When the grief you never felt has happened, how do you resolve it?

Habit and acceptance. If there's one thing you can't forget, and you cry every time you think about it, then cry, cry until you don't have to cry. Then think about it again and cry again.

I don't cry anymore when I think about it again. I don't feel it anymore when I think about it. It's my personal approach, a little masochistic.

But there are some things I really can't forget. From the beginning, I cried every day, thinking that I was the most miserable person in the world, and that the world was so dark that I couldn't live. Later, I cried when I thought about it.

Then it becomes sad and unhappy when I think about it. If you don't mention it to me, I won't be sad, and finally I can tell you about it with a blank face. I've fully accepted it.

So no more sadness.

Listening to a song, a single loops someone's favorite song, at first you don't like to listen to it very much, and then you will like the rhythm of the song, become comfortable, and the mood will become richer, and after repeating it dozens of times, you will probably get tired of listening to it, and your mood will improve.

For a while, I was unhappy, in a daze, and sad, even if I laughed with others, I clearly felt that I was sad to death. And my temperament is reluctant to share my negative side with others, and I like to keep things in my heart. I couldn't extricate myself from the depths of my feelings, so I spent two or three days writing a small homework at the beginning of school, and under the transfer of attention from bugs and algorithms, I was sad or something.

Recently, I was sad and called a ** to my family, and I felt very happy listening to my family's chatter. You can't hold back, find a way to vent, or quiet, or crazy, it's hard to live, you have to love yourself!

For me, it's good to get some sleep, if I can't sleep, I go out for a walk, and if it's really uncomfortable, I can talk to my good friends or my parents and cry for a while. But to be honest, in addition to life and death, everything else in this world is a small matter, and some things are not worth your grief too much about, I think grief is an emotion that everyone will have, just don't be too often.

Truth be told, it's hard to forget the grief in your heart. If you want to forget it casually, it's not called grief. No matter what happens, the best thing to do is to divert your attention and keep yourself busy so busy that you don't have time to recall.

Everything will have a place in our hearts, the difference is that the degree of this matter is different, even if it is a small thing or what you don't want to remember, you will always remember it when you are alone or meet someone or something one day, so you have no other way but to face it bravely, it is impossible to forget, find something to do for yourself, keep yourself busy, and enrich yourself is the best way.

Let's talk about my usual solution, if I am really sad, I will like to resolve it in a way that is a little numb. Practicing calligraphy, painting complex and subtle colors with colored pencils, immersing oneself in mechanical and repetitive things, the person becomes dull and numb. Without emotion, there is no sadness.

I value other people's opinions very much, face and self-esteem in front of me make me depressed, but I am a pistachio who loves to laugh and is also a family and friend, these years I found that everyone and things in the family are the same, but getting worse and worse, so that I feel sad in my heart, I don't want to see it, let alone face it, but I want to escape, but now it's much better, when I feel sad, I make three or five friends to go out to drink and talk about my heart, and I can feel relaxed every time I come back, Therefore, when you are grieving, don't stay alone, go out and walk more.