Do you feel like you ve gotten better in your marriage?

It's still the same as before I got married, but maybe I've only been married for four months. My husband and I are small, we know each other since we were young, and we know each other too well, so there are usually no major contradictions, even if sometimes I am a little angry, he can immediately notice it. We both have good tempers, and he's exceptionally nice.

Whether I'm okay or he's really at fault, he'll apologize as soon as possible. We both felt that getting married didn't change much for us.

Before marriage, because of the original family, the personality is sensitive and insecure, and the habitual pleasing personality will blame and feel guilty because of the words of the parents and try to make up for it, whether they have that meaning or not, so that they feel that what I do is the right thing, and I still can't accept that I have a little idea of my own, and I give strong advice on everything, but after marriage, my husband unconditionally supports me and enlightens me, so I feel that I have become better, at least my personality has become better.

When I get home, you do the laundry, I cook, you carry water, I water the garden; Go out, you care about my safety, I care about your well-being. Brush the pot and wash the dishes together to live, for a long time, this is a precious family relationship, I think I have become more and more grateful in my marriage, and I have become very good.

The heavy sense of responsibility, self-confidence and maturity brought by empathy, and more grateful, I personally feel that in marriage, although I have experienced a lot, I have also grown and become better and better.

In marriage, although there have been quarrels, I think it is also because of these bits and pieces in life that I have better understood that it is not easy for two people to be together, and it is easier to consider each other, and I feel that I have become better.

Personally, I think I have become better, because with my husband's company, I feel that I am a person who is loved, although not everyone loves flowers and flowers, at least, there is a man who is willing to be busy, mobilizing his parents to take out the old capital, and even borrowing foreign debts just to marry himself home.

I think I've gotten better, I didn't know how to cook before marriage, but after I got married, I learned to cook because I had a husband, and I was happy every day when I looked happy when I ate, so I think I've gotten better.

Let's break up, a few days ago, our article "How is it possible for people who have no marital security and always doubt whether their partner can survive", analyzed the psychology of the suspicious party. Today, I want to talk to you about the suspects of that party. They also have some interesting behaviors:

When the husband suspects that he is in a relationship with a male colleague, all they can find is to hand over their chat logs, because they are afraid of the other party's suspicion, they will delete the chat history with the male colleague, which makes the other party more convinced that they have something to do.

<> sometimes the attraction between people is this: the more she doubts you and stares at you, the more nervous you become. Maybe they want to ask themselves, what am I doing?

Of course, they have nothing. Of course, the other side explained to me, but still insisted. That's my problem.

But as soon as there was a little clue, the rope that had loosened a little bit tightened again.

They can't control their thoughts. It seems that things will develop according to the picture in their minds until they control and confirm it, and this small clue may become a fact. In the midst of this anxiety and stress, they say:

This woman has no boundaries, this woman has a bad character, this woman.

The so-called gender relationship refers to the life relationship between men and women, including the relationship between the family and the husband, the relationship between relatives, family, friends, colleagues, and of course, the relationship between lovers. Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, men and women should work closely together, like brothers and sisters, tolerant and generous, resolutely overcoming suspicious thoughts, assumptions and rude practices.

Both husband and wife should stick to the bottom line of the family's red heart, and there will be no suspicion of fraud, divorce, wealth sharing and resentment; It is very important to keep a distance between relatives, friends, and colleagues. Don't venture through a minefield, leaving endless difficulties for the joy of a moment; As for lovers, what do you say?

What should you do when you feel that you are not getting better, but more suspicious in your marriage? Marriage has always been a difficult problem to deal with in the relationship between the sexes. Many times in marriage, people are faced with a dilemma, when they have no choice but to persist or give up?

Either way, in fact, it is a matter of trade-off. Tachibana shouted that I recognize the circle and sell the wild, a person must have enough psychological preparation before marriage, to be clear, this person, is not able to leave under any circumstances, in the face of any difficulties, life and death together, once a positive answer is reached, then you must have enough confidence and determination to overcome all the difficulties in the marriage, persevere. If at this time, they are all uncertain, or have all kinds of other ideas, then this marriage should not start.

And in marriage, there will definitely be problems of this and that. I think a person must have a bottom line in marriage. Think about it seriously, what your bottom line is, your bottom line is in**.

And, make your own bottom line clear to the other party. also communicate with the other party carefully to see that his bottom line is in the **. For example, how to be friends with the opposite sex, what level of friends is moderate, and which step can be accepted.

Or, who manages the finances of the family and what to do with large expenditures. Or, when faced with the problem of career and parenting, can they agree and are willing to pay for it. For example, whether there is a double standard in the treatment of the elderly on both sides.

If you have some bottom lines, you will be much more relaxed in your marriage, and you will not be helpless at every turn. Except for the bottom line, the rest, just open one eye and close one eye. You must know that marriage is different from love, love, as long as love is enough.

In marriage, love slowly withdraws, and responsibility gradually increases. In this case, there are some problems, which will lead to some choices and abandonments, and I think that as long as it is conducive to one's original intention and does not go against one's own wishes, some problems can be big or small. Don't worry too much about it.

Calculation can only bring dissatisfaction, quarrels can only bring harm, and calm down and listen to the voice of the heart, you can know what you want and how to do it.

You should tell the other party about this matter, and hope that the other party will find a particularly good solution for yourself, so as not to make yourself particularly suspicious.

Sometimes it's not the marriage itself that makes people tired, but the strangeness of the two people in the marriage. Marriage is different from love, when you are in love, you see each other's advantages, and even those shortcomings are also characteristics. But after getting married, it's different, and the drastic changes from all sides will slowly change people's mentality.

Although everyone wants to have a happy marriage, there are still many people who get tired of their marriages.

No marriage will always be easy, after being together for a long time, there will be such a feeling more or less redundant, as long as there are no major problems between the two people, don't give up easily, try to try new interests and hobbies, and expand your network.

Empathy. A marriage that makes you feel tired is usually because the man is not responsible enough in the family, or even selfish, and does not think about others and does not take into account the feelings of others. I don't know why I snubbed or even hurt others.

disappointed to a certain extent, I really want to leave everything behind and start over, but I don't have enough courage, and soft-heartedness eventually becomes a woman's weakness in marriage.

Settle down, strengthen yourself, base yourself on the present, work hard, marriage is just a part of our life.

Many modern marriages lack trust, and once they don't trust each other, they either doubt each other or doubt themselves, or even have doubts about both parties. If you want to get out of your doubts, you must arm yourself, first learn to love yourself, be financially and spiritually independent, have your own career and social circle, learn to pretend to be yourself, and let the other party know that in addition to him, you will still be favored by other men. The easier it is to get something, the less a man often knows how to cherish it, so you must make him feel that he needs to take good care of you to have you.

In fact, there is no need to worry too much, if there is something to say between husband and wife, it is really impossible to tell the truth without communication skills, and confirm whether both of them agree with this fact. After confirmation, put forward your unilateral requirements, discuss if you can, and discuss what cannot be discussed between husband and wife, it is not a matter of principle, you can talk about scum. Chat for a few minutes every day, don't pile up questions, the more troublesome, negative emotions will affect people's judgment.

You should build self-confidence in yourself, because only in this way can you change all your behavior, and you can also make yourself less inferior.

Talk to each other, improve the way the two get along, go out on a trip with the other person when you have time, and change the mentality of the two people.

I will choose to divorce, since I have such an idea, it means that I have a lot of doubts about this relationship, and the other party can't give me some sense of security.

At this time, I will consider whether the two of us are suitable, and find out what the problem is, and work with the other half to solve these difficulties.

You should adjust your mentality, and the two of you should communicate more, communicate more, and talk more, so that there will be no such emotions.

You can do things you love to do, keep yourself busy, don't be pretentious, trust your yards and don't always speculate.

In the marriage, I constantly change myself, make myself better, and should make appropriate changes and compromises for each other, in order to make each other's love more long, not long after getting married, I conceived a baby, due to malnutrition, and because I don't know how to cook, my husband has no time to take care of me, so I can only go to my mother-in-law for a while to go to my mother's house for a while, at that time I feel that I am slowly beginning to estranged from my husband, I have told him many times, his mother is not my mother, It is impossible to treat me like my mother, but he doesn't listen, he always says that his parents are very good, how is it, but when I arrived at my mother-in-law's house, my mother-in-law played mahjong every day, and the cooking was not on time, and my father-in-law smoked at home every day, and it was useless to say, and at this time he always said that I was not sensible and so on, and slowly found that I was unwilling to call him ** to say these things.

Second, later I went back to my parents' house, and my mother took care of me, she had a lot of things to do, but she was also taking care of me wholeheartedly, because I was pregnant and vomited too much, my appetite was really not good, and I was very picky, so I could feel the distress of my parents, and then after giving birth, my in-laws did not say to help take care of the confinement, nor did they say to help take care of the child, in short, my confinement was taken care of by my mother, and he felt that his mother's waist was not good, and I should be considerate if he could not come.

Third, then we couldn't take the baby alone, and it was true that a person would not take care of it, so I took the baby back to my parents' house, and his parents didn't hit one, at first I and he would be a day **, and then slowly I didn't want to pick him up**, and I didn't want to talk to him too much, we separated for about ten months After I went back, I felt that the two of them could not feel like when they were in love, at that time we had just been married for three years, and the feeling at that time was that I wanted to return to a person's life.