How to strengthen the integration of different outlooks on life?

During my internship, I bought a lipstick and spent more than 300 yuan. I honestly gave her a number, and she exclaimed, "What lipstick is so expensive?"

That's enough for me to buy more than half a month's worth of food. "All day, my mother chattered and nagged, teaching me to be thrifty and thrifty, to know how to break a penny into two petals. I've only come to understand her in recent years, and I'm imagining a long, long time ago, a little girl in a torn cotton jacket staring at fried fritters and grilled tofu on the street.

My mother, she grew up in poverty and hunger. When you are hungry and poor, you have a strong sense of insecurity in your stomach and heart. Only the real RMB in her pocket can relieve her tension and anxiety.

Thinking about it, I felt sorry for her, and I also understood the bitterness behind the door. I wanted to be better with my mother, but I also learned to avoid her sensitive pain, and deliberately said that the coat I bought for her was thirty or fifty dollars. In this way, she dressed with peace of mind, and my filial piety was expressed just right.

There is no absolute empathy, but there is a proactive way to put yourself in their shoes.

I spend lavishly, he spends money stingy, and if we can coordinate with each other, I learn to live within my means, and you learn to enjoy properly. This is a good combination, but if you have to say that you know how to spend money, you will die, then there is no way, two big spenders may not like each other, and two people who pick the door may also be more picky than whom. The world is so big, most of us are just ordinary people, and we have to use our outlook on life to limit the scope of our friends, but put ourselves in a corner.

Just like the frog at the bottom of the well, if it no longer clings to prejudices and learns to accept, then even if it is deep at the bottom of the well, it can understand the boundless vastness of the world through the animals outside the well.

I used to be almost such a person, but I haven't reached the point where I blacked people out and scolded them so seriously, but I just marked each other in my heart: the three views are different, and it is not appropriate to be friends. However, if you ask me, what are my three views?

Uh, let me think about it. For a while, I didn't seem to understand it. If I had to ask my views on life, I would think:

The most important thing in life is experience, the process is the most important, of course, the result is also very important, but the process can be grasped by itself, and the result can only be judged by time; Be a man and do things spontaneously, love yourself first before you can love others, your own things are a mess, and how to love others is false; The greatest meaning of life is not to get married and have children, but to be able to do something beyond the world.

I like to read, you like to play games, as long as you don't interfere with each other. But it has to be said that people who love to read pretend to be literary and artistic, and people who play games do not do their jobs, despise each other, and have the same outlook on life. You can still be friends with different outlooks on life, as long as you can respect and accept a different outlook on life from yourself.

Attained monks can talk to anyone, and if they chat, they have the possibility of becoming friends. In other words, there is a kind of person who can tolerate many different people, although the three views are different. From the definition of the three views, everyone's world view is different, that is, everyone's three views are different, but there are so many pot friends in the world, which means that it is not necessary to have the three views to be completely consistent.

Yes, two people have to be more respectful, understanding and tolerant of each other. Don't touch the discussion on issues that are clearly at odds with you. But it's tiring, to be honest.

And time is the biggest test. When you both have your own business, it's hard to find each other again.

Twenty years ago, when "Huanzhu Gege" was popular in half the sky, I was a big fan of Xiaoyanzi, but my good friend Jialing had a soft spot for golden locks. We have a conflict over this, and each of us wants to convince the other that their idol is the most beautiful, has the best acting skills, and is the most worthy of love. In today's words, it's like crazy calls for their respective idols.

Growing up means drifting apart, after all, we all have our own family backgrounds and life experiences. At the beginning, the two similar white sheets of paper have been depicted by the hand of fate to completely different landscapes.

The outlook on life is the view of life, and the outlook on life is determined by the worldview. The formation of people's outlook on life is gradually produced and developed in the course of people's actual life, and is constrained by people's world outlook. People from different societies or classes have different outlooks on life.