Last night was very lonely, I don t know why

Hello! From your story, I feel feelings of loneliness, helplessness, loss, and fear, and at the same time, this is not a mental illness, but a common phenomenon in adolescent children. I remember that there is a foreign TV series "Growing Pains", which has many similar troubles as you.

A 14-year-old girl can think of coming here when she feels troubled, this is a strong self-awareness, not everyone has this ability! So do you see how powerful you are? These emotions of yours indicate that something is going on, causing you to lose interest, regress in your grades, frustrate your relationship, and even fear of the dark and ghosts.

Behind these phenomena is a deep desire to study happily, to play games, to learn well, to secretly like a boy, to protect yourself, right? Of course, this is true, but the behavior has no effect. So if there was a way for you to do that, would you try it?

Let's talk about emotions again, emotions need to be managed, emotions are a kind of ability, emotions never give people pressure, it comes from a person's belief system. Let me teach you a little way to try it - don't you like to watch horror movies? Okay, so let's watch it, and imagine yourself hanging on the wall like a video camera and watching yourself watching a horror movie.

Then feel some change in your fears, and then tell me, okay?

Find someone you like and spend your lonely days together.

We always say that you are not lonely when you are accompanied, but sometimes there are people around you who still feel lonely, and this loneliness is more painful than unaccompanied loneliness, because the people around you are not your friends, so how to deal with loneliness at this time? Let's take a look at today's content

People feel lonely when they look at other people's happy moments. Because at that moment, you will think that if you have a lover by your side, you can also be so happy, and at that time it is obvious that you will be lonely, because you envy such a moment.

Yes, sometimes it can feel lonely.

When I went to the hospital alone, I felt very lonely when I was holding a hanging bottle and silently watching the potion fall drop by drop, and every age group had different feelings about loneliness.

Every age has the loneliness that belongs to the age at that time, and there is a different understanding of loneliness. At the age of seventeen, you begin to have some things on your mind, about empty dreams, about growing up, and about vague love, you carefully hide these things in your diary, afraid that people will see them, and you expect someone to see them, and you suddenly understand that this is loneliness.

Eighteen years old, about to take the college entrance examination, you pretend to be chic, full of free and easy, in every joke with friends, you say casually, why not be afraid of the heavy, but only you know how you put away your throbbing heart, in some nights, endorse until dawn. At the age of nineteen, you don't seem to be very lonely, the new environment, roommates from all over the world, forming all kinds of small groups, playing games together, singing together, taking classes together, you keep going to the group, and then you are grouping, but there are some truths, but no one has to complain.

At the age of twenty, you set a small goal for yourself, you start to memorize words, brush up on exam questions, go to the library alone, don't have to occupy a seat for anyone, eat alone, enjoy a table by yourself, and sometimes, eat two meals in three days, but no one notices. Twenty-one years old, a person's travel, chic you say you go, you climb the mountain at an altitude of 4,000 meters, cross the grassland, and cross the Gobi Desert, you take a lot of **, and then you understand that the original loneliness is your own mobile phone album, all of which are landscapes.

Twenty-two years old, you graduated, and a few friends said happy graduation to each other, you wore a bachelor's uniform, brought in friends who can take pictures, left a mark in every corner of the school, you haven't taken pictures for a long time, you seem overwhelmed in front of the camera, the day you leave school, you pull your suitcase from the dormitory to the school gate, it feels like walking for a long time.

At the age of twenty-five, the third year after you worked, you had a small success in your career, and you seemed to be accustomed to living alone, sitting in an empty room after work, pouring a glass of wine, toasting to the mirror, and the muffled sound of the cup touching the mirror actually echoed. At the age of thirty, after a long overdue love, you start your own family and a pair of children thrive.

When you come back from overtime at night, park the car downstairs, just in front of the familiar windowsill, you smoke several cigarettes in the car one after another, and you don't go out for a long time, because you know, the car is still yourself, and the door is firewood, rice, oil and salt. Every age has a different understanding of loneliness, but loneliness will always inadvertently make us experience, and occasionally enjoy loneliness.

Childhood, youth, and even middle age, along the way, in the downtown area, there is always a sense of loneliness, which coincides with the popular "late-night emo" saying today.

When I was a child, I walked alone on the mountain road after school, and the mountain breeze on both sides cheered for loneliness, but I didn't know what it had to do with loneliness. Moving forward, home is the way back.

When he was young, he was in deep love, trapped by love, drowning alone in the night, crying until dawn, but he couldn't find his way home because he didn't want his parents to worry.

When I was middle-aged, I was trapped by family trivialities and hurt by open and secret battles at work, but I still didn't disturb my relatives and swallowed my tears in my stomach alone.

Along the way, there has never been a lack of friends around me, but I can't get rid of the loneliness in my heart.

To get out of loneliness, the common practice is to walk forward, look forward, look upward, not be discouraged, and continue to grow yourself, until today.

A few days ago, I happened to hear Zhang Xu, an academician of the Chinese Academy of Sciences and a neuroscientist, say: "The reason for late-night emo is loneliness."

And the way to overcome loneliness is to work optimistically and creatively, develop good habits, and make yourself constantly have a sense of moving forward.

This statement coincides with my own feelings, so it is not too difficult to get out of loneliness!

1. It is important to maintain an optimistic mindset.

2. Constantly do new things and constantly transform yourself.

3. Make new friends and learn new things.

Go forward, have a healthy mentality, even if the competition is fierce, always feel that there is not enough time, and will not let yourself be in anxiety, get out of loneliness on your own!