Why couldn t women boldly express their truest emotions in ancient times?

In fact, this is just a kind of thinking of our traditional Chinese women, in ancient China, women were not allowed to show their heads, nor could they express their feelings, because if that would be regarded as frivolous people, they would be looked down upon. This kind of thinking still exists, and boys seem to prefer that kind of reserved girl. And girls also feel that they are reserved so that they will not be looked down upon by others, so many girls dare not express their truest thoughts in order to be reserved.

Of course, this is actually wrong, in love, if the girl is reserved and does not dare to express her dissatisfaction, then her result will be unfortunate.

In order to make yourself look more noble and keep reserved, in fact, something will miss your happiness. Reserved girls will indeed be more respected, because being reserved makes people feel that the distance between the two is far away, but for ordinary people, the distance generated by reserve is a kind of politeness and self-love, so it will win the love of boys. Therefore, many girls love to pretend to be reserved and do not express their true emotions directly.

It's an old idea, and I don't think it's necessary to follow it.

However, I have to correct the misunderstanding of being reserved, in fact, being reserved does not mean that you cannot express your thoughts boldly, the scope of reserve is very wide, and it is difficult to explain. For example, if a girl is elegant when eating, this can be considered reserved.

Therefore, girls should be reserved just to make themselves look more elegant and perfect, this is worth advocating, if the girl is not reserved at all, it will make people think that she is uneducated and has no temperament.

And not being able to boldly express her true thoughts is not reserved, it can only show that this girl is very introverted or very depressed, I don't think this is worth advocating. Because today's world is a world of free speech, men and women of all ages are free to express their opinions. I will not come up with a high-sounding reason for this unreasonable attitude towards life, and I hope that women will not be too weak in life and hide their true selves under the dirt, such a humble lifestyle is harmful to physical and mental health.

Because if a girl boldly expresses her true feelings, she is likely to be hurt by that boy, and now boys have a sense of pride in their hearts. If the girls confess first, then they will behave very casually towards the girls in the future relationship, and they will think that the girls are upside down for themselves, and they will not seem to care so much.

And this society has relatively high requirements for girls, if the girl takes the initiative, then the outside world will think that the girl is more frivolous, and will use some bad words to describe the girl, so for this reason, girls dare not express their love. And every girl has a strong self-esteem in the process of falling in love, they want to be the one who is loved, so even if she loves each other very much, she also wants the other party to confess to herself first.

And everyone has taken it as a very normal thing for a boy to chase a girl, and if a girl chases a boy, everyone will think that the girl is very shameless, so because of such a rule, there are generally no girls willing to break it.

In fact, it is not necessarily, in the face of the person you love the most, the feeling of expressing love for the other person is uncontrollable, but many times it can't be too much, you must "endure".

Many women are more straightforward, but as soon as they get in front of the person they like, they immediately become a little rabbit, a kitten-like existence. can be honest and reserved.

In fact, they also have their own little abacus in their hearts, because they want their men to cherish and make their men feel that they are a very principled and bottom-line woman, and they will never do anything with others.

There is an idea that men cherish themselves, because women are too proactive, too good to men, and they have to say I love you several times a day, and men will get bored when they listen to it too much, and feel that you can't live without him.

is not cherished and disrespectful to you, because I will eat you and feel that you will definitely not leave, but it is counterproductive to what women want to let men love well. Therefore, it is preferable for a woman to be subtle.

But there are also some natural people who are more shy, although they have it in their hearts, but they don't know how to express it, they can't say it, they can only express it in action, and they can do it meticulously to care for their own men, which is also the reason for the depth of love.

Because if a woman is not reserved, a man will not cherish you. If a woman takes the initiative to pursue a man, if they are really together in the end, maybe the man will not cherish this relationship much. Because men are more attentive, if this relationship is pursued by yourself, then the boy will think that you will like him more, that is, he will rely on your liking, do something that hurts you or will not care much about your feelings, otherwise how to say that women chase men and women.

When I didn't have a relationship with my boyfriend before, although I knew at the time that I liked him, it was my boyfriend who finally confessed it. Because I always think that if a girl is too active, it will make this boy not cherish you, because how can the feelings that you don't work hard to cherish more than what you have earned. So at that time, no matter how much I liked it, I couldn't show my true feelings for this feeling.

I've been dating my boyfriend for more than three years now, and he still dotes on me as much as he used to, although sometimes he gets angry at him for his immaturity. But I can wait for him to mature slowly, and the couple should soon learn to understand each other.

Therefore, girls must know how to respect and love themselves, and only when they learn to love themselves, boys will like you. Don't associate with guys just because they say they like you. Don't start pursuing someone passionately just because you like a guy, because not every girl can meet someone who really likes her.

In ancient times, whenever a woman got married, it was up to their parents to decide, and their parents decided who their children should marry when. This is due to this tradition, which led later in. The underwear of people who are several generations older than us are brought, and it is said that many times among them women are very reserved, and they dare not boldly express their truest feelings, because if they do, they will be ridiculed by their neighbors.

For this question, I want to say that from ancient times to the present, women must be persistent, and dare not boldly show the truest emotions, which comes from the consciousness that girls should have girls. Think about it, if girls are as bold as boys, girls are as bold as men, and women are constantly pursuing this man in their relationship, then this society will not have the soft side of girls, and many times in this society, boys will be conquered by girls.

Maybe for girls, I feel that girls are a little more reserved, often more angry, generous nature think about it, if a boy and a girl, the two of them love each other very much, but as a boy, you don't go to the friendly girl courtship but want to courtship you in this girl, then does it mean that this girl is a little rushed to chase more, your table boy, you should take the initiative to think of this girl to courtship the girl reserved, more should show, In this way, the girl generously showed herself in front of the boy, which also made the boy love it even more.