What are the manifestations of mature people?

I am an extremely introverted person. In the past, my family attributed my dislike of speaking in front of the living to being ignorant and immature. I also hated the word "mature" for a while.

In my eyes, maturity was far away from me, because I didn't know how to behave in the world, but immersed in my own world. But in the years since I entered the society, I have slowly realized my maturity. Although I still can't be a lotus flower, at least I know how to take responsibility and understand that life is different, and there is no need to force everything.

In the eyes of outsiders, I am a person with a mature label. Pay more and more attention to the cost of time, and do not waste time on unnecessary socializing, unnecessary conversations. Usually you are not the type I like, you can feel it in a few words, and the words are not speculative for more than half a sentence.

Know yourself better, don't make too many excuses for your past self, and accept your ordinariness more and more. For things and knowledge in their own unknown fields, they will not rush to express their opinions, and they will not rush to the limelight unnecessarily. ‍‍

Maturity, in a word: the standard of maturity is not in age, appearance, nor in sleek, sophisticated or not, but in whether you can objectively recognize the real world, whether you can get along with others better, and whether you can bear the corresponding responsibilities and pressures, rather than wishful thinking by your own temperament or blindly evading responsibility. Understand the distance and boundaries between people.

I won't have any undifferentiated demands on others, and I won't get old and trouble others. Even with parents, wives and children, there are certain boundaries and scales. ‍‍

will choose more carefully whether to invest in a relationship, a pat on the head and hot-headed when you were young have become a thing of the past, and there are more factors to consider whether two people can be together. Family, money, values, etc., are all factors to consider. Respect the differences between individuals, and each person's behavior has a behavioral logic related to their growth environment and experience.

This logic may even be subconscious, and the parties themselves are not yet aware of it. What we need to do is understand and try to avoid it if we can't. I won't like someone easily, I won't hate someone easily, and I won't form a stereotype of anyone.

Because human nature is complex, everyone is a polyhedron. In the corners you can't see, there may be hidden the true character of others. Therefore, keep an appropriate sense of distance from others. ‍‍

Stay independent, and the only person you can rely on for anything is yourself. In this world, no one has the responsibility and obligation to teach you what you should do. Only by paying attention to oneself and improving oneself is the best path.

You can make your own decisions on the path you want to take, and no matter how much others say, they are also standing on their own standpoint, and they don't fully understand you. Even family members are sometimes not the ones who know you best. When making decisions, you will pay more attention to the feelings of your family, and no one will be good to you for no reason except for your family and loved ones.

If there are such people, please be careful about your relationship with each other.

You will meet many people in your life, there are passers-by who come and go, and there are also close friends who stop for you; There are relatives who are connected by flesh and blood, and there are also partners who have the same heart. Be grateful for the encounter with them, remember the time spent with each other, and not be overly melancholy and obsessed with parting. Life is like a reverse journey, and I am also a pedestrian.

Cherish everything that is worth cherishing, and learn to express gratitude and love for them in words, and don't be stingy with words. If you can't do it, at least in terms of behavior. Will control their emotions, bad emotions are easy to infect others, no one wants to be friends with a person with too much negative energy.

In the same way, too much exposure to emotions can only be considered childish. ‍‍

In the past, I always looked at others, and I always cared about how others thought of me, and rarely cared about how I saw myself. Slowly care about your feelings and opinions about yourself, slowly find out your goals, lifestyle, and state, and consider whether you are satisfied with your true thoughts in your heart, and how to correct your dissatisfaction to make yourself more satisfied. I like those places in me, I don't like those places, I like to be alone occasionally, I think about something seriously, it's all fruitless thinking, but I feel very meaningful, respect my feelings, which I have ignored too much before. ‍‍

From an ignorant college student to three years of graduation and work now, stumbling all the way to explore the direction of growth, from the beginning of the excessive emphasis on work salary, to the current self-growth and future development prospects as the main goal, and resigned from a job with a monthly salary of nearly 2w, after countless nights of ups and downs, I think I have indeed matured a lot. ‍‍

I have a cousin who has a good family condition, he is handsome, more outgoing and cheerful, and when he was in high school, there were many girls chasing him. The relatives around him were all praising him, and when his aunt mentioned him, she was also proud. But one day, my grandmother came to me and told me that my cousin had fallen out of love and was crying very sadly.

I listened and felt very strange, a big man, crying like this? Is there no other woman in the world? At that time, I said, what is this, and I despise it in my heart.

Ironically, in high school, I also fell out of love, cried profusely, felt like the sky was falling, and did a series of stupid things. At that moment, recalling his contempt for his cousin, he was simply ashamed. Since then, I have always been in awe of what I have not experienced.

Sometimes, learning to keep your mouth shut is really a sign of a person's maturity. ‍‍

Mature people are very calm and calm when they encounter things, they don't make any expressions, they have calculations in their hearts, and such people are very capable of doing things.

Maturity lies in the heart, what kind of things to deal with, the more mature people are, the more they will steadily analyze the problem, not rush to see the seriousness of the problem, and then solve it.

Understand that everyone is fighting a war that you can't see, so try to be kind to others, and if you can't, at least keep quiet.

They don't spend time on pointless arguments because they have a certain number in their minds, and they don't waste time on things that aren't worth it.

Mature people are assertive, do not affect things because of their mood, and can take the overall situation into account.

Mature cave people Nacha usually exhibit the following:

1.Thoughtful: They think deeply before making decisions and actions, weigh the pros and cons, and foresee the consequences.

2.Responsible: Be responsible for what you say and do, and be willing to face the decisions you make and the consequences of them.

3.Self-confidence: Have healthy self-esteem and self-confidence, and dare to accept your own shortcomings.

4.Empathy and caring: Paying attention to others, respecting their views and feelings, and being able to provide support and help.

5.Strong values: Possess clear values and principles, and be able to self-discipline in terms of moral and personal beliefs.

6.Knowledgeable: Possess broad and systematic knowledge, and be able to think independently and make informed decisions.

7.Higher emotional intelligence: the ability to manage and express one's own emotions, understand and experience the emotions of others, and have good emotional stability and resilience to frustration.

Some people, who have lived most of their lives, still haven't grown into real "adults".

1. The reason for this is mostly because they have not understood the various "routines" hidden in the corners of life.

You must know that a truly mature person has the following eight manifestations.

2. In work and life, I have found my own balance in life.

Life is like a multi-faceted mirror, each of which presents a different state of life. The two most important sides of this are "work" and "life".

A truly mature person who knows how to balance his busy work with his leisure life.

Young people have always liked to sprinkle their blood on the job, they stay up all night, forget to sleep and eat, just to be able to use the overdrawn body and overfulfilled performance, in exchange for the good news of promotion and salary increase.

2. As a result, young people have lost their nightlife, abandoned their leisure weekends, and even neglected the old and young of the family.

We turn a blind eye to the disappointed eyes of our family members again and again; For the souls that have long been left behind, we pretend not to know.

3. To put it bluntly, this state of life is very unbalanced.

Although work is important, it should not neglect your own life and family. Relaxation is a degree that can last a long time.

4. Only when we find the balance of life can we calmly walk freely on the mirrors of life.

This kind of freedom is a common trait that every truly mature person has.

Inner self-confidence comes from the "inside" rather than the "outside".

It is often said that a person's self-confidence is inextricably linked to factors such as appearance, economic strength and social status.

Indeed, the pink-faced peach blossom-like beauty often shows a sunny and confident smile on her face;

2. A wealthy man with a lot of property can't hide his bright watch in his confident gestures.

It seems that people's self-confidence is really the best of these external factors. But if you think about it, how superficial this idea is.

In the face of twilight, beauties will lose their former smiles in Gu Ying's self-pity;

3. After the rich man lost all his property, he took off his gorgeous clothes and disappeared from everyone.

A truly mature person, inner self-confidence is never ** in these "things outside the body". The vast pattern and profound insights are the cradle of self-confidence.

1. Break away and no longer like to mix circles.

As you gradually mature, you start to stop liking circles. When you come back from the party carnival, you gradually feel a sense of emptiness and boredom. Sometimes you even feel that instead of mingling in circles, it is better to stay by yourself and enjoy the silence of solitude.

This is the first major manifestation of inner maturity, from the excitement of the outside gradually to the inner silence, more deeply understand that there are not many true feelings in the world, and the social interaction in many circles is actually a kind of tiredness. And learning to break away, live a real quality social life, choose your favorite friends, and have in-depth communication is a kind of comfort. Participating in the circle less is an emphasis on one's own time, and it is also responsible for one's own life.

It is much more meaningful to spend time on the people and things you care about the most than to participate in social interactions without a purpose.

Psychology: Maturity.

2. Be grateful and enjoy family affection.

When you are young, you will feel that friendship is important and you will spend a lot of time making friends. But as we mature inside, we find that family affection, which is an important part of our lives, needs to be treated well rather than friendship. Embrace family affection again, because I know that parents are getting older, children need to be cared for when they grow up, and they prefer to spend more time with their relatives;

The manifestation of growing up and maturity is to begin to know how to be grateful, and he used to think that the world seemed to owe him, but now he slowly knows that it is a miracle to come to the world. I used to think that I couldn't do it without me in the world, but now I slowly know that cherishing the people around me and letting the people around you have meaning because of you is the greatest mission and value.

Psychology: Maturity.

3. Self-discipline, gradual work and rest rules.

The third sign of growing maturity is that you like to live a more disciplined life. I no longer like to stay up late, and I see many people around me falling down like this because they are sick. So I really understand the revolutionary capital of the body, prefer a regular life, no longer hungry for a full meal, but prefer to eat healthy food, and choose long-lost exercise again, because it can bring more physical energy and energy to myself.

A sister in the circle of friends said that taking care of yourself and developing a regular schedule and rest is not only for herself, but also because she slowly understands the burden and pressure on her body, and only when she is in good health can she continue to fight with life. I know more that taking care of my body is also because my relatives need you, and there is a heavy responsibility and expectations for life in a regular life.

Compared with immature people, whether it is in interpersonal relationships or doing things, mature people will be calmer and more thoughtful than immature people. Next, I will introduce to you the performance of some truly mature people, let's take a look.

01 Don't get agitated easily.

Really mature people, when doing things normally, will slowly become less easy to be anxious, even if they encounter some bad things, they will not be blindly anxious, and their personality will become more easy-going.

02 Treat things rationally.

For a truly mature person, when encountering problems, they will consider from multiple angles and aspects, rather than just grasping one point, in addition, when considering problems, thinking is becoming more and more rational.

03 Less impulsive in language and behavior.

Really mature people, in ordinary life, whether it is language or behavior, will not be as impulsive as before, even if it is a thing that makes others look very angry, but for really mature people, when encountering these angry things, the tone will not be so choking, and the behavior will become more comfortable.

04 Don't follow the crowd.

A truly mature person, in the ordinary life of the people. I don't care about other people's opinions.,Won't follow the crowd of life.,For what you like.,You can really don't care about external things.。 When encountering something important, I will not cringe as before, but will become more able to grasp opportunities.

05 Improved empathy.

Truly mature people, in the ordinary life, in the process of interpersonal communication with other people, the ability to empathize will slowly improve. When looking at some things, I will put myself in the shoes of others. Instead of going your own way as before, you just think about your own ideas.

06 Cherish time more.

If a person is truly mature, he will cherish his time more than before, and once he is mature, he will think of the past time, not only reminiscing about the past time, but also reflecting on the past time. In the process of reflection, you will clearly realize how much time you have wasted, and you will cherish your time more when you do things in the future.

07 I don't get tired of living.

Truly mature people, in ordinary life, compared with before, will behave less tired, when they were not very mature before, they will fight for various interests, but after real maturity, they just want to live quietly.

08 Understand others.

Truly mature people, in ordinary life, will be more understanding of others, some things involve different points of view, do not care whether others will be their own suggestions, for others do not want to suggest, will not be forced to let others implement, treat many things can fully take care of other people's ideas, but in some more critical times, will still follow their own heart.