Three years after graduation, why is the gap so big?

I think it's a good change to become not afraid of making a fool of yourself. When I first graduated, I was always embarrassed to ask questions whether I was in the office or on the construction site, because my inner thought was: I want to show that I understand, but I can't let others think that I don't know anything.

Even if you don't understand, you have to pretend to understand it very well, otherwise you will feel ugly. Now that I've seen it, it's normal to not understand, especially when I go to the construction site to calculate drawings in the office, it's normal to not understand. Ask what you should ask, even the most mentally retarded answer to the question, ask, no one will laugh, no one will report to the superior:

Hey, that guy in your cost department doesn't know anything! "I used to think too much, in fact, the people on the construction site are almost the best group to communicate, as long as you ask, whether it is an old construction worker, or a young formwork worker, they all know everything to tell you, and you don't understand the words for a while, he will tell you in detail, and even take the trouble to run down the foundation pit full of silt, climb up the dangerous platform to point and tell you what is going on. I've never seen a look of contempt and contempt on their faces, they're a huge knowledge base, and of course, you're being polite...A comrade who smokes a cigarette or something is better than reading half a book.

Face and accept your own shortcomings, instead of trying to change yourself and pretend to be someone else in pursuit of a goal. There is a lot less pomp than before, and life is getting more and more real. Understand the difference between being ambitious and ambitious.

I have a deeper understanding of people than before, and I no longer care too much about them, or ignore them completely. Got it"Career isn't everything"In this way, a happy life is the result of a balance of many aspects. Stop being superstitious about authority and try to think for yourself.

Realize that all conflicts are conflicts of interest or misunderstandings. Therefore, learn to seek common ground while reserving differences and be tolerant to others.

Let's take a look at the uncontroversial changes that are obvious to all! As far as I'm concerned, I've been working for a few years, so maybe my personality has changed. I still remember very clearly that in junior high school, high school, and college, I had a quarrel with my friends who had a better relationship, and my personality was relatively hot at school at that time.

I was a bit more self-centered at the time, and thankfully, my emotional outbursts and lack of scruples didn't cost me my friends and the people I cared about. They are still considerate of me, still tolerant of me, and still by my side until now, and I need to solemnly thank them for their companionship.

When I was in college, my life couldn't be said to be extravagant or particularly good, but it was still very nourishing, and it was a very normal life to go shopping and go out for a big meal. After working for a few years, I found that my life was getting worse and worse, and I had made money, but I was not as good as the school student Wang Gao, who used to have my parents' money and didn't worry about what to do if the money ran out, and now I don't have any money left in my life except for monthly rent, water, electricity, transportation, and food.

Therefore, everyone's education and experience are different, resulting in different logical thinking and ways of doing things, which can directly affect the gap after graduating from college.

Some people take the test with 100 points because the total score on the paper is 100 points.

Some people score 98 points because their strength is 98 points.

Because after graduation, everyone's direction is different, some people may work hard to start a business, some people have been admitted to graduate school, some people have been admitted to public institutions, some people have been promoted quickly in the company, and some people may still be small employees of the company, everything depends on their own efforts, their own development, and their own choices.

Because three or four years after graduating from college, the job is basically stable, and the capable students have been regularized or promoted, so the gap between the students will become wider and wider.

Because after graduating from university, everyone has different adaptability to society, different family backgrounds, different working environments, and the superposition of various reasons will cause the gap between classmates to become bigger and bigger.

Now the society is not high-scoring and high-energy, learning well but low emotional intelligence, and it is impossible to eat in the society, and the natural gap will be widened.

Everyone's development is different. After graduation, each student's development is different, and the money they earn is also different.

Because during this period, everyone's choice has changed, and after no longer being a student, whether the individual's ability is outstanding has also been revealed.

Because after 3 or 4 years of graduating from college, everyone chooses a different life, and the gap will gradually widen.