Both friendship and love are extremely possessive, why is this so?

People's desires are difficult to satisfy, and people are inherently greedy, so they have a strong possessiveness for both friendship and love, which is a normal performance. But there are reasons for this, and I think there are several reasons:

1.Fear of loneliness. Because I am afraid of loneliness in my heart, I hope that someone can always be with me, so I want to have love and friendship, so that someone will always be with me and there will be no time for loneliness.

This can't be said to be greedy, love and friendship can be possessed at the same time, and the two are not in conflict.

2.They are more possessive of everything. There are many people who are very possessive, not only for love and friendship, but for everything, that is, they want that kind of thing to be their own, and they don't want to share it with anyone, that is, they are completely their own.

3.Lack of security. It's because you don't have a sense of security that you're afraid of losing, and then you want to have it so badly, and your possessiveness will continue to grow. Insecure people can only give themselves security, dare not believe anything, but are also especially afraid of losing something.

4.Love and friendship are more important. People who are more emotional are also very possessive of love and friendship, because they value these two feelings more, so they will want them to belong to them all the time.

At the same time, they are especially afraid of losing these two things, so they want to possess them even more.

So don't think that those who have a strong possessive desire for both love and friendship are particularly strange, think that they have a problem, they are also a normal psychological reaction. Because they care too much about each other, they keep each other in their hearts!

Because I'm afraid of losing, I want to hold on tightly! This is also a childish expression......It's like a child who doesn't let others play with his own toys, and just wants to play by himself!

Friends can be shared, not too possessive, and generally not ......Because it is a person's freedom to be friends with whomever he wants, and he has a sense of loss because after a friend has other friends, he may spend less time with himself ......

But love cannot be shared, which is also the essential difference between love and friendship! If love is too possessive, it may be caused by the fear of loss, lack of confidence in yourself, and lack of confidence in the other party!

You must be confident in yourself, believe in your own charm, and have the ability to manage your own feelings!

Be confident in the other person and believe that he loves you!

Self-confidence is based on mutual trust and mutual understanding, so if you want to be less possessive, you must trust and understand each other!

There is such a question, you have dinner with your female (boyfriend) friend, and your ex calls **, do you turn on the hands-free, or do you hang up as if you don't know and then call back afterwards, or smash your phone? As a girl, I would most like to hear my boyfriend and choose the last one. In fact, at first glance, the first choice should be the standard answer, which means that you are actually not afraid of shadows, and I should also show generosity and understand your behavior.

But I don't, I'm your current girlfriend, and you're just my boyfriend, although you pick her up in front of me and open the hands-free to indicate that you are not weak-hearted, but I'm just unhappy, I just mind, this is the girl's possessiveness for her love.

When I was in high school, I had a falling out with my best friend from childhood to adulthood, and it took me a long time to understand why she was going to fall out with me. She and I have been in the same school since preschool, and then we were basically in the same class, and our circle of friends is the same, so we are very familiar with each other's friendship environment. But when I was in high school, I wasn't in the same class as her, and even the classes were far apart, so at first I liked to go to her every day, but when I started to study formally, I didn't have so much time to be with her all the time, so I also started to have a new circle of friends.

At that time, I met my current best friend, she was very kind to me, waited for me to eat together, woke me up, brought me breakfast, because it was a dormitory, so I got familiar with it very quickly. On weekends, I still go shopping with my former best friend, but she gradually says that she is not available and does not talk to me often. Suddenly, one day he told me that the two of us should not be friends, I am the kind of person who wants to save face, you said so at the time, I would not ask the reason, it made me very humble, so I replied well, turned around and left.

Later, I slowly felt the problem, she and I have been together for so many years, and we understand each other so much, it can't be because of my reasons to break up with me all of a sudden, it can only be because she feels that she has become one of the most important people in my life, so I simply don't want to, she is a proud person in her heart, I have always known it. It may sound incredible, but it's really what I experienced. In fact, possessiveness is a thing, whether you are friendly or in love, it is only related to individuals.

Possessiveness is a very normal manifestation of emotion. Especially the more you care about a relationship, the more afraid you are of losing. Therefore, they will continue to prove the stability and reliability of this relationship through possessiveness.

This is due to the individual's personality and also because of a lack of a certain sense of security.

You're a bit special. Natural leadership ability, if this is to be put on the job, it must be a good person, the leader is just in the wrong place, change it a little.

That only shows that you are a selfish person. There is a kind of love called letting go, and there is a song, haven't you heard it? Sometimes all we need is to let go.

Yes, when you are together, you must trust each other, don't blindly be suspicious, leave a certain living space for each other, you can't rely on your brother in everything, and you can't have the final say in everything by self-envy.

There is a staggered imperative base. There can not be too much possessiveness in affection, too much possessiveness is easy to cause problems in the relationship between two people, make both people miserable, and let two people break up.

If you are too possessive, it should be wrong, because although your relationship is very good, although you love each other very much, but Kuanzi is that you can take up all of each other's time, and the other party is also an independent individual.

There are no mistakes, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, and if you choose each other, you should accept each other's strengths and weaknesses.

There must be times when this only makes the other party feel the pressure of the extra wide hole in life, and it will also feel particularly nervous when getting along with yourself. I also feel uncomfortable when I am careless.

True love is possessive and selfish. I believe that many people are negative about this issue. Generally, after having a partner, everyone will also take the initiative to keep a certain distance from other members of the opposite sex, in order to avoid suspicion, it is also to show respect for the other half, so that the other half has a sense of security.

However, it is rare to meet a true friend in life, and some people will be unwilling to give up like this. On the one hand, in order not to make the subject feel uneasy, and in order to maintain friendship with confidants. Many times, you can only keep in touch with friends quietly and try to avoid seeing each other.

It is also normal to chat occasionally through the mobile phone, in order not to let the other half misunderstand, everyone is used to deleting records after chatting, or using a calculator to disguise encrypted chat content, and they are not afraid of profiteering mobile phone chat privacy information in the face of mobile phone checks.

Besides, real confidants don't need to meet often, and they don't need to chat often, the relationship is not exciting, but they need to be deliberately maintained, no matter how long they haven't met, they won't feel strange if they meet again or chat if they miss out.