Why is it that everyone around you has succeeded, but only you have not?

Because I don't have as much ambition as theirs. Their goal is to have lofty ideals, and some people just want to be admitted to graduate school, and if they don't get into it for a year, they can work hard for another year; Some people just want to start a business, no matter how difficult it is, they will persevere until they succeed; Some people just want to work in foreign companies, so they learn foreign languages very well, but I don't have such a lofty goal, I just want a stable life, I can always be by my parents' side, I can cook for my parents every day, I can chat with my parents, I am very satisfied.

Last year, there was a boy who came back from the army, Maomao, who became our new classmate, and although he was always late for class, he was very polite and thoughtful. The other two male classmates in our class are just messing around every day, and they sleep when class comes, and they wake up after class, and go back to the dormitory and then sleep, and he is different, he is studying what good projects to start a business every day, and finally, he found a better opportunity, so he doesn't care about the rules in the school, and he is on the road to entrepreneurship alone. But he tried hard enough, and in the end he really succeeded.

There are also some seniors and seniors, and now they can still be seen in the library, last year's failure in the graduate school entrance examination did not bring a big blow to them, and if they can't take the exam for a year, they will take the exam for another year, I admire their perseverance, because I don't have enough confidence myself, and I don't want to sit in the library every day to study with peace of mind, I am a fun-loving person, so I am not suitable for the road of the postgraduate entrance examination. I know myself very well, I just want to work faster now, and I don't have any special pursuits.

It's just that everyone's ideals are different, everyone's fate is different, success and failure are only relative, and those who work hard will always succeed.

I don't know when success became a standard that can be compared. And this standard setting is nothing more than the word fame and fortune. Personally, I think this standard is problematic in the first place.

For example, a teacher who teaches in a rural area has been poor all his life, and he may not have accumulated any wealth in his old age. But he was all over the world, and through his education, he really changed the lives of those rural children. In this case, in the success standard system of the society, is this volunteer teacher considered successful?

For example, in the movie "Charlotte's Troubles", Charlotte, who finally understood that Ma Dongmei was the true love of life, still had nothing to do, just hugged his wife every day. So is he considered a success?

Success should be a system of individual criteria, not universal criteria. Just like Tang Bohu's "Song of the Peach Blossom Temple" said: If the manifest person is compared to a hermit, one is on the flat ground and the other is in the sky.

If the flowers and wine are compared to the carriages and horses, why should they be idle and I will be idle. So other people's success has nothing to do with your life. When he chose to run for his career, you chose to live a stable life.

Then he may have a successful career, but your family is happy.

Furthermore, success is the end of a goal, not an end. For example, success in the college entrance examination, success in job hunting, success in love, and so on. It's just that you're chasing an accomplishment of something.

Everyone's goals are different, and the criteria for success are naturally different. So it's not that you haven't succeeded, it's that you define your own success as the same standard as everyone else, so naturally it's difficult. It's like a good chef who has a lot of entrepreneurs around him, and he thinks that the entrepreneur is successful, and then he is not successful as a chef?

This is clearly problematic. Because these excellent entrepreneurs may not even be able to distinguish between starch and soda.

And suppose you think the standard for success is a monthly income of 100,000 yuan, and you now earn 50,000 yuan a month, you think that you are not successful. But in the eyes of some people who earn three or four thousand a month, have you been super successful?

So don't let other people's success affect your steps, go your own way, and you will have your own success. I remember the old saying that more goods have to be thrown away, and people have to die than people. Live your life well, why put so much pressure on yourself by other people's standards?

Because I don't have much perseverance, I fish for three days and dry nets for two days in everything, and give up halfway.

Because most people want to be comfortable, and now, immediately, right away.

But no successful person is comfortable. If you choose to be comfortable right away, then you are giving up on success.

You take the most successful thing you've ever done, before you succeeded, were you easy? It's not easy, it's not comfortable. For example, most people have experienced the college entrance examination, but if you want to get a score that you are satisfied with, which one is not after a long period of hard work?

Previously, there was a plan for Tsinghua Xueba on the Internet: go to bed at 1 a.m., get up at 6 a.m., start studying at 6:40, and the schedule for the whole day is so full that you can't even stuff a needle into it. This kind of life will not be comfortable for anyone.

Successful people are not unconscious, they are just willing to endure discomfort, because they understand a truth, in this world, although there are many smart people, but the vast majority of people are just ordinary people, everyone's starting line is about the same, the only way to stand out is to work harder than the vast majority of people.

How simple the success study is, it applies to everyone, as long as you work hard, you are enough to beat most people.

But this is also the deadliest, many people know it, but they just can't do it. The reason why they can't do it is very simple, they want to be comfortable too much, just like some of my classmates in my writing class, they are aiming for "how to learn to write without effort", this attitude itself is problematic, and you can't find "a way to learn to write without effort" in the world.

As long as you learn a skill in the way you are comfortable, you will not succeed. The proper method only allows you to avoid detours and improve the efficiency of practice, but in the end, whether you master it or not depends on training.

Is there such a thing that you don't have to work on, but you can get a lot of benefits?

Of course, there is a feature of this kind of thing, either the risk is high, or the probability is low, the latter is like buying a two-color ball, 2 yuan to get it, and then without the slightest effort, but to get a good result, the probability is very low.

The success we aspire to is a thing that has great benefits and a high probability of being realized, and such a thing must be fought for through "hard work".

The process of hard work is to fight against the weaknesses of human nature, laziness, discouragement, low self-esteem, etc., are always waiting for opportunities to attack you, and of course you will not be comfortable. But as long as you understand this truth, don't think about being comfortable if you want to succeed, and you will be much more relieved.

In the show "Youth with You", the famous agent Yang Tianzhen asked the contestants a question: "Do you want to live a happy life or a successful life?" ”

She said that if you want to live a successful life, you have to pay for your unhappiness, because success means sacrificing a lot of your emotions.

And none of these emotions are comfortable, in other words, if you are going to live a successful life, you must be willing to bear discomfort.

Why are some people just more successful than others, earn more money, have good jobs, good relationships, healthy bodies, live happily and happily all day long, and seem to be living better than others. And there is not much difference between people who are busy working and can only make ends meet, but why are some people able to succeed and overcome all odds to achieve success, while others are not?

Psychologists have discovered that the secret is the human state of mind. A philosopher said, "Your state of mind is your true master." A great man said, "Either you go and you take control of life, or life takes control of you, and your mindset determines who is the mount and who is the jockey." ”

Whether a person can succeed depends on his attitude, and the difference between successful people and losers is that successful people always use the most positive thinking, the most optimistic spirit and the most brilliant experience to dominate and control their lives. Losers, on the contrary, are guided by past failures and doubts.

Some people like to say that their current situation is caused by others, and these people often say that their ideas cannot change the status quo, but our situation is not caused by the surrounding environment, and in the end, it is up to us to decide how we look at life and grasp it.

The most difficult thing to be a human being is to grasp a degree, no matter what you do.

As long as you are free to control the degree of doing things, you have reached the highest level of being a human being, or at least you can be regarded as a successful person.

All successes have generally been failures.

It's just that when others tell you the lessons of failure, you treat others as perfunctory.

However, when others tell you that success is needed to be lucky, you really think that others are just relying on luck.

Wrong perceptions create narrow horizons.

Therefore, he mistakenly thinks that the hard harvest of others is worth the money, but his own saliva is regarded as a sweat in the spine.

mistakenly take the silent efforts of others for granted, but turn their sweat into tears.

In the end, the words are thorny, hurting others and hurting themselves.

With hatred in his heart, he was indignant.