What to do if the vanity is too big, what to do if the vanity is too strong?

Vanity is an excessive manifestation of self-esteem, an emotion that is manifested in order to achieve honor and attract attention, behind which lies low self-esteem and good face.

Vanity can manifest itself in boasting, showing off, over-performing, and over-comparing, often slapping the swollen face and making a fat person.

People with a lot of vanity will constantly make excuses for their mistakes.

Attitude: 1. Establish a correct outlook on life.

2 Recognize the dangers of vanity.

3 Don't compare yourself too much with others.

4 Live for yourself, not for the judgment of others.

5 Earn accolades and recognition in the right way. The "honor" won in an improper way is false, so that it will not be respected by others, and it will be despised by others.

6 Be self-aware. It is important to recognize not only your strengths, but also your weaknesses. It is not a good thing to overestimate yourself and underestimate yourself, it is necessary to have a stable self-awareness.

Method: Expand the landscape and awareness.

Strengthen self-cultivation.

Spend your time on valuable things, such as doing charity and animal welfare, studying Chinese medicine, and psychology.

We must have a correct attitude towards honor, gains and losses, status, and face.

Learn from good social role models.

Shift your focus and do something that interests you.

Children's education: 1 Don't constantly meet your child's unreasonable demands.

If the child makes an unruly request, firmly refuse, and the attitude of the parents should be consistent; Every waywardness towards children should be resolved with the same attitude. Instead of sometimes restricting the child, sometimes indulging the child and leaving the child at a loss.

2 Parents should establish rules of behavior for their children.

3 Tell your child that vanity should be used as motivation.

4 Do not show your wealth to your children. Tell your child that the money they are spending now is their parents' and that if they want their needs to be met, then they have to work their own, not show off with their parents' money.

5. Get in touch with simple, low-key children.

6 Let your child do more meaningful things and learn to care for others and animals instead of being self-centered.

1. The psychology of comparison is relatively heavy.

A woman with a strong sense of vanity always consciously or unconsciously compares herself with a woman whose living conditions are superior to herself, whose working environment is superior to herself, and whose family situation is superior to herself. For this reason, they will feel that they are living a very aggrieved life, feeling that others are always enjoying a happy life and they are always living in misery.

2. Jealousy is relatively strong.

Women with super vanity are usually accompanied by very strong jealousy, whether in life or work, as long as they see colleagues who are more comfortable than their own lives or have broader prospects than themselves in their careers, they will laugh and naturally secrete strong acidic substances physically, and mentally will inexplicably produce strong jealousy.

3. Lack of due sense of well-being.

In the "Classic of Mountains and Seas, the Southern Classic of the Sea", there has long been "Ba snake eats elephants, and its bones come out at the age of three." And in the Warring States Chu Qu Yuan's "Tianwen", "A snake implicitly refers to swallowing an elephant, how big is it?" Therefore, people with strong vanity will not be easily satisfied with the status quo, and their eyes usually do not look back at the people behind them who are less than their own, nor will they look around at those who live similarly to themselves.

Generally speaking, vanity is always associated with people's self-esteem, and people with strong vanity also have strong self-esteem and demand a more prominent position in the group. The more vain a person is, the more she needs praise from others, which brings her the honor and self-esteem she desires. Once her vanity is not satisfied, she is psychologically in a state of loss, deprivation and tension, which is prone to antagonism towards others, triggering aggressive and aggressive behavior.