Let everyone give advice on housework!!!

It's a bit messy, but if you look closely, you can understand that the main problem is that you and your sister still have 1w debts and your sister is married, and because your father left early, you and your wife have to accompany and send things, right?

What I think is that it still depends on the customs of your hometown, etc. If this is in my house, the 1w debt is not said to be from the brother, because you owe it when you got married, and you should pay it out of your sister's accompaniment, because there is no father, your brother is the father, and the salary from the sister's work is her own money, and he is willing to give it to the family or save for himself, and others have nothing to say, (if you want to use it, you can borrow it, maybe my sister doesn't want you to pay it back, hehe).

ps: If my sister marries, it's not just about accompanying it, but also about the bride price, how much is the bride price, who is in charge of it, you and your sister and the elders in the family have a good discussion.

I think it's better to buy your sister an electric car, after all, that's your sister, it stands to reason that she has no obligation to help you pay off your debts, and it doesn't matter how much the dowry is, if you have money, give her a little, if you don't have money, give less, what's so difficult about this.

I think you're the elder brother.

My sister lives with her, because she has grown up, and it is normal to have food.

But it's not normal for you to ask her to help you pay off your debts. It's your debt, after all.

Besides, four thousand in two years is about the same, which is enough for her food. She can still enter and exit the house at any time before she is married.

Your sister-in-law's wife can't have any grievances at all, is it your sister's business to repay the debt? Really.

Speaking of escort, your sister only comes once in a lifetime, your father is not there, as the eldest son is the father, if you have more, if you don't, you will give less, and you will not be asked to take care of her for the rest of your life.

Your brother wants his sister to pay off your debts for you! You've got a "long-term worker"!

Housework disputes are an adult's business, and if you don't solve the problem, don't let the offspring continue. Educating her daughter to know the affection between the elder and the young is a matter of life for her. My personal opinion is that I should go or go.

Accommodating people is a compulsory course for each of us. Of course, it is best to be able to communicate and solve, at least one parent should practice it for her daughter, know that she will talk about things, and do not discuss right and wrong behind her back.

In addition, this is by no means a matter of convincing, so that it is called atmosphere, and there is room and possibility for further discussion.

I think you did the right thing and very much agree, I wish you peace and a happy Mid-Autumn Festival!

As a family, family affection is stronger than water, no matter what happens, family affection cannot be parted.

My brother doesn't come to your house to pay New Year's greetings, it's his fault. When you go to his house, you are generous and tolerant. So, don't worry about it, and continue to pay New Year's greetings until he is moved.

It stands to reason that your sister has the ability to help you pay off some of your debts! Because it's a family!

But she doesn't have to help you pay off your debts, she has already given you 4,000, which is considered a sensible sister!

The problem of electric cars can also be dealt with simply, and it is also because of the needs of work to buy her, why should I feel wronged as a sister-in-law?

No matter how soon or late she gets married, you can buy her some decent dowry if you can! Without that, it's easier to propose. What's more, when she gets married, the man will also pay a part of the bride price!

You are the only brother in the family, just like a father! should be responsible for her, as a brother and sister-in-law, you don't need to care about these strengths and weaknesses!

After reading what you said, I think you are too shrewd!

It's useless for us to give you ideas, this problem is not for us to solve, emotionally speaking, will your wife not support her adoptive parents because they did not give her dowry (under the premise that her husband did not actually give her mother's bride price)? Legally, I told you, "Your mother-in-law didn't help you, so you don't have to worry about her," and she sued the court, and you not only have to pay alimony, but also shame you.

You are actually unbalanced, you can discuss this with your wife, ask about the plan for the support of the elderly on both sides in the future, this is nothing to be embarrassed about, rich families and ordinary people have to consider this issue the same. Moreover, her parents are vegetable sellers, and whether they have corresponding insurance, these should be asked, especially if the old man himself has a basic plan. In fact, I think you may be worried a little earlier, you will calculate, the old man and the old lady are not not calculating, the general countryside pays attention to the son's pension, and the house is given to the son, isn't it just to support him?

At least they can't calculate their savings for their son at the moment, and then rely on their son-in-law to support his old age.

Of course, maybe you think your brother-in-law is not very good, so you are worried that the final truth is what you guessed, but everything is still undecided, isn't it? The best way is for your wife to discuss with her parents, write the name of the old man in the house, even if it is a notarization, and give the son a person if the son is filial in the future, so that they also have a place to rely on.

As a non-parent mother, it is not easy to take care of two children. And also educated your wife well, didn't he?

The older generation has the responsibility to raise their children, and when the children are older, they naturally have the obligation to support their parents. Don't disagree with the elderly on the issue of supporting the elderly just because they are not happy about some things.

There are two things that you should do well to support the elderly1, teach your children by example 2, and don't do things that you will regret.

Because I can hear that you are just angry, and you have no intention of not supporting the elderly, so why bother yourself?

Your mother-in-law and father-in-law still have a little peasant consciousness in their hearts, and they feel that their son is the pillar of the family, and they have to give everything to their son, because the son has no house, and no girl is willing to marry.

You also have to understand this, you are also the son of the family, if you don't buy a house, will your wife marry you? Also, the old man's money is the old man's, who they are willing to give it to, no one cares, and what you meet is quite good.

There are also many old people who use the bride price money to buy a house for their son, if you encounter such a don't you have to hold on, your family didn't pay much dowry, your wife married you, and the parents didn't think you gave less, and the money was returned to you, such an old man is good.

As for the issue of maintenance, you have to take care of it, even if the old man is willing to live in his son's house, but as a son-in-law, you have to do what you should do, because your wife is also serving your parents, and you must honor both parents, this is not a slogan. Even if they are not biological, they raised your wife and your brother-in-law, and they should be filial.

It can be used in the form of paid labor, that is, the child can get paid accordingly for completing the same housework, as the child's pocket money. The weekly pocket money must be earned by labor, and parents should not give any more money. It is best to discuss this content with the child, so that the child has the right to speak so that he can do it, and the parents must also follow the rules.

The best thing to do is to let the child do the chores with the adults and learn things in one go.

For example, from the age of two or three, she began to teach her to sweep the floor. Praise for a job well done. It doesn't have to be physical. Today's children are no better than the children of poor families in the past. From an early age, attention was paid to spiritual cultivation.

Rewarding is the most direct and effective way to involve your child in the form of games or tasks, which can also enhance the bond between you.

But this is not a long-term solution, usually to instill more in the child to help others, encourage him to help others, after doing it must be properly praised, let him know that this behavior is good. In addition, as a parent, you should also set an example, children have a strong ability to imitate, and generally have a lot of behaviors and thoughts to their parents. Therefore, when the child is around, you must decide whether your behavior will affect him.

Cultivate good qualities in your child, and then he will take the initiative to help you with housework without rewarding him.

I wish your child a healthy growth.

Assign tasks directly to the child, propose the standard of completion, and then never replace the child to do it, and stick to the rules of the schedule.

Of course, it is not appropriate to do so.

Bai is suitable, now it's not the old society, the daughter-in-law is also a person, and it's not a maid who was sold, but just like you said, "the housework of the Qing official is difficult to decide", we still have to talk about things, everyone says a word, each gives a step, and it's okay.

What you said is very vague and I can't give you any advice, but you seem to be living with an old man, if possible, discuss with your husband, how about the two of you move out.

After all, "out of sight, out of mind", "distance produces beauty".

Good luck.

One of the manifestations of the lack of communication, what the daughter-in-law did caused a misunderstanding of her in-laws, spent money lavishly, did not take care of her son, etc.

Don't bother with them. I hate it when my in-laws bully my daughter-in-law. Especially beautiful lol.

Is it that you are not satisfied with your in-laws by doing it in your usual manners? You have to have a good talk with your husband, untie the contradictions, and say anything and you'll be fine.

Wow, you're amazing!! It's all endured!! Brother, admire you!!

If it were me, I wouldn't have peed on her a long time ago!!

However, the situation you mentioned often belongs to the woman's psychological deficiencies. First of all, she is insecure. This sense of security is reflected in the money.

Actually, I think you can quarrel when you go out to play, and I guess when it comes to the root of it, it's still a matter of money. For example, if you don't have a car at home, and you say that you take a bus to a certain place to play, she may be unhappy and feel that she can't take a taxi without money. To a place, you can't eat the best, you can't live the best.

She will also feel dissatisfied in her heart. I suggest that you seriously review and analyze whether the core issue is all about money. If it is related, I think such a woman.

Don't. I'm very happy in this regard. Once the vice president of my old company rectified me, and in a fit of anger, I resigned and went home. I didn't have a penny of income that year, and even I despised myself, and I really felt like crying in my heart.

We usually spend a lot of money, and we have at least tens of thousands of cars every year, which is not a small pressure. And due to the nature of the business, it requires a lot of resources, most of the customers cannot follow me, and the remaining small number of customers cannot turn around all at once. But my wife didn't care at all, and encouraged me, saying that I could do it, but I was just unlucky and needed an opportunity.

If I don't want to use my savings, I use her money. During that time, knowing that I could save money, I came back every day to cook for me (now it's a habit, I like to eat her cooking, even if it's instant noodles, I think she makes them delicious), and I'm responsible for occasionally brushing the bowl. I'm so idle that I play games at home every day, and I don't have to clean the house.

Let me thief move! Of course, she also has a lack of security, but the aspect of performance is not in the money. But it also made me uncomfortable, and then I was so anxious that I almost smashed the TV.

I also explained a lot of reasoning, she found that she did have some problems in the depths of her psyche, and then she slowly adjusted, and often went to the psychiatrist to talk. I also used the resources of my friends to let some masters guide me from all aspects, and now it is much better!! Besides, something that may make you particularly envious, in the past, I was angry that I mentioned divorce, and she didn't agree!

Say leave me with nothing! Oops, selfishly, that feels awesome!

You are the same, see if your lover has been short of money to spend since childhood, or likes to compare with others since childhood, but often can't compare. If so, the Eight Achievements is the problem. If that's the case, I'd suggest you keep a little coffer.

It's not to hit you, you have to keep a back hand (but there must be no mistakes in the secrecy work). Otherwise, she has no chance now, if she has the opportunity to meet a rich person, it is estimated that she will leave you, it will not hesitate!! She has this kind of problem, even if she sees a psychiatrist, she probably can't solve it!