What are some of the things you know are good for you, but you don t want to do them?

The possibilities are many. Everyone has things that "know how to do it better but just can't do it", such as sports, **. What's special about your friend is that he "complains, whines, and complains" a lot.

So for you, the question is not "why are you reluctant to do it when you know that it is good for you", but "complaining, whining, complaining". If his behavior is bothering the subject, tell yourself that you are not obligated to solve the problem for him, and there is no need to feel sorry and anxious about it. Listen more, listening in itself will help him a lot.

For that person himself, there may be a reason for "learned helplessness."

Laziness in thought. It exists in anyone, because it is tiring to do things, whether it is physical or mental work. For example, if you don't study hard, you won't get good grades, but you just don't want to study, you know that if you don't work hard, you won't get a big gain, and you know that if you don't read much, you won't be able to write essays well, but you don't want to do it.

If a person is often like this, then he has developed a lazy habit of procrastination, and he needs to change it, and once he corrects it, he will overcome himself and will definitely make a lot of progress.

From a psychological point of view, everyone has both rational thinking and emotional willingness. The so-called "knowing that you should do something" means that your rational thinking confirms that this thing should be done; And "unwilling to do it" is driven by emotional willingness. For example, I know that obesity is not good for my health and I need it, but I still can't help but eat more and eat more in the face of food.

It can be seen that in this situation, it is not that I don't understand, I don't know, and it's not that I don't believe it, but I can't control myself, and then because I can't control my own failures, I will be angry at the right choice.

Both sensibility and rationality coexist. It depends on who in your mind is more able to come out and dominate the situation. There are so many examples in life.

For example, after dinner, I rationally tell myself that I am going to clean up the dishes and chopsticks, brush the dishes, and clean up the kitchen. And the sensibility blindly makes excuses and excuses for himself, and then lies down for a while and goes, and after lying down for a while, he thinks that it will be okay to brush again tomorrow! In this way, reason is defeated by emotion, and you are biased towards the emotional side, which leads to the bad habit of not washing the dishes after dinner.

Obviously, this word has a story, what is clear? It doesn't exist, it doesn't happen to you, it's just the result of observing the experience, and if it happens to you, it's infinitely close to what is obvious. There will still be a little reluctance in my heart to give for a possible result, and I think this is caused by the values of attaching too much importance to the result and despising the process.

Life is only now, if you can't enjoy the present and always hope to enjoy it in the future, then you can only force yourself to do what is good for you in the face of "obviously", and the benefits for yourself will always be in the future, because you instill in yourself the concept that the success of the present is not a success.

Unable to dominate one's own people in life, lacking rational awareness, and often being too emotionally mixed when sensibility and reason conflict. People who are too emotional, if they want to be rational, they must give fewer excuses and find fewer reasons, and turn emotional things into action. If you really do a two-self war, you are the one in charge in the end.

In fact, when it comes to the psychology of resistance, objectively speaking, it is not resistance, it is an excuse to indulge one's selfish desires. Everyone has such a side, and what they resist is to act, experience, and try by themselves! It's too messy at home, and I should clean it up rationally.

The reason I found was that I was too tired and didn't like to move, so I'll clean it up later. So, you're too emotional again.

If you want to change this habit, you can only strengthen your rationality and reduce the emotional part. For example, establish a clear schedule and strictly follow it; and then establish a series of short-term, easy-to-reach goals to work hard to accomplish; Transitioning to a series of short-term and medium-term goals, and breaking them down into a series of advanced steps to achieve little by little, these are all ways to gradually improve oneself and improve one's self-control ability.

Dear, there is no one absolute answer to this question, it depends on your own choice, if you are in your favor, you can do it, here are some considerations:

1.Job Responsibilities: If the job isn't in your area of responsibility, then you may want to talk to your boss or leader first to see if you need to do the job.

2.Company culture: Some companies may encourage employees to do more and show a proactive attitude. However, some companies may focus more on employees focusing on their own work and discourage employees from doing things that they don't belong to.

3.Workload and time: If you're already very busy and the work isn't in your area of responsibility, you may need to say no. But if you still have the time and energy, then doing something extra might make you perform better.

4.Personal growth and development: Sometimes, doing something that isn't your own may help you learn something new, develop new skills, and be more competitive. If you think this work has helped you in your personal growth and development, then consider doing it.

There are pros and cons to doing things that don't belong to you. The most important thing is to make informed decisions by considering factors such as your scope of responsibility, company culture, workload and time, and personal growth and development.

In the workplace, we must do our own work well, so that we can make performance and development. But sometimes we have to do things that don't belong to us. For these things that do not belong to you, how to deal with them, specifically including things that do not belong to you and are not worth doing, things that are not your own job are not necessarily irrelevant to yourself, and you should do things that are not your own job but are related to yourself.

1. Things that don't belong to you are things that have nothing to do with yourself. This sort of thing isn't worth doing. Each of us encounters a variety of things that we need to handle and deal with on our own.

Those things that are related to oneself are closely related to one's own interests, and oneself must do a good job. And those things that have nothing to do with you have nothing to do with you, you don't have to care about them, and they are not worth doing. 2. The work that is not your own job may not have anything to do with you, and you must do a good job of analysis and judgment.

In the workplace, one's own work is one's main business, and it must be done well. This is something that is clear to each of us. ......As for those jobs that are not their own jobs, some people think that they have nothing to do with them, so they ignore them.

Such an attitude is incorrect. ......In fact, although there are some tasks in the workplace that are not their own duties, since the relevant parties have found themselves to do, they have a relationship with themselves, and they need to deal with them properly. 3. Do a good job of things that are not your own but are related to yourself.

In the workplace, we need to seize every opportunity to improve and develop ourselves. This requires us to do everything well and show our abilities and talents. ......Therefore, for those who are disrespectful to their own job but find their own work, they should do it well, so that they can grasp this rare opportunity to show their ability and positive work attitude, so that they can benefit the most.

Therefore, in the workplace, when we encounter something that does not belong to us, we need to do it and do it well when we are sure that it can help us improve and develop.

Of course, we will continue to stick to kindness, and kindness is our bottom line.

Other people's morality has nothing to do with us, the education we have received since childhood is to respect the old and love the young, that is, to punish the evil and promote the good, and the lack of education of some people has led to his moral corruption, which cannot be the reason for affecting our work.

We are kind because we are a kind person, not because of the moral corruption of others and change our original intention of kindness, we do good deeds worthy of the conscience of heaven and earth, worthy of ourselves, worthy of the mountains of others, our own mentality will become very peaceful.

We are kind and we do good deeds, not to get praise from others, but because we choose to be a kind person, kindness is our choice, others can't understand our kindness, it can only show that everyone's three views are different, can only show that everyone's moral bottom line is different, but this does not change my heart that I want to be a kind person.

There are thousands of people in the world, and there are various personalities, I understand people with low moral bottom lines, and I also understand that there may be people with very gentle personalities, and there are many kind people in this world, and there are many people who have no moral bottom line, and we can't give up the right to choose kindness just because we have met people who have no moral bottom line.

Even if I do good deeds that others don't understand, I will stick to kindness, because this is my choice, because after I do good deeds, I will be in a very good mood, I don't mean that doing good deeds shouts for Jane and wants to be praised, but because I will be very comfortable in my own heart.

If you still care a lot about other people's eyes and opinions when you are doing things seriously, then you must not be doing things seriously.

When you do things seriously, you only have what you are doing, very focused, very focused on doing it, and you won't even feel any interference from the branch town next to you and the pointing and pointing of others. If what you do is right, or what you think is right, is beneficial to you or important people, then do it, there are two kinds of incomprehension of others, one is that inconsequential people will point fingers at everything, then you don't care; The other is that your family does not understand, that most of them are out of concern, if you really want to do it, you are serious from the heart, and they will slowly be infected by you and understand and recognize you.

So when you do good deeds seriously and do something worthwhile, the people who should understand you will understand you, and those who don't understand will never understand, and you just keep doing it. After all, the pointing of others is not the rudder in your hand, and your own boat has to be driven by yourself.