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For two people who are on opposite toes, it is true that they do not want to admit their mistakes for each other, but argue on the basis of reason, feeling that what they say is right, so it will be very difficult to communicate with each other, he feels that what he is doing is right, and the other party also feels that his own things are very right, when encountering such a person, everyone should think about it rationally, not positive, conflict with them, should first ask about the situation, and then deal with it calmly, let them think about it before doing it, I think that because people like-for-tat, their personalities are generally extroverted and impulsive, so after calming down, they will also think about who is wrong, and they will also consider the importance of the matter, whether they need to apologize and make a corresponding one?
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One. When you are misunderstood, be open-minded. When we are misunderstood, face it calmly, this kind of kind attitude will minimize the harm of too many grievances and misunderstandings in life.
Two. In the face of slander, should you fight back immediately and stay calm and take active countermeasures, turn the evil into good fortune and turn defeat into victory? Smart people, of course, will choose the latter.
Three. Use self-deprecation to get rid of psychological imbalances. Proper self-deprecation can make it easy for you to get rid of the loss and imbalance in your heart, and get spiritual satisfaction.
Four. In the face of failure, the right medicine. Failure is a severe test of people's will, and unwise people will be complacent in the face of success; A sober person is more able to exercise his will in the face of failure.
Five. If you don't look good, you don't have to complain. Don't be too pessimistic in life, you can't do it in one aspect, but you may have more outstanding advantages in another.
The focus is on Article 6 o(o
Six. When "Huai Cai does not meet", there is less lamentation. No matter what a person's talent is, he will encounter a time when he can't display his talents, at this time, you must remember that even if you feel that you "don't meet talents", you can't show it obviously, the more you can't hold your breath, the more others look down on you.
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Love is a kind of tolerance and giving, love him must treat the other party wholeheartedly, including his shortcomings and shortcomings, and will not hurt the other party with words. He's always going to go toe-to-toe with you, and I don't think he loves you enough or hasn't accepted you from his heart! Communicate with him well, if it doesn't work, think about it later!
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The best thing to do is not to fight. You may not be doing to change others, but to change yourself. Learn to be a person who does the right thing, not to be a noisy woman for the sake of reasoning.
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That means your boyfriend is too quick-tempered. Nature is not bad. In the future, as long as the two of you quarrel, then you can stop talking, as long as one person pauses, the other person will not be able to quarrel. Otherwise, tomorrow will be endlessly noisy and will hurt feelings.
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Then you have to communicate with him, before quarreling, you have to guide him into your way to communicate well, just communicate well in advance, and let him know that the mistake will not be there next time.
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This man is not very mature, love him and talk to him well, hoping that he can change.
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Boys always love to be reasonable, but they forget that how can they reason with girls, it's too naïve.
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He likes to reason with you, right, and he won't let you quarrel.
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Empathy and mutual understanding.
After entering the university, students will start dormitory life, which is also a new dormitory experience. The first step in college is to learn how to get along with roommates, which is the most important part of our interpersonal interactions. Because the dormitory is a collective, what we talk and do in the dormitory will affect other students.
And some students have been pampered by their parents since they were young, holding them in the palm of their hands, and they have developed the habit of self-centeredness. But the dormitory is not at home, it is a collectiveWe need to learn to put ourselves in their shoes
Something to say, rather than hiding in your heart and choking on others, it is better to say something directly to the other party. If you accumulate dissatisfaction with others for a long time, it will explode one day. If we feel that others are affecting our rest, we can find an appropriate time to tell them and give reasonable advice.
In fact, sometimes it is not that they are deliberately against you, but they simply do not realize that what they are doing will have a bad impact on you. If you make a reasonable suggestion, they will accept it.
Communication is the best way to resolve conflicts, so that even if there is a conflict between the roommates, it can be resolved quickly. Just talk to each other. Young people are like that, their tempers come and go as fast as they come, they are noisy one day and reconcile the next.
It's as if nothing happened yesterday. Until graduation and work, this deep friendship is still there. The most fearful thing is that they are very dissatisfied with each other, but they don't say anything, hide this dissatisfaction in their hearts, and finally the contradictions accumulate deeper and deeper.
So that in the end, it was difficult to resolve, and even when they were about to graduate, they were still in a state where the well water did not interfere with the river water.
If you can't solve the problem on your ownYou can turn to others to help us solve our problemsto provide us with some reasonable suggestions and solutions. This will allow us to reconcile with our roommates more quickly. As long as we have the heart, there is nothing that cannot be done.
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Whether in high school or college, living with roommates every day is like teeth, and there will inevitably be friction, so dealing with the relationship between roommates is also a must-do lesson. If there is a conflict between roommates, how should they be resolved?
1. Communicate with roommates.
Once there is a conflict with your roommate, you should solve it in time, otherwise the conflict will get deeper and deeper over time, and the relationship between roommates may reach the point of no repair. If there is a conflict with your roommate, you should calm down with her to communicate well, solve the problem, talk to each other sincerely, resolve the conflict, instead of burying the grudge in your heart, in the end, it is you who suffers, and the relationship between your roommates will become particularly awkward. In fact, sometimes it's better to fight each other than not to talk.
2. Understand your own shortcomings and correct them.
College encounters all kinds of people, so we can't expect others to agree with our ideas and meet our standards. When there is a conflict in the dormitory, you should review yourself, find out your shortcomings, and restrain your temper. The dormitory is inherently a collective, and everyone will have a different personality, so we have to learn to accommodate others and accept their shortcomings.
And roommates won't be able to tolerate all of our deficiencies like their parents, so we should know our own shortcomings.
3. If you really feel that it is difficult for roommates to communicate, you can change the dormitory.
I think that for those roommates who quarrel when they don't agree with each other, there is no need to make themselves unhappy for her, and it is uncomfortable to look down every day without looking up, so it is better to move out of the dormitory directly, which will also make you feel more comfortable. In fact, there are pros and cons to changing dormitories, but getting along with a roommate with a different personality every day is simply tormenting, even if you change to a new dormitory and your previous roommate will be embarrassed to see on campus, it is better to change dormitories. It is conceivable how difficult it is to live under one roof every day with conflicting roommates, and the quality of life has been affected to a certain extent.
Therefore, if there is a conflict with a roommate, we must seek a way to solve it, otherwise the conflict will be as serious as a volcanic eruption after a long time, and dealing with interpersonal relationships is also something that must be learned in life, because we will meet more people when we enter the society, and we need to adapt slowly.
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I hate those answers that make you reflect on yourself as soon as something happens, because reading too many of them will only make you depressed, timid, and then wear down your vitality, and finally ruin your college life. As a straight man of steel, I don't particularly understand relationships between girls, so I can only write a small tip or advice that I think will help you deal with relationships:
1.Don't think too complicated about other people's attacks and injuries to you, it is possible that she is just upset because the takeout you ordered is more expensive than hers.
2.No matter how much upset you have in the future, don't bring these to people in reality who are not related to this.
3.When you encounter difficulties, you must try to find a way to solve them, no one will empathize with your pain, you must resolve it yourself.
4.I don't have a deep relationship with my roommate, and I don't care about it (especially important, it is estimated that 80% of the conflicts between dormitories come from deep friendship and care).
5.Be strict with yourself and lenient with others (don't do the opposite).
6.Out of the dorm, out of the class, out of the department, out of the university. The university is big, and if you change the environment, you will find that the environment in which people get along with each other is very different.
7.Don't work with someone you know very well, unless they have a relationship with you.
8.Independent, passionate, hopeful, determined.
9.Don't think that the teacher is a saint, even in 985, there are many beasts.
10.Don't hurt yourself, you must not hurt yourself (a few days ago, I talked to my classmates at Zhejiang University about his suicide classmates, and as a result, there was a senior brother in our school on the 11th who jumped down from the 15th floor, and I wanted to write something more, but I was not satisfied with the revision, and I looked back and there was a kind of bullshit in the whole article, or the best feeling of this sentence, so it was bolded).
11.Playing with the family is the most pure-hearted.
12.Sometimes life is too bitter, and eating sugar is a good habit.
I don't know if this answer will help you in distress at some point and as I hoped, but I sincerely hope that everyone will be funny, gentle, moving, appropriate, and surging.
ps: I hope you are doing well and happy every day ( The girls are getting more and more beautiful, and the boys are getting more and more handsome.
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Ways to get your boyfriend back:
1. Know what you're doing wrong.
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Most women are very serious when they enter into a relationship
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You are redeeming, you will suffer and sacrifice happiness, this is normal. Don't start to be pessimistic and start to lose confidence just because the other person doesn't give you much. Redemption is meant to be for you to bear the pain of two people and solve the problems that remain.
You're going to be sad, you're going to feel like you're at a loss, you're going to feel like you're cheap, that's normal. But it's not that the other party is sabotaging, it's that you yourself are unwilling to improve. Your own value is actually reflected in the process of recovery, and it depends on whether you are determined to make changes.
If you quarrel unreasonably, you have to get rid of this bad habit, and you can't stand any good man who has been arguing, if not, you need to do it and communicate with each other, tell him how you love him, and if necessary, you also need to change your temper.
The forms of love that men need, including trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition, encouragement;
In redemption, there are only two kinds of impressions that the other party has of you: one is good and the other is bad.
Good examples: sweet memories, your kindness to him, all kinds of things from the past.
Bad examples: the state of the quarrel, your temper, your vexatiousness.
Of course, it will succeed, most of it is because the other party thinks more about you than on the bad side. So you have to try to make him think about your good, instead of negotiating with him in the wrong way, which will only lead to quarrels.
Remember the following points, whether it's you or him), and the stress will be much less.
1.Happily face each other. (You're happy to see him.) At the same time, make him feel that you are happy).
2.Don't put pressure on the other person. (Don't force him to make decisions or give you answers.) Natural communication, as if you had just met each other)
3.Don't mention emotional matters. (Don't remind him of your previous mistakes.) It's good for him to get to know you again).
4.You can give without expecting anything in return. (Actually, he can feel your effort.) This is a way of self-regulation in order not to disrupt the steps of recovery)
5.The topic of communication is light-hearted and pleasant. (Happiness is contagious, and so is embarrassment.) If you're nervous, he'll be embarrassed too)
6.Not afraid to touch nails. (Redemption starts with hitting a nail, don't lose your self-confidence).
7.Know how to be satisfied, don't be anxious. (It's good to make progress in stages, but don't try to get to the top just because you have a little progress.)
8.If you try hard, you won't regret it. (Even if you don't get the results you want, you can face it calmly.) Because you've done it yourself, and you're not ashamed of the relationship).
If you can grasp these principles and adjust your mindset, it will be very beneficial for your recovery. It's not like it's wrong to think this way, it's not right to do that.
This is not the mentality of facing him, and it is not a way to redeem him.
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After getting married, I think it's better not to live with my parents. But it also depends on the situation.
The first situation is that the parents are in good health. In this case, it is better not to live together for the following reasons.
First of all, although in our country, it is a tradition to live with the man's parents after marriage, but I think that if two or even three generations live together, there will definitely be many inconveniences in life, and the generation gap is a big problem, and there will be a generation gap with one's own parents, let alone those who are not their own parents.
Secondly, the living habits are different. The lifestyle of people of different ages will be very different, young people's attitude towards life is more of an attitude of enjoyment, and the requirements for the quality of life are more and more refined, but the older generation is more of a careful budget for life, and feel that life is to live steadily, which is two diametrically opposed attitudes to life, and there will be countless frictions when they collide together.
Third, the issue of identity. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seems to have been an unsolved mystery in the world since ancient times, and it is clear that every mother-in-law is changed by a daughter-in-law, but when she is a mother-in-law, she will have selective amnesia ......
The war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has never stopped, in terms of identity, one is the man's mother, the one who raised him, the other is the man's lover, both are the most important people in life, but they can hardly get along in harmony, in order to avoid the intensification of the conflict, it is better to live separately.
Finally, there is the attitude towards the next generation. Grandparents spoil their grandchildren, and parents want to be strict, which will become a new contradiction in life.
The second situation is that the parents are not in good health. This requires living together, she raised you, and when you grow up, you have to protect her in her old age.
It's not the old society anymore, although the problem of love and marriage is a certain right to suggest, but there is absolutely no right to decide, you have to figure this out, as long as you are adults, you can call the shots, whether legally or emotionally, this makes sense, so you have to grasp it yourself, since you like it, since you love, then don't let it slip out of your hands!
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