What should I do if I always put pressure on myself and force myself?

It's hard to be too old.

Besides, people have different goals. Some people are just unwilling to be ordinary and pursue vigorous; Sometimes it's just ordinary, just eat and drink. You can't say who's right and who's wrong.

I think if it weren't for her strong personality all the way, she wouldn't have had to create her excellent results.

She's lucky to have a friend like you, do what she can, you're two people, you can't hope that her thoughts will be the same as yours.

Well, you should tell her that everyone has their own way of life, and of course we have to pursue our goals, but we should achieve them according to the actual situation, not whimsically. We can't always compare ourselves to others, so we go our own way.

Lessons from the past: All in moderation.

If you are not mentally healthy, it is recommended to go to a psychologist for a procedure**.

You should see a psychiatrist and have the right goals in life.

There is a problem with her life values, and it is useless to enlighten her current situation, so you calm down and discuss life and faith with her!

Now that the times are different, listening to you say this, what can she do if she is unwilling to be ordinary at her current age? In fact, no matter how ordinary the position is, you can play your own shining side, and people can only adapt to the environment, which is the helplessness of life

Putting pressure on yourself is a motivation and can make you more perfect. If the pressure is too heavy, there are several ways to reduce the pressure: 1. First of all, we must maintain a good attitude, face problems positively, and understand ourselves correctly

Be self-aware of your physical fitness, intellectual ability, social adaptability, etc., and try to avoid doing things that are beyond your strength, or avoid engaging in activities that are not suitable for your physical and mental strength, causing unnecessary pressure. 2. If the pressure is too much, you can learn to self-regulate and strengthen your self-cultivation. Vent your inner unhappiness and depression in an appropriate way to relieve psychological depression and mental tension.

Good at self-regulation, there is tension and relaxation. 3. You can do specific things of interest, such as traveling, chatting, listening, and releasing pressure. Or find a place where no one is and shout loudly.

Remember to give my little sister a thumbs up, kiss.

Question: I am under pressure to go to graduate school now, but I don't know why I like to find troubles and increase pressure on myself, as if I can't study if I am not perfect, and I am very stressed, such as when I look in the mirror, I feel that my face is crooked and I want to change the size of my face.

You need to concentrate on your graduate school entrance exams, dear.

My dear, if you put a lot of pressure on yourself, it will also cause your self-like state to become a forced state. Because you have been in a state of nervous tension, if the brain and other organs are not relaxed, it will cause many diseases and neurological disorders, so you must relax yourself a little more and go out for a walk.

If you feel too stressed, you must learn to relax, you can listen to **, pay attention to your favorite things and exercises, which can effectively achieve the effect of stress reduction. Yun Sui gives himself a warm hug, which can also achieve good results.

Therefore, when encountering any problems, you must know how to confide in others, release pressure, and pay attention when talking to others. Listen to each other's opinions and do the following.

1.Ask for perspectives. Encourage the other person to speak their minds, and to break the ice in a conversation, you just need to understand the other person's point of view. If you can do it without forcing the other person to accept your point of view, but encouraging the other person to speak up about theirs, you can get on the right track.

2.Confirm your feelings. If asking directly doesn't get the other person to speak, you can create a greater sense of security by confirming your feelings.

When the other person's words and tone of voice are incompatible with the physical performance, we should grasp this detail to understand how the person feels. For example: "You seem to be angry with me" ......

3.Redescribed. Redescribe the other person's expression in your own words, while taking care to stay calm. This will make the other person feel like you're trying to understand their feelings and support them to speak up about what's going on in their hearts.

4.Proactive bootstrapping. The expression active guidance comes from the concept of "filling pump".

If you've ever used an old-fashioned hand pump, you'll understand the metaphorical implications. When using this pump, you have to fill it with water to start the machine. Then, it quietly began to function normally.

It's the same with listening to the other person in a conversation, sometimes you have to make some guesses about the other person's thoughts and feelings before you can open their conversation box smoothly.

It's better to comfort yourself.

The Taoist concept of no desire and no desire is actually very difficult to do.

The main thing is that you are too much with the pursuit of perfection, everything will want the best, in fact, sometimes, who sees so much, and you can't let go of interacting with people, I think it is a psychological factor, there may also be personality reasons, find more people to enlighten and enlighten yourself, and it will be fine in the future.

In fact, we didn't dare to face mistakes, so we didn't even get started. Maybe let go and try more, and everything will change.