What are you hiding from your parents?

When I was seriously ill outside, when I encountered difficulties and setbacks, when it was difficult to persevere, and when I couldn't find a job and my life was very desperate, I carried it without telling my parents。Because as an adult, the difficulties and setbacks encountered outside are a process that must be experienced in life, and only by smoothing out these setbacks can we move towards the road to success. And in the process, it is often difficult for people to persevere, or even bring people to the brink of collapse.

But life is like this, only by persevering and carrying everything down, can you live a better life. <>

First of all, when I was very sick outside for the first time, I didn't tell my parents. Because I thought at the time, I could solve it by myself, and I could go to the hospital by myself outside, so there was no need to tell my parents at this time. Because our parents have worked very hard to provide for us to go to school since we were young, and the living expenses and tuition fees for school are their hard-earned money.

Every time we are in need, simply turning to our parents for help will solve the current crisis. But if you think about it from another angle, parents are very hard and tired. So what can I do if I have an illness, even if the doctor said that my condition is more serious and the medical expenses required are more expensive, but I thought of the hardships of my parents, so I insisted on carrying it.

Secondly, when encountering some difficulties and setbacks, it feels like life has reached a low point. Because in a person's life, they will face all kinds of difficulties and setbacks. Although difficulties and setbacks are the cornerstone of making people move forward step by step, as long as you endure the past, you will be one step closer to success.

The difficulties encountered at that time were really unbearable, and they were also very painful physically and mentally. But at this time, I didn't tell my parents, but carried it alone. <>

In the end, after graduation, I traveled everywhere, but I still didn't find a job, and I didn't have a good room and board during this period, which would be very painful to think about. And at this time, I didn't tell my parents, I decided to go out and find a job by myself every day, as long as I could support myself, and just get through it.

For example, the mortgage is carried by the parents themselves, and sometimes they live outside, and they can only carry it by themselves if the work does not go well.

I think it's normal to hide from your parents about money, but it's very painful to hide money from your parents.

Once I accidentally broke my classmate's mobile phone, in order to be able to pay back my classmate's new mobile phone, I borrowed a campus loan, and then slowly worked by myself to pay off the money.

For example, it is not good to mix outside, but the people at home only report good news and not bad news, such a situation, I believe that most families in China have such a phenomenon.

I hid my parents from doing dangerous activities, drinking alcohol or smoking. The "crazy" things that are done without telling your parents vary from person to person and need to be analyzed and judged on a case-by-case basis.

However, whatever decision you make, you should consider the impact on yourself and others, and communicate with your family as much as possible.

Here are some possible examples:1Participate in dangerous activities: such as extreme sports such as parachuting, rock climbing, suspension, or participate in dangerous activities such as street racing, these activities are inherently dangerous and easy to cause parents' worries and objections.

2.Drinking or smoking: It is illegal to drink or smoke as an underage and can not only pose health risks, but can also lead to strong resentment from parents.

3.Ethical violations: Bad behaviors such as stealing, cheating, gambling, etc., which can easily hurt the feelings of family members and may lead to legal liability.

4.Love relationships: such as hiding from parents and dating friends of the opposite sex, early love, elopement, etc., these behaviors may cause strong resentment from parents and may affect family relationships.

5.Giving up school or work: such as dropping out of school or quitting a job, these decisions can affect an individual's future development and may cause concern and disappointment for parents.

Under normal circumstances, we should tell our parents when we do things on our own, and get their permission before acting. ......But sometimes we hide from our parents to do something we really want to do. In my own experience, I have done such a thing.

Specifically, I have traveled without my parents, gone to concerts without my parents, and chosen my job without my parents.

1. When I was in elementary school, I used to go out on a trip without telling my parents.

When I was in elementary school, I had the experience of traveling without telling my parents. ......Due to my young age, my parents never allowed me to be too far away from home, which filled my heart with anticipation. So, one day, while my parents were out on business, I went out on a trip without telling them.

Although the trip didn't go far from an adult's point of view, the experience was really impressive to me.

2. When I was in middle school, I once went to a concert in another city without telling my parents.

When I got to middle school, I started to like listening to music. In order to be able to feel the wonderful feeling of listening to the song on the spot, I went to another city to listen to a concert without telling my parents. ......It was the first time I went out alone, and I can't forget the new and somewhat worried feeling, which I still remember vividly.

3. When I graduated, I chose my current job without telling my parents.

When I graduated, I did the biggest thing I did so far without telling my parents, and that was that I chose my current job based on my own ideas. ......Since I didn't tell my parents beforehand, I was very worried that they would be angry with me when they found out about the situation. But out of their own imagination, when their parents were very calm when they heard it, they were relieved that they could make a choice that suited them.

From this incident, I finally realized that I had grown up and no longer needed to ask my parents for help for everything.