also for better selfishness, for others and for themselves, no matter what people think, say and do, they are seeking advantages and avoiding disadvantages, either expecting something, or expressing dissatisfaction, or avoiding risks and pain. This is not about right or wrong, let alone good or bad, good or evil, what the truth is what it is, we must respect human nature, and we do not need moral kidnapping. Of course, respecting human nature does not mean that you can break the law and discipline, the law is used to restrain human nature, and the law is the bottom line of being a person and doing things.

The second is inferiority and self-confidence, inferiority is not only looking down on oneself, but also looking down on others, the implication of inferiority is that no one can be better than themselves, they are better than others in all aspects, if they are inferior to others in a certain aspect, they will feel pain. The others here are mainly people they know, which leads to people with low self-esteem always comparing and opposing others in interpersonal relationships, others are inferior to themselves, they will be arrogant and look down on others, others are better than themselves, and they will feel pain and jealousy. How can you be confident, in fact, it doesn't matter about inferiority and self-confidence, if you are in the relationship with others is a win-win attitude, others are excellent and follow the light, they will help others when they are strong, and others are united and cooperative, even if there is competition, it is also healthy competition, in order to promote each other's growth, then there will be no inferiority and conceit.

The third is to see the emotions behind other people's words and behaviors when interacting with people, that is, expectations, dissatisfactions and worries, as mentioned earlier, no matter what people do, they are to achieve certain expectations, express some kind of dissatisfaction, or avoid some kind of risk and pain. For example, if a person accuses you, your first reaction is that he is targeting you, attacking you, making an empirical counterattack, and then forming an opposition to him, if you can see the emotions and needs behind his accusation at this time, you can understand and accept him, and the contradiction will not be further intensified.

The so-called interpersonal relationship is to use money to smash, even if you are stupid, it doesn't matter, as long as you are generous, you are a reliable person, a trustworthy person.

1. Be kind to others.

How you treat others, others will treat you. If you are polite, respectful, and kind to others, then most will treat you with the same attitude. And learn to take the initiative, take the initiative to approach and be kind to others, rather than just standing still and waiting for others to approach you.

2. Listen carefully to others.

Listening is a very important skill in interpersonal communication and communication. When everyone is expressing, they hope that what they say can be understood by the other party, and when listening, you should listen attentively and give feedback in a timely manner, which can make the other party feel that you are listening.

3. Take the initiative to care for others.

In life, learn to take the initiative to care for others, greetings in daily life, greetings and care when others are sick or frustrated, will bring a trace of warmth to people, and will make people feel your kindness. They will recognize you more, appreciate you, and affirm you.

4. Take the initiative to help others.

Within the limits of your ability, take the initiative to help those around you. Helping others is also a kind of joy, helping others to solve their problems, and you can also get a sense of satisfaction from it.

5. Refuse to hesitate.

No matter what you do, you are always hesitant to make a decision, and you have to think about it for a long time, which can make people lose patience over time. For what you want, say it decisively, and for what you don't want, learn to say no decisively. You can have your own ideas, have your own preferences.

Rejection doesn't mean you're unkind, it's a sign of being straightforward and honest.

6. Remember to express gratitude to others.

Don't forget to thank someone after someone has helped you, even if it's a small thing. Sincere thanks can bring good feelings, and sometimes, when you are exhausted, it may be a simple thank you that makes people feel a lot more relaxed. You can also give someone a small gift to show your appreciation, although it is insignificant, but it is really meaningful, representing your heart and your heart.

7. Don't stay the same.

Staying the same will make your whole person look dull and boring. If you eat the same food every day for a long time, I believe it won't be long before you get tired of it. It's the same in life, you need more abundant things to spice up.

8. Reduce arguments.

Whether in life or at work, try to avoid unnecessary arguments, many times arguments do not have a result in the end, learn to adjust their emotions and cognition, learn to empathize and understand each other, when encountering problems, reduce arguments, and focus on how to solve problems, I believe you will get more people's love and respect.