What should I do if I find out that my boyfriend is not as good as before?

Not all people are slowly becoming excellent, and many people will become degenerate in the process of growing up because of the people around them or the surrounding environment, or they are not enterprising and not as good as before. The most important thing is that the person who has become less good than before is your boyfriend, and I think it is necessary for you to talk to him at this time.

Two people together, struggle together, become excellent together, of course, I think this may be the best choice, but, if there is one person who is not as good as before, as the other half of you. The most important thing to do now is to make him realize that he should work hard, maybe, because every day you are together, he feels very satisfied, and he does not have the kind of energy or mind to continue to strive for a goal.

So he is complacent and not aggressive, because he thinks that the most important person has already been obtained, so that he relaxes all of a sudden, and may ignore your future, so when you talk, you can try to talk about the future of the two of you, and you should fight together for your own future or for the future of the two of you.

When you talk, you must not come up and talk about his shortcomings, you should be objective, think for him from his point of view, use a language that he can accept, and make him realize his mistakes as much as possible, and after realizing it, he can have this consciousness and change himself. A man, when making a decision, will definitely work hard to achieve it, provided that it is voluntary, and it is easy to resist when forced.

However, you don't have to say that you break up with him just because he is not good, you don't love him. This will only make me feel that you only chose to be with him because he was good, and in the end he was not good, so you chose to break up. So, you can't rush to choose a breakup at the beginning, you should try to communicate with him.

Correct his current attitude towards things and life, and tell him how good he was before, and of course he is good now, but he is a little less self-motivated.

Of course, he was so good before, it may be said that his previous living environment was particularly easy for him, and later after changing the environment, although he also worked very hard, but the results he made did not match what he was working hard now. So at this time, you should give him more encouragement and tell him that you can do it, not that you are not excellent, but that the efforts you are making now may not be enough, or maybe your way is wrong. So, life, love, friendship, whatever it is, come on together.

I can also hear from your tone that you mean to compare him with other people, so I hope you also look at your own heart, is it because he is not as good as the other boys around him, and he has the illusion that he does not want to make progress? Two people are together, the most afraid of comparison, the most afraid of the test, maybe he has worked hard, but your standards are higher, so slow down and wait for him, after all, you love each other.

Love begins with appearance, loyalty to character, and talent I don't know what stage you have reached.

Love is inherently flawed and not beautiful. I believe that everyone must show others the best version of themselves, at least let others look like they are excellent. There will be a gap after the actual contact; It's like a seller's show and a buyer's show on a treasure.

Not being good is not a reason, you can open up and talk about each other's shortcomings, such as his lack of progress. Ask him why, maybe you didn't see his efforts? Maybe he's been demanding of himself all the time, but not in front of you?

It's not easy for two people to be together, it's fate that can be together, let's talk.

If you feel that it is not good after talking frankly, you still feel that he is not motivated and does not work hard, and you feel that you have no future and no tomorrow with him. If it really gives you this feeling, you can break up; Even if you don't break up, your tomorrow won't be easy. You will gradually dislike him, and there will be a gap in his heart.

Go a little deeper, and you will enter the palace of marriage, which is also a failed marriage.

Love you should change for you, you should give you the life you want. I believe that the person who really loves you, you have hinted that he will change and think about himself. And make a plan to change yourself, work towards an image that you want to live now and in the future.

Of course, you can't always compare the successful people around you with him, people have self-esteem, especially men, just point to the end The two will inevitably have friction and contradictions! Let's talk calmly first, and think that if you can't do it again, you are considering whether to separate. It's better for two people than for one person to be foolish.

At the beginning, couples may feel that each other is good in everything, and they are excellent in all aspects, and there are no shortcomings, but as time goes by, you spend more and more time together, and you get to know each other more and more, and at this time you may gradually find various shortcomings in each other, and you may also think in your heart, he used to be so good, why has he become so bad now? <>

In fact, when you think like this, it is not that he has become worse than before, but that you have slowly discovered each other's shortcomings, in the past you may only see his strengths, not his shortcomings, but now it may be the opposite, you see his shortcomings but forget his advantages. In your heart, he may be less and less than before, and you may regret why you chose him at the beginning, but you forget that you may have liked him because of his advantages, but at this time you have forgotten all his advantages, and only remember his shortcomings, so in your eyes you will feel that he is not enterprising, and he is becoming more and more defeated. <>

So some people say that couples can really get on the right track after a run-in period, and if you only enjoy your boyfriend's advantages and can't tolerate his shortcomings, then you may end up facing a breakup, because the most important thing for a couple is to tolerate each other and understand each other, if you can't tolerate your boyfriend's shortcomings, then presumably this relationship will not last long, you can let him change slowly, but don't give up on him, let alone feel that the so-called wrong bet, Because you may also face this kind of problem when you have another boyfriend.

In the eyes of the lover, when you first met and talked, he was the embodiment of perfection in your eyes, and when you have been together for a long time and have understood each other, you will find that he is not so good, so good, this is normal, don't make a fuss. Everyone's experience is like this.

If you get married and live together after marriage, you will also find more of his shortcomings, more of which is not as good as you think, which requires a run-in process. Remember, no one is perfect, and if you give him, you should accept it along with his shortcomings, not selectively. As long as each other is willing to change their shortcomings for each other, your marriage must be right and will be happy for a long time.

Sometimes when a boy is in love, he will pretend to be very good at pretending to be his own shortcomings, and when he chases you down, his original form will be revealed. Therefore, the shortcomings found when falling in love are a good thing.

If you like your boyfriend, you can't just love him because of his excellence, but you should love him in all aspects.

You should face your boyfriend correctly, you are used to his excellence.

I found that my boyfriend is not as good as before, so I should actively educate him and tell him that he should be an excellent person.

1. Because the evaluation system of excellence between men and women is different, the number of outstanding boys in the eyes of girls is scarce, and the number of outstanding girls in the eyes of boys is large. <>

2. Because many so-called excellent girls are really not excellent, I think a person's excellence is reflected in the inner cultivation, but there are many first- and second-tier girls who may have good hardware conditions, but their internal emotional intelligence, personality, and attitude towards feelings are not an excellent person, but most of them are giant babies.

The giant baby needs not a boyfriend, but a dad.

3. Most of the outstanding boys in the first and second-tier cities are more open to marriage and love, and they are not in a hurry, while girls do not have so many age dividends, so in terms of anxiety, women are greater than men, but the vast majority of girls have not received emotional education since childhood, which leads to the fact that when dealing with emotional problems, most of them are at a loss, and they are often stunned and force men to run away. <>

4. Women who can't find a boyfriend in first- and second-tier cities still stay in singles villages, not big cities, due to the influence of pastoral feminism, toxic girlfriends, and even parental education, resulting in marriage and love have been unsmooth. <>

5. A really good girl, a girl who has both external and internal skills, it is impossible to be without a boyfriend, no matter how old she is, if you think you are very good, but you have never had a boyfriend, then it shows a fact:

You're not as good as you thought you were.

Because men's eyes are not blind, excellent men must be able to distinguish what is a truly excellent woman and what is pseudo-excellent.

Summary. Little master, hello, there is a result, there is nothing unworthy in the relationship, he likes you Then it proves that you also have excellent places.

My boyfriend is very good, I'm ordinary, will there be results in the future.

Little master, hello, there is a result, there is nothing unworthy in the relationship, he likes you Then it proves that you also have excellent places.

Little master, whether there is a result together depends on two people, this belongs to external factors, he likes you and doesn't care so much, if he really likes excellent people, then he doesn't have to choose you.

He's in his third year of high school now, I'm only a sophomore in high school, and I'm scared he'll meet better people in college.

Little Lord, believe him, don't worry about what hasn't happened yet, except for self-doubt, that's no good, you can work hard to get into his university.

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Little master, in fact, we are all the same, we can't help but think about some things in the future, but it's good for two people to be together, enjoy the moment, no matter what the final outcome is, try to love him, even if the result is not good, at least there are no regrets.

He was very good to me, and I will remember the anniversary, and I really like him, but I always feel that there may not be a good ending in the future.

Little master, in fact, because he likes him very much, he can't help but think so much. But someone has said, don't think about what the future holds, please believe that this person loves you No matter how it ends in the future, just live every day you are together now.

The reason why you worry so much is because of your desires, because you like him very much, and you can't help but think about what to do after losing him. But the more you think about this kind of thing, the more you will not be happy with him, and there will be a lot of contradictions. So you stay with him, don't think about it, just live every day, he can't give you any guarantees.

What is love?

Some people say: suddenly there is a weakness, and suddenly there is armor.

So why be single?

Probably because there is no fitting armor, and I am afraid that the slow ride will increase the weakness of the forward.

I know that in the short time since I wrote these few crosses, I don't know how many people have decided to just let go and live alone.

I've heard many girls around me who have been asked something like this: Why are you so good, but you still can't find a boyfriend?

The implication of this kind of problem is that being single is a passive choice, a defect worthy of sympathy.

However, these girls of mine are very good at disturbing things.

It seems that happiness itself has nothing to do with singleness......

It should be accepted that such a process, the relationship cannot always remain in the state of first loveReturning to the flat, and then two people find a way to get along with each other, this is an inevitable process, and any couple has to go through.

This is a very normal phenomenon, two people have been together for a long time, and they are definitely not as careful as they were at the beginning. As the intimacy of two people increases, they will also let go of a lot of worries about each other. This has caused many people to be less attentive than before.

But emotionally speaking, it should prove that you are more stable.

First of all, I want to say that falling in love is a process, and it is dynamic, so you will use the word "before", then I can understand that your mentality can be said to be the same, and you think that your boyfriend will be as obedient to me as he just patted me. Your idea is naïve, because from a boyfriend's point of view, he will definitely not always maintain that kind of spoiled mentality, and there will be a period of fatigue, that is, the so-called time when you are not worried enough.

And if you are sensitive to your boyfriend's exhaustion and feel a little emotional about it, then I think this is even more immature. At this time, my suggestion is that you have to change your mentality, your boyfriend has such a period of fatigue, then it is time to change me to awaken his enthusiasm, because love will eventually be dull, not always vigorous, so if you change such a mentality, I think, your boyfriend will also feel, will slowly recover, from the hot love period to the flat period, this is not the dynamic belonging of love?