I had a good friend from high school and we had a really good relationship

That feeling is very uncomfortable, I feel that the friendship is unbalanced, I also encountered a similar thing a few days ago The friendship of people is also like this, there has been no contact for a long time, and it is not as warm as playing together Now there are two situations: first, she is really not as important as you think, you are just an ordinary and good friend of her, and the friendship of girls is relatively thin Second, you are as important to her as she is to you, but her husband is also familiar with the bridesmaids, so she is suitable The girl is too sensitive and will process some things by herself Solution 1.Have a good talk with her 2 quietly and don't care In fact, the friendship after marriage fades quickly Mainly because of your good friend's wedding, isn't it best if she is happy and happy.

-= Communicative skills, it's in line with your circle, but you don't have to think too much about it, if you have something that everyone has in common, you will definitely keep going out, or that friend just brings freshness to your circle, you can get on good terms with that girl, and you will definitely learn more or less about her communication style, and then carefully analyze his communication style, and comprehensively analyze the advantages and disadvantages, and you can analyze yourself by the way, and there is something around you that you hate that is your disadvantage Everybody has something you don't like to a certain extent, and you have to think about whether you yourself don't necessarily do the same annoying behavior, but some of them have the same purpose, in short, know yourself and know your opponent.

You think she's important to you, but you're just a passerby in other people's lives. I think I'm the same kind of person as you, and you have to learn to hide yourself from people like us who don't matter.

Basically, there is not much contact, or even leftCircle of friendsThumbs up.

In fact, every time I talk about this topic, I will unconsciously feel sad and sad in my heart, as if I have inadvertently lost many of my once very good friends. People can't help but think about the following two questions.

1. Why do so many friendships drift apart?

1. Time and energy are limited

Everyone's time and energy are limited, and in the process of getting to know new people, losing old people is a normal state that must be accepted. Any relationship needs to be maintained, and this is true of love, and the same is true of friendship.

When we grow up, we have to face work, life, family, etc., which requires a lot of time and energy, so it is not surprising that some friendships are drifting apart at this time!

2. Geographical restrictions

After graduating from high school, everyone took different paths, some people were employed after graduation, and some people chose to go to university, but they were all in different cities.

Geographical restrictions have made the opportunity for former friends to meet less and less, and with the difference in the circle of friends, the rhythm and way of life, the contact between our high school classmates has gradually decreased a lot. Some even slowly only have the affection of liking in the circle of friends.

3. Differences in concepts

I believe that this situation has been experienced by many people, that is, when you are still in school, some high school classmates have even had a second child.

It's all there, and the difference in concept makes you gradually have no topic to talk about. Just imagine, when you are still worried and anxious about the final exam, but the other party is all kinds of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law as soon as you open your mouth.

problems, marital conflicts. Differences in perception are the biggest and deadliest reason for disconnection.

Although it is the normal state of life to drift away, I still feel sad and regretful every time I think of the fighting cover, and I can't help but complain to myself. Why do friends who used to talk about everything now feel a little deliberate even to comment on the circle of friends? Let's talk about how to keep friendship as much as possible?

2. How can we retain friendship?

1. Keep a quantitative connection

Any relationship needs to be managed and maintained. There is a truth to the saying that the connection will get better, and if you don't get in touch, it will fade. What a good relationship will always be the same even if it is not in contact for how long or how long. This is simply gibberish, no matter how good the relationship is, it will be speechless after a long time.

2. Strive to meet several times a year

Meeting is also very important, if you don't meet for a long time, you will be a netizen. The relationship at first sight has to be seen on the other side.

3. Insist on giving gifts to each other

I used to think that friends used to give birthday gifts every year.

It's cumbersome and cliché. But then I gradually realized that giving gifts is also a good way to maintain relationships, and gifts will also make you and the other person feel that they are always in their hearts.

In fact, life is constantly in a kind of gain and loss, and no one can avoid it, and there is no way to completely possess it. So we have to accept this rule as much as possible and not be too sad!

Very little contact anymore.

Our lives are like a train that passes and stops at many stations along the way. At each stop, a group of people get off the train and another group gets on at the same time. The farther and longer the train goes, the fewer old friends you will have.

Halfway through the car, when you stand up and look around, you will find that there are only a handful of friends who have been with you from beginning to end and have never gotten out of the car. Don't you dare to imagine: when the train of your life is coming to an end, are there one or two people who can accompany you through the whole journey?

Whether it's someone I've loved in the past or a friend who has dissipated, I don't think they're bad at all. It's a relationship problem when something goes wrong, and the places they once attracted me to still make my heart yearn for it.

They are still worth the world, but they don't have my eagerness anymore, that's all.

After graduating from high school, at the beginning, everyone went their separate ways, there was a common topic of vomiting, discomfort to the outside world, so that everyone would be together to keep warm, and then gradually, everyone adapted to life, with their own circles, different majors, different lives, and no longer able to talk about the topic, the more to the back of the void, everyone walked more and more differently, except for a few people who still lived in the past, occasionally in the group to talk but it is rare for a few people to reply, and then listen to the pants return to them is not not replying, do not play QQ, In the past, the group was too noisy and blocked.

From the beginning of the annual winter and summer vacation gatherings, to the back of the small circle gatherings. Of course, in another thirty or forty years, everyone will retire and return to their own city, and at this time, they will be reunited, after all, for most people, this city is their home.

Of course, there will still be contact.

For the older generation now, it is not easy to be able to go to high school in the past, so for high school classmates, especially the best friends, even now, they will still cherish this friendship and keep in touch.

I have one of my best classmates in high school, as friends, we have been in touch for decades since graduating from high school, and we are each other's best friends in our lives.

High school should be an important period in a person's life, especially in our era, we are already adults, most of the defeat thoughts are more mature, and they are more rational about making friends, so for good friends, even after graduation, they will keep in touch.

There are not many contacts, basically broken, I have always thought that there are some people no matter how good they are, if they can't accompany me through the journey of life, then they are passers-by. And those who call them passers-by are destined to drift away until they are finally completely forgotten in the depths of some memory, never to be seen again. Gradually, I realized that my way of looking at Bi and infiltrating was wrong, and those who once called me friends were not passers-by.

At that time, we were the babies of the fart, holding hands with our friends all day long, happily spending this regretful day, but we didn't know what the meaning was. At that time, I didn't even know what friendship was, but I just felt that being able to live well together every day was happiness. We sweat on the sunny basketball court and enjoy a little free time in our busy study life.

The ignorant girls sit together and talk about the little secrets in their hearts and share the beauty of their youth.

In those years, there was our "Shen Jiayi" sitting in the back row, and the tip of the pen poked not the back but the heart. Perhaps, you also have your own "Jiang Naoki", the courage that was lacking at that time, the throbbing of watching from afar, do you remember? The same table is the most special existence, struggling to learn together, laughing and playing together, and quietly "fighting" with the teacher together.

Groups of three or five go to class and get out of class together, with their own small group, and they can't talk to each other about endless topics.

Some people say that friendship is like wine, and the more time passes, the more mellow it becomes. It's been a while since I've been in college, and the connection with my high school friends has diminished with distance, so how about you? Are you still in touch with your high school friends?

Life is inseparable from friendship, but it is not easy to get real friendship; Friendship always needs to be sown with loyalty, irrigated with enthusiasm, cultivated with principles, and cared for with understanding. If you're on vacation and have time, just get in touch with your friends, and your friendship will get better and better.

Best friends from high school, we don't keep in touch anymore.

Before high school, I had a lot of good friends, and they were all playmates when they were classmates. Or a good friend who studies together. But as I grew older, many of my classmates in high school drifted apart, and Min Hongshu didn't work and live here.

There is less and less contact, and it gradually fades out of its own life circle. So it doesn't feel as intimate as it used to be.

I used to think that my playmates when I was a child would play together until I was old, and I never gave up. Later, I found that when I grew up, everyone would change their inner thoughts and opinions because of the difference in their own three views or careers, and the people they came into contact with. As a result, friends from high school will also become strangers to each other because of misunderstandings, or bridge troubles are less and less connected, and there are very few contacts.

When everyone goes to their own careers and is busy with their own lives, they become more and more busy, and they have no time to estimate their classmates in high school. Everyone has their own family, and their life circle is also different. Because there is no intersection, there is less contact, or no longer contact.

They also made new friends or had new ideas. When former friends become more and more estranged, there is no need to maintain all kinds of accommodating relationships. People change over time, and we mature.

We have become more selective than when we were younger, and who are the friends we need around us? Which are the fake friends?

When I was in high school, I had a few good friends, and we ate together, studied together, played together, and went to the playground all day long. After graduating, because we didn't choose the same major or go to the same city together, we had less and less contact with each other.

And a few classmates who are blind outside of Qingqing, when they were in high school, had a general relationship, but after we were admitted to university, we were all in a city, and we often met, often contacted, and often got together when the villagers gathered.

Therefore, I would like to say that the length of the distance and the poverty and complexity of the connection are the key to maintaining the intimacy of the relationship. No matter how good the relationship is, if you don't contact often, don't meet often, and don't communicate often, family and friendship will become weaker and weaker.

I don't know what kind of experiences and feelings you have, and I hope we can communicate together.

Our university is very close to each other, and my girlfriend and I are even at the same university.

My best friend in high school and my best friend in junior high school are the same person, and we went from being in the same class in junior high school to being in the same school in high school and then in college. How to say our fate, it is indeed wonderful.

What you eat every day will also be talked about.

We had the same grades, so we were fortunate to be in the same high school when we were in junior high school, and when we were admitted to university, our scores also passed the first line, so we also filled in the same number of volunteers together.

From our first acquaintance in junior high school to now in college, we have had countless conflicts, but in the end we will reconcile. I think this may be an inseparable fate. From junior high school to high school, almost every time there was a conflict, she bowed her head first and asked me to reconcile.

Eating cake together one night.

We are now in contact every day, QQ even chatted about a big spark, and when there is no class or homework, we will meet to eat together and go to play together. Compared to the kind of friends who went their separate ways after the college entrance examination, my good friend and I were really lucky.

Renew the fire every day.

The friendship that goes both ways will not be dissolved!!

We haven't been in touch for years.

When I was in high school, I also had some good friends who had fun, and we ate together, took classes together, went to the toilet together, and had to do everything together anyway. But after graduation, we all went to college in different cities, and we saw each other less, and slowly ** less. Envy Heng We have all risen to the top of our own ranks, and we have good friends in college, and gradually we have completely cut off contact.

I think the main reasons for this are:

It's too far apart, and it's not easy to meet. Feelings need to be maintained, and if you don't meet or communicate for a long time, your feelings will slowly fade away, and friends will be estranged.

After separation, they have new friends around them, and they don't have so much energy to miss their old friends.

The environment in which they live with each other is different, and there are not so many common languages, even if you play **, you don't know what to talk about. Because you tell her that she doesn't know the people around her, and you tell her about the things around her, she doesn't necessarily be interested.

After going to college, everyone has to start working hard for their future, planning for their own future, and having less time and energy. There's no time left for old friendships.