I m not good enough, right, I m not good enough

Of course, it doesn't mean that you're being too selfish, you're not making something out of nothing, you're just talking a little faster, and your current situation should be a reasonable problem.

Lack of orientation for oneself A person, whether he is good or bad, is his own business.

If he wants to improve, it's up to him to figure it out, and no matter how close the relationship is, it's disrespectful to him.

As a friend of theirs, you can be persuaded in good faith, but it is arrogant to force them to speak out without regard to their wishes, to force them to be better and more satisfying.

If they want to correct their shortcomings, they have to rely on themselves, and you can't overstep them.

You're not selfish, and I believe the starting point isn't necessarily bad, but it's just that this behavior is better to control yourself, and it's too disrespectful to them.

Look at whether the other party is kind or malicious, if it is goodwill, accept it with an open mind, as long as the other party pays attention to the occasion when speaking, pays attention to the attitude, and can take care of their own feelings, otherwise, you can defend your rights and interests and go back: "How good do you think you did?" It's not your turn to dictate to me!

Note: If you want to express your opinion and don't want to leave any opportunity for people to respond, argue, refute or elaborate, write a blog. There's a good reason why "pit preaching" isn't allowed in my conversations, because it's really boring, and if the other person is a conservative, he must hate Obama, food stamps, and abortion.

If the other side is a liberal, it must be annoying, big banks, oil companies and Dick Cheney. It's totally possible. You don't want that, and you need to come into every communication with the assumption that you can learn something.

The famous ** division mScott Pike once said that true listening requires putting oneself aside. Sometimes, that means putting your personal opinions aside.

Feeling this acceptance, he says, the person speaking becomes less vulnerable and sensitive, and as a result, is more likely to open up his inner world to the listener. Again, if you need to learn something new, Bill Naichi says, "Everyone you're going to meet has something you don't know."

Let me reiterate that everyone is an expert in something.

The reason is that you are too kind. So it's easy to care about other people's feelings, and thus it's easy to worry about others. Such a person is undoubtedly a good person and can show kindness to everyone, but such people are often very tired because they have an inexhaustible heart.

Many times we worry about something inexplicable, or worry about someone who doesn't know how to do it. This is all understandable, and each of us is beyond our control in the face of worry. It's just that some people care more about things, and worry more about them.

Some people care less about things, so they rarely worry about being fought.

No matter what kind of person it is, we can't say who's right and who's wrong. A person who will worry about others is a person who knows how to care about others, and he will also gain a lot of friends. But it's going to be tiring.

And a person who does not worry about people, albeit a little indifferent. But such people tend to live easily.

At this time, because you care about her so much, you will think a lot. You wonder if something happened to him. Is it a mobile phone**, or is it something else.

But in fact, he just had a dead phone.

Worry is to scare yourself with virtual risks. No amount of worry is superfluous. Because when what you're worried about doesn't happen, your worries are unnecessary.

When what you're worried about has happened, you find that what you're worried about is useless. So, don't scare yourself with those virtual risks.

Everything has to be on the bright side, but what we feared didn't happen and we were lucky. When what we feared has happened, we will find that we don't have to worry about it anymore. So it's not a good thing.

Worry that you are not good enough, there is a good side, so it is positive, the pursuit of perfection psychology, can promote yourself to do everything better, but there is also a bad side, sometimes the idea is good, but the strength is not enough, the resources are not enough, not only by their own efforts can do things perfectly, but also need more factors other than personal efforts, so after their own efforts, but also to maintain a normal heart, so that can motivate themselves to do better and better.

I always feel that I am not good enough, first of all, because you have too high requirements for yourself, you can be said to be a perfectionist, you want to be perfect in everything you do, to be the bestBut the reality is very cruel, when you do something, there will always be some other uncontrollable influences, causing you to not be as perfect as expected. That's when you feel like you're not going to do anything well, and in the long run, it can seriously hurt your self-esteem and confidence.

Secondly, the family also has a great influence on you, such a person may have lived in a strict family atmosphere since childhoodParents also have high requirements for them, so when they still do some things, in addition to carrying their parents' expectations, they also have to add additional psychological pressure and burden to themselves, which is also very detrimental to his life development. A person like this, although he looks strong on the outside, is very fragile on the inside, and once she is criticized by her parents, they will easily break down.

Always thinking that you are not good enough, in fact, it is also a sign of lack of self-confidenceThe lack of self-confidence may be due to some self-reasons or some external influences, but first of all, we should maintain a stable mentality, look at ourselves correctly, and not blindly deny ourselves. If we don't have the right mentality, no amount of effort can change the status quo.

I think people like this can relax properly and relax themselves with their own requirements and standardsDon't let yourself be in a tense state all the time, if you continue for a long time, it will definitely cause some damage to your body. No one is perfect, we can only do things as much as possible to the extreme, but after we try our best, there are still certain regrets, we can only learn to sum up experience, learn lessons, and strive to do better next time, rather than blindly reflect on and deny yourself.

This is a manifestation of lack of confidence in oneself, always thinking that what you are doing is not good, if you do that at that time, the result will not be the same, this is inferiority. In fact, everyone has advantages, don't easily deny yourself.

Ask what is the situation when you always re-wash your hands.

Dear, or you care too much about this matter, you can think about something else or do something else next time, which can distract you, remember not to think too much, believe in yourself, and give yourself enough confidence!

Ask about the cause of the epidemic, be overly afraid, always take a shower, wash your hands and disinfect it.

Do you live in a high-risk or low-risk or medium-risk area?

Or you may be afraid that you will get the virus, which is why you are causing the disease.

In fact, you are just worried about filtering the pro.

When did you get into this situation?

Maybe it's because you're too demanding on yourself, so you always feel that you're not doing well enough, but in fact, it's very likely that you've done a very good job in the eyes of others.

Maybe it's because I'm too inferior, or I have obsessive-compulsive disorder, and I always feel that I can't do anything to achieve the best.

It's because I don't have self-confidence, I don't believe in myself enough, and I don't know my efforts.

It should be that you have low self-esteem, and you should work hard to become confident and tell yourself that you are very good.

Because you may be pursuing a particularly perfect process for yourself, everyone has their own psychology, just look at the big and small in this heart, you just care about this special thing.

What's wrong with always thinking that you're not good enough?

That's because you're not confident enough! Or maybe it's not enough to be satisfied, there are too many things in the world that we want to get, but we are so ordinary, then we can only hint at ourselves in our hearts to be content!

Sometimes don't be too demanding of yourself, after all, you are just a person, not a fairy, there are incomplete places, it is normal, but you know that you are not good enough, you can work hard, then it proves that you can do better, the suggestion is not to blindly ask yourself to take it easy, to know the all-round development of physical beauty and labor, don't blindly be a nerd, to know how to be flexible, for example, you have good grades, but you can't do housework at all, so you are out of society, what to do? Who will take care of you? But if you have good grades in housework, you can do it, then after you are out of society, you can be completely independent, completely independent life, no one to worry about you, no parents to worry about you, this is the most important thing, don't go to the tip of the horns, everything must know how to be flexible.

You have high requirements for yourself, just lower your requirements, just work hard, don't live too tired.

People should be content, and people should have a normal heart. One step at a time, not one step at a time.

Maybe you belong to the perfect type like me, to be confident, since you are already together, it means that you like each other, I don't know how long you have been together, if you have just been together, then you need time to slowly understand each other, if you have been together for a long time, then you have to work hard, the feelings invested in him, he can feel it, find the problem, and treat this relationship well. You have to have confidence in yourself and go out on dates often, and you have to be very active, oh Actually, he loves you and only wants you to be happy, don't put such a big burden on yourself and wish you happiness, come on.

There is no right or wrong in love itself, and feelings are often uncontrollable, and they arise unconsciously when you can't help it. If you like him, she doesn't know him, she has a family, then you are absolutely not wrong; If you didn't know that you liked him or her before, and then you know that you still keep going, then you have to think about whether you are right or wrong in doing so. If you like him and her despite knowing it, then that's not right. Put yourself in someone else's shoes, if your lover is liked by another person, what will be the result?

Actually, I think you know right or wrong in your heart, but feelings are often not easy to fade away, I believe that if you are a reasonable person, you will slowly let go of this feeling, and bless him and her. Like someone, you don't have to have it, I believe you can find happiness that truly belongs to you!

Then try to be on the good side.

You're not here to find a girlfriend, you're here to raise your daughter. Love is a matter of two people, what are you like this? Selfless dedication?

Sometimes, a little distance, better!

Otherwise, a lot has been said upstairs, I don't want to repeat it, think about it yourself, what is love?

In addition, I would like to add: love, what is the dignity of love, and the love that is prayed for? Alms? You have to make your girlfriend worship you and can't do without you! Instead of taking care of her like a nanny, if this is the love she wants, then, let's disperse, it's too tiring!

Let me give you a few points of analysis.

1. Your girlfriend has a clingy personality, poor autonomy and independence, and is more dependent on people.

2. It's not that you're not good to her now, it's that you used to be too good to her, so it's not so good now compared to before.

3. There used to be a saying that the worse the man, the more the woman loves, this is not groundless, there is a factual basis, you have to have your own opinions, the root of the ear can not be too soft, now please in every possible way, you will regret it in the future, hehe, just say so much first, you think about it yourself.

I want to ask a little bit first, do you really know her (not a one-sided understanding of what she likes to eat and what she wears) Do you know what she is thinking in her heart? Yes! Women say that as long as they are good to me, but now society is not just good to her, do you give her what she needs, do you know her family, and what kind of life she wants in the future? Does she know you thoroughly, knows your family background, who you really are, isn't it superficial?

Sometimes being too nice to a person is also a stress.