If a child lives with an elderly person, will his personality change?

I myself went to live with my grandparents not long after I was born, and I lived there until I was 12 years old. To be honest, I think I still miss the days when I lived with my grandparents, I was very free at that time, I didn't have any worries, and I had a lot of fun with my neighbor's friends every day after school and weekends, maybe it was just the beauty of childhood, but I think it had something to do with the fact that I lived at my grandparents' house. Later, when I returned to live in my own house, I felt quite unaccustomed, although the living equipment and conditions have improved a lot, but I still miss the days of living at my grandmother's house, although my parents are also very good to me, but I still miss my grandparents are good to me.

I think that whether children living with the elderly will affect the child's personality is conditional, not a definite answer. It depends on a number of factors, such as whether the child is introverted or not, and the age of the child when they live with the elderly. If the child is extroverted, he may become introverted after living with the elderly, because the life of the elderly may be boring, and of course the child may continue to be an extrovert, so these are uncertain.

If you live with the elderly for a long time, the children will learn the habits of the elderly, which I think is certain, because I have it myself, and I have seen a lot of news about children going to square dance with the elderly, which I think are very likely habits. There is also the fact that the elderly will dote on their children and get used to children everywhere, which may have a certain impact on the children's future.

In general, I think I still prefer to live with my grandparents, after all, I was brought up by them. I think it's hard to determine whether living with the elderly will affect the child's personality, because there are too many factors and there is a lot of uncertainty.

Fair to say.

I went back to my hometown with my grandparents for six months, and although my parents would bring my sister back to my hometown every week to see me, I still felt that they were strangers at that time, and even called my mother aunt.

Maybe it's because of this that I have been insecure since I was a child, and I have always been inclose to my parents.

Because the environment in which I grew up was different, my sister's personality and I are also very different.

I was very stubborn and stubborn, and when my mother told me that when I first lived with them, for example, when my father scolded me, I would skip eating, run to the house and lock the door to avoid sulking. Another point is that I am a little cautious, and I can't think about it when I encounter something.

These characters of mine should be following my grandfather, although he is the best in my eyes and super spoils me, but in the eyes of others, he is an out-and-out old stubborn.

In fact, it is not only the personality of children who live with the elderly will change, but also the personality of children living with any different people.

Because children's personalities are malleable, they will involuntarily imitate the people around them, which is why we emphasize that we should always pay attention to our words and deeds in front of children.

Here I want to say a point, since parents choose to let their children live with the elderly, they must do a good job that the children will be close to the elderly, and their personalities will change with the elderly.

As a parent, don't ask your child why he doesn't kiss you.

Because in a child's world, the criteria for judging things are simple:

Whoever is good to me is a good person, and someone who treats me badly is a bad person.

If you grow up with me, I will kiss you; If you don't accompany me, I won't kiss you.

<> when I was a kid would, but I wouldn't when I grew up. Perhaps, when you are around the old man, when you leave the old man, this influence will gradually disappear.

Listen to me.

Children live with the elderly, most commonly left-behind children. Actually, I used to be a left-behind child, but now I'm an adult. I've seen a lot of left-behind children, so I feel like I have a say in this issue.

Take some friends I have met as an example, I think the following effects of the elderly on children, the following aspects are worth noting:

1.A frugal lifestyle

I don't think children who have lived with the elderly tend to have a lifestyle that is too extravagant. Except, of course, in exceptional cases. Why?

Because children will not only be influenced by the concept of frugal life, but will also be forced to be frugal. The concept of the elderly is relatively solid, when the child wastes things, the old man often looks unpleasant, and then scolds, and then a lot of ideological and moral education. Over time, children develop the habit of frugality.

Of course, when children grow up, as their interactions with their peers deepen, they will not be so frugal in eating and drinking.

2.Slightly conservative ideology

I don't think I need to say more about this. Do people who live with the elderly still go to nightclubs every day? It's not just about being conservative in interpersonal interactions, it's about lifestyle, morality, and so on.

Of course, as children grow older and enter society, they will be influenced by this ever-changing society and gradually open up.

To sum up, the environment does affect people, and the extent of the impact depends on each person's thinking habits.

If you have any objections, please feel free to raise them

Children live with the elderly, and their personalities will change to a certain extent. For the children who live with the elderly in the city, the old people are more unconditional love for the children, most of the old people in the city have pensions, have child support, and are worry-free in life. Then when the child lives with the elderly, he will develop all kinds of bad habits, and in my opinion, those bad habits will slowly change the child's personality, and he may become selfish, unsociable, and so on.

Moreover, in the era when the elderly lived, the most concerned was whether the children could be fed, and other aspects of training were not considered at all. So even now, it's not that I hate knowing how to make children form a good character. There is also a type of highly educated elderly who may have their own unique methods of education, and children living with these elderly people may be able to form a good character.

There are also those left-behind children whose parents are working far away and can only live in the countryside with the elderly, the elderly may be busy with all kinds of farm work at home, busy for their livelihood, and sometimes they may not even be able to reach the children's food and clothing, so those left-behind children may form two extremes, the first is to help the elderly do all kinds of work at a young age and become sensible. There is also the possibility of unsupervised and bad acquaintances, and slowly change their personality. But in any case, most of the left-behind children are silent, and there are not too many people who can guide their growth, and their personalities are easy to change.

But in any case, children living with the elderly should be carefully considered, and the child's personality plays an important role in the child's life.

I think I feel quite touched by this question, so let's take myself as an example.

I'll talk about my situation first, I was brought up by my grandmother, although my parents came home from work every day, but they were too busy, and most of the time they were with my grandmother.

Anyway, my grandmother is a strong woman in my mind, she has five children, so as a senior mother, she has experienced a lot of twists and turns in her life. Before I was born, my grandfather passed away. That's why she's strong. Alright, let's get down to business.

From elementary school to junior high school, I was raised by my grandmother, who stayed with me longer than my parents. In my heart, I always have the feeling that she is always kinder and more affectionate than my mother. Now that we are separated, I miss her more than my mother, yes.

Having told my story, I would like to make a few points.

If the child lives with the elderly when he is older, his personality will not change much. Because character is formed from a young age, it is not so easy to change.

If a child is taken by his parents for a period of time, and then brought by his grandparents, I think his personality will change. Because people are always learning animals, especially children, they have a strong ability to imitate when they are young, and if they live with their grandparents or grandparents, they will imitate their words and deeds and behaviors, and their personalities will slowly change.

Again, I don't know if it's off topic. I still recommend that parents bring their children with them from an early age, one is because of emotional problems, and the other is because of personality problems.

Children who grow up with the elderly are more introverted, not independent, prone to low self-esteem, withdrawn, sensitive, and so on。Some parents will choose to leave their children to be taken care of by the elderly for various reasons and go out to work by themselves, although it is a forced move, but it has a great impact on the child's personality. You must know that children who live with the elderly will have many flaws in their personalities.

The first is that it is not independent, and it is necessary to know the educational philosophy of the elderly.

Completely different from young people, they are always separated by generations, spoiling their grandchildren to the extreme, letting them do it, arranging everything properly, and not letting the children do it. As a result, the child is already very old, but still unable to be independent. It's hard to get along with others after entering society, but they all want to rely on their families, or they look forward to pie in the sky.

It is very detrimental to future development.

The second is to be more withdrawn and sensitive, knowing that the company of parents can bring a sense of security to children.

Although the old man is very good to his children, there is always a gap in the middle, not to mention that no relationship can replace father's love and mother's love. In the case of insecurity, the child's personality will become withdrawn and sensitive, they have low self-esteem, do not want to contact others, and do not know how to express problems when they have problems, and this character defect may affect the child's life.

Finally, they are more introverted, the elderly themselves are not good at education, and they do not know how to communicate with others. When parents take care of their children, they usually let them have more contact with children of the same age and can learn more knowledge. For example, it has been reported before that the elderly take their children to play mahjong or go to square dancing.

In this way, over time, the child will become very introverted if he does not make friends. Therefore, although it is important to make money, the cultivation of children is even more important, and parents should still take their children with them as much as possible to take care of them personally. You must know that for them, it doesn't matter if they suffer some hardships with their parents, as long as they can be with their parents.

Extremely clingy, not independent, grandparents with children is intergenerational education, the average elderly are extremely spoiled for children, and it can even be said that they are resigned. And the elderly generally arrange everything and do not let the children do it. Therefore, children who sleep with the elderly are generally extremely clingy in terms of personality and are not independent at all.

Children will be very selfish, disobedient, easily rebellious, very temperamental, and will not think from the perspective of others.

When you grow up, you will become very willful, very selfish, no matter what you do, you only think of yourself, and you are not filial to your parents, and you are still more extreme in doing things, but if you encounter some big things, you will be more inferior.