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aContinue to maintain your normal life and emotional state. What others do and how they compare is someone else's business, as long as it does not damage their own interests and reputation, they don't have to pay attention. B seems to be a little vain, and he is more energetic than A, maybe he has some inferiority in front of A to be strong.
A can praise B appropriately and not lose anything anyway, and it can also relieve B's tension and help her build self-confidence.
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It's good to do your own thing, B doesn't have to worry about learning by himself, and A can't manage so much. In fact, everyone is unique, and even if B behaves the same as A, he is also two different people in the eyes of others.
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Just show naturally, see how fast she learns or how fast you build.
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Go with the flow, and one day b will figure it out that happiness lies in contentment.
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A should be happy. It's okay. Just treat it with a normal heart.
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Let him be jealous of you, and don't be jealous of him.
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Adjust yourself. Jealousy is a word used to praise the other person and belittle oneself, why would you be jealous of the other person? It means that he is better than you in some way, which means that you are not good enough.
Then you don't look at your friends with jealousy, you have to humbly ask for advice, and get a way for others to be stronger than you, so that others can be jealous of you, not to mention the world, China, that is, the city and village where you are located are better than you, friends, adjust your mood, and live your own life.
When you are jealous of someone, it means that the other person is better than you in some wayThen I should learn from him how he achieved such results, instead of just seeing the results, seeing the wisdom, seeing the strengths of others, studying hard, and making up for his own shortcomings. In addition, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, there is no need to always compare their weaknesses with the strengths of others, to see their own strengths and increase self-confidence. Objectively evaluate yourself and others, learn from each other's strengths, and complement each other's strengths.
We know that it is always painful to be jealous of the successful person around you, and some people will want to pull that person off the horse, or they will be desperate to succeed themselves. Usually we are only jealous of those who are on the same level as ourselves, and we are not used to seeing that person as better than us in individual aspects, but we do not think, and we are not willing to admit that this person is really better than ourselves. Just as ordinary amateurs are not jealous of the beauty of movie stars, ordinary income people are not jealous of the wealth of the rich.
Sometimes, we are jealous of the students when we were students, every time you took the third exam, he would take the second class; What we are jealous of is that when working, Xiao Zhang, a colleague who earns 100 more than you every month. If we can turn jealousy into worship, then we will have a lot of peace of mind. But jealousy isn't all bad, as scientists have discovered
Worshipping an idol means admitting that you are not up to the level of an "idol" and that you are willing to fail. Jealousy, on the other hand, can stimulate fighting spirit and make it easier for people to succeed.
When you are jealous of others, it may be that you are comparing their strengths to your own weaknesses. It shows that you yourself are not strong enough, and a person who is strong enough in his heart will not be jealous of others. As long as you have the ability to do it, you won't be jealous of others, and trust me, that's how most people come by.
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If you are too jealous, you can do the following:
1. Learn to accept and face a jealous heart.
If you keep running away or fighting against it, you will find that your jealousy is getting worse. On the other hand, if you accept it very calmly and don't pay attention to it, it will slowly die down. So when you find yourself jealous, you might as well wait quietly for it to fade away rather than force yourself to overcome it.
2. Refuse blind comparison.
Women are jealous and are most likely to have comparisons. Comparison can easily make people lose themselves, which can lead to jealousy. If a person loves vanity and compares himself with others every day who is richer, who is more beautiful, and who is more capable, he often lives a very tired and painful life, and when he finally finds that he is not as good as others, he will have serious jealousy in his heart.
Therefore, in order to make your life more comfortable, let go of those childish comparisons in the past.
3. Keep a normal mind and don't lose yourself and your nature.
If a person is jealous, he may lose his nature, so that the beginning and process of many things are controlled by jealousy, and eventually bring bad consequences or tragedy. Therefore, people with strong jealousy must learn to look at things openly, keep their own hearts, and never forget their original intentions, so that they can not lose their own nature on the road of life.
Fourth, learn to be content and happy, and not to seek troubles.
Jealousy is a very complex feeling, there is envy of others, there is also jealousy of others, and appreciation of others......In short, all kinds of feelings are mixed together, which makes people really have mixed tastes. If you have to find trouble for yourself and be jealous of others, it is really an unhealthy psychology, and we need to make adjustments as soon as possible, and we will be very comfortable in our hearts. In fact, if a person can be content and happy, it can be regarded as a more secure and comfortable state of life.
5. Cultivate a rich and free mentality.
You may be jealous of others, probably because you feel that you lack such opportunities, and if you are allowed to have such opportunities, you can be as successful as they are. In fact, you don't need to worry about this at all, everyone has a lot of opportunities to succeed, and there will be many opportunities, if you want to make yourself successful, you might as well make more preparations in advance. You have to let yourself become more free, so that you can pay more attention to the future and pay more attention to your own development.
You know, opportunities are always reserved for those who are prepared.
Sixth, take a long-term view and enlarge your own pattern.
The reason why we are prone to strong jealousy may be because we don't look at things at a high enough level and look at problems too narrowly. At this time, we might as well take a long-term view and enlarge our own pattern. Even if our current height is not enough, or we have not found that height, we can properly fantasize in our hearts and slowly broaden our horizons.
That way, we won't be confined to a small pattern and can't extricate ourselves.
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2 Recognize the dangers of jealousy.
Jealousy of others may lead to physical and mental losses, which can restrict one's career development and affect interpersonal communication. When attacking others, they are actually degrading their own personality; Long-term jealousy can lead to impaired cerebral cortical function, leading to a decline in the function of immune organs and making them more susceptible to certain diseases.
3. Know yourself correctly.
Everyone has their own strengths, and when you look at the success of others, you might as well find more shining points in yourself and give full play to your talents in the field you are better at.
4 Prove yourself.
For the success of others, if you can generously and naturally say "You are good, we really envy you" in front of him, then you have the courage to admit your normal feelings. Confirm the inadequacy of the self. In this way, it is also conducive to relieving yourself of the burden of psychological pressure.
As soon as the words came out, I suddenly felt much more relaxed, and I would be clearer and more confident in my future.
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Treat the people and things around you with a kind and ordinary heart, relax, and don't let yourself get too tired.
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I feel like you can try to change and turn this feeling of jealousy into envy and motivation.
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Don't always compare with others, everyone's strengths are a little different, blind comparison will be in the heart of constantly magnifying their own shortcomings, thus their own inferiority, to learn to be open-minded, tolerant, empathy, and constantly cultivate their own sound character.
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It is better to adjust your mentality, to be jealous of others, it is better to work hard to make yourself stronger, so that others can envy you, establish correct confidence yourself, or go to the hospital to see a psychiatrist.
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No one is born with strong jealousy, but you see that you personally, if you are too lazy, not active, and don't fight for it, you don't get those things, then you can't blame others.
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Too much jealousy is a mental illness, you have to see!
Excessive jealousy is often due to the fact that others are better than themselves (such as good study, good looks, money, good work, etc.), and excessive envy of their own dissatisfaction, in order to reduce jealousy, you must make yourself better than others, so that others are inferior to yourself, then this requires you to work harder.
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If you are too jealous, you can only rely on yourself, and you must learn to be patient and persuade yourself.
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It is said that the jealous person suffers more than any other kind of pain in the world, and she has to endure not only her own misfortune but also the happiness of others... Seeing this, can you still bear to let yourself be jealous?
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You can make yourself better, and you are jealous because you are not as good as others.
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Knowledge changes fate, maybe reading a good book can change a person's character, too jealousy, not only hurt others, but also cause their own personality to distort.
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Being too jealous is also a motivator that can push you to improve. Towards a better direction!
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If you know that your jealousy is too strong, then change yourself appropriately.
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Treat each other with sincerity, and if you want to open up everything, don't drill the horns.
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Be magnanimous and less selfish and calculating.
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It's a matter of mentality, a little more atmospheric.
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It would be nice to learn to be generous and tolerant.
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If you find a problem, you need to solve it.
Now that you know your fault, you can change it.
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First of all, we should change ourselves, and at the same time, we should have a correct view of what happens, do not blindly compare, and have a correct mentality.
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Minding your girlfriend's emotional history is a normal emotional response, but be mindful of how to deal with this emotion. Here are some suggestions:
1.Self-reflection. First of all, think about why you would mind your girlfriend's emotional history.
Is it because of your insecurity, jealousy, desire for control, etc., or because your girlfriend's past doesn't align with your values? Finding out the inner cause can help alleviate the negative emotional hail and socks.
2.Sincerity ditch leakage radical through. Communicating openly with your girlfriend, asking about their past and present thoughts, and understanding each other's situation can reduce speculation and misunderstandings about the other person.
3.Treat each other with respect. Regardless of whether the other person's past is good or bad, respect their life experiences and life choices, and do not talk about them in a critical and accusatory tone.
5.Seek professional help. If some uncontrollable emotions cannot be relieved, you can seek professional counseling and help, healthy emotional growth is very important to maintain a healthy love relationship.
The most important thing is to keep an open and rational thinking, and try not to deny the whole of the other party because of the other party's past, but to look at the other party's overall and future development prospects.
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