I had a conversation with a colleague about it, so tangled

I think it's best to break it, it will always affect your family, although the wife is not as good as the lover, but if you become a husband and wife with your lover, you will go to find someone else, and there is no great benefit to yourself, in fact, you know it yourself. It's just reluctant, if it's really like this, it's better to break it early, the night is long and dreamy, and one day it will be known by the family, have you thought about what to do when the time comes? You have more responsibility for your home Don't say much else, think for yourself.

It's better for you to give up on this, none of you can afford to play. This is life, and it can also be said that it is a battlefield. Think about it slowly!

What is Marriage? I think you're well aware. If two people can't get together, why get married? It's better to be unrelated from the beginning, and it's not just you who is sad, but also your wife.

I don't know if you have a child, if you have hurt him deeply, do you understand?

It's not fair to your wife to break it decisively, and you can understand it if you think about it from your side, and besides, you're so sad now...

That's not good, it's a bit of a game of fire.

In everyone's bones, there is such a mentality, compared with others, they are quite smart people, that is, they like to treat others as fools, but people are basically the same, that is, your IQ and EQ level are actually not much different from others in all people, the key is that the relationship between people is mutual, you have such a mentality, it also means that others have such a mentality, so people who treat others as fools must be stupid in the end. Because the people around you will also treat you as a fool, any clever action you do, others will take it as a performance, you think about it, do you have such a tendency and mentality, if so, hurry up and change, you think that others are smarter than yourself, so that you can learn from others with a humble attitude, this is the normal state of mind, so that others also think of you very highly, in fact, your level will be immediately improved, the relationship between people is so delicate, It's as simple as that.

Loss mentality. In everyone's heart, in fact, they are not willing to let themselves suffer, especially what they think is a loss, this mentality tells us, as long as you don't think you have suffered a loss, others must not take advantage of it, in fact, this mentality is very wrong We have to change our attitude and ideas towards others, to take the initiative to let others take advantage of themselves, and take the initiative to give some benefits and advantages to others, this is called loss altruism, this kind of loss altruism is the real law of loss, In the end, you will be compensated several times for these losses, and you will get sincere returns from everyone, and then it will be the beginning of your real success, and all the previous losses are the most important accumulation of your own success, without these accumulations, your so-called success is all an illusion.

Flat mentality. For this society, it does have its complexity, for their own units and organizations, their hearts are also full of fear, but also think that it is very complicated, in fact, this is related to their own mentality, you use a flat mood to look at the people around you, the people around you will naturally be dull, you can also use a more equal mentality to get along with everyone on the contrary, you see others on top, and do not understand or correct their position, and finally this psychological barrier, will lead to your depression more and more serious, So, first of all, we should look at the world with a flat mentality, look at the things in this world, look at the people around you in this world, this bland mentality will adjust your expectations, and the facts have also proved that what you think is magical, what you think is amazing, and in the end it will be like that, to be able to live to this point, you can be regarded as an understanding person, everyone should not be confused anymore.

I think we get along better, but it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to come to your house for dinner. After all, it is very troublesome to go to your house for dinner, and the other party is not willing to cause you trouble, which is also very normal.

1. To alleviate the contradictions of colleagues, we must take the initiative to break the boring situation.

Many people have the experience that when there is a conflict of opinion, whoever meets in the company does not say hello first, in fact, both sides are expecting the other party to speak first. Therefore, as a member of the company, when there is a gap, you should take the initiative to say hello and greet warmly in time to eliminate the shadow caused by the conflict and leave an impression on others that you are generous regardless of previous suspicions.

Network illustration. People in the workplace do not have to insist on an unreal self-esteem, if they ignore each other only because of a momentary anger, and pass by when they meet, as if the other party does not exist, in the long run, the conflict will snowball and become bigger, which will inevitably form a greater estrangement and make it more difficult to work together harmoniously.

Interpersonal relationships in the office are not simple, because there will inevitably be stumbling and small disputes between colleagues at work. It's not complicated to say that it's complicated, because we all fight for life and for our goals. In fact, as long as you master the following rules, it is not difficult to get along with colleagues!

2. Positive communication is the best way to alleviate the conflict between colleagues.

It is not right to be silent once a conflict has occurred, and even less so when it has not happened. The right attitude is to communicate frankly and seriously, and both sides should talk. Moreover, don't procrastinate, the sooner the communication is made afterwards, the better, the longer the time drags on, the deeper the psychological mustard on both sides, the more troublesome it will be to resolve.

In addition, disputes in the public office can have a negative impact on other colleagues and relationships between colleagues. Resolving conflicts and even hostile situations as soon as possible is also to show other colleagues. This gesture is very important.

When and on the occasion of communication, it is important to be careful that it does not have to be very formal. You can take a chance. For example, take the opportunity to take the initiative to express your attitude and opinion in connection with work.

3. To alleviate the conflict between colleagues, you can eat together after work.

If you feel embarrassed to be so blunt and honest with someone, then you might as well choose a more free and relaxed place to talk about the problem, such as eating together after work, and it is better to solve the problem during the meal.

When you find that the problem is in yourself or you don't want to make the relationship between the two very stiff, it is better to take the initiative to give a small gift, usually colleagues will review themselves later, just borrow a step to reconcile.

We should understand and tolerate the shortcomings of others, when our colleagues have some problems, Nian Qing has some shortcomings, we should not only put forward, but also help him improve and achieve common progress, this is the real healthy mentality.

Everyone has mistakes, don't talk about others, you also have mistakes yourself, first of all, you have to recognize your mistakes, and then you have to change. Everyone will make mistakes, between friends, between superiors and subordinates, between classmates is also unavoidable, when other people's offense is added to your head, sometimes this offense will make you embarrassed, you may be worried or annoyed, sometimes aggrieved, especially narrow-minded people will be calculating, serious when angry, straight face opposite.

In the eyes of others, you are indeed justified in maintaining your dignity, which seems to be understandable, but the result can only be to add an enemy to yourself; And some open-minded and wise people will be more tolerant of others, never care about small things, but for the good of others, and care about them in all aspects, so that in the eyes of others, maybe you are a fool, or stupid, but after a long time, their hearts thoroughly understand that you are an open-minded and kind person, so they have added a lot of friends to themselves.

Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and so do you. If her characteristics and habits only make you "minus points", but do not affect the harm and shadow of others, then you can only adjust yourself to get along better with others. There's a word called :

Seeking common ground while reserving differences may be more suitable for you. We can't change others, but we can change our perception and understanding of others. If you start from the advantages of your colleagues, magnify her strengths, and tolerate her shortcomings.

Then you will be more comfortable with each other in the future. You can try to adjust and see, if you still have deficiencies in interpersonal relationships, you can also communicate and understand with the psychological counselor in our center.

Work is done according to the requirements of the work, not mixed with personal evaluation, and then not accustomed to other people's style of doing things, only take the limbs to complete the task or need to assist each other, change a unit is the same, many people in the society do not eliminate the stool world must follow the rules, need to adapt, rude adhere to their own principles but also learn to judge the situation.

Minus points? Of course, everyone will have a + sub-item and a -sub-Liang Zhaohuai term. From the time she will seriously help you, she has been in +points.

Of course, if the sub-item is not in helping you in this aspect, in the body of others, if it affects the work, it has nothing to do with you.

Since it has helped you, don't be picky, just be yourself.

Look at it separately, accept what you can accept, and say no to her minus. Life is so short, don't be wronged.

In fact, most of the time, colleagues don't get along because of work, after all, there is competition between everyone, and it is normal to have places where you can't get along.

As an adult, it must be difficult to be like a child after a quarrel, you can forget it after a nap, all relieved, the pimple in your heart will always be there, and the deterioration of the relationship may become more and more serious.

What to do at this time? It is inevitable to affect your mood, and if you want to reduce this impact, the first step should be to improve your work ability and surpass that person or those people in terms of performance.

The workplace is based on results and benefits, as long as you are strong enough, he can't accept it.

2.Get along well with leaders.

All of them work to earn money to support their families or to fulfill their dreams, and the reason for making friends is definitely at the bottom of the list anyway.

When you are clear about this, you should know that it is okay to get along with some colleagues, and you must maintain a good relationship with your leaders.

The leader is the manager, and he has the absolute right to say whether you go or stay, and you go and go up. If you have the support of your boss, it doesn't matter if your colleagues don't like you, because you still have a chance to get promoted and raised, and that's the key to grasping the problem.

3.Get support from others.

In a company, you can be at odds with one person or a few people, but don't be an enemy of everyone. If you don't have a good relationship with everyone, anyone will think it's your problem.

Therefore, when you can't get along with a few people, you must manage your relationship with other colleagues, and you can get the support of the majority of people, after all, it is impossible to be friends with everyone.

If you can really do it, it will take a lot of time and energy, and then the attention at work will be reduced, and it will even affect the work, which will outweigh the benefits. So, try to get the support of the majority of the people.

First of all, you should communicate with your colleagues calmly, explain your personality and way of dealing with people, understand your colleagues' personalities, and find the junction of different personalities and different ways of doing things.

I can't handle it well, the relationship with colleagues, in fact, the relationship between colleagues is also very important, if you really don't have the ability to deal with the relationship between colleagues, then it's best to be silent, do your job well, try to do what you want to do, and strive to do a good job, this is the most important thing, since it's not easy to get along, and you don't have the ability to deal with it, then try to avoid it, less contact with them, do their own things, don't interfere with each other, so it's best, You can also work hard to have a good relationship with them, be an upright person, don't go back to the first cage, the rights and wrongs of others, get along peacefully, you can also have more contact with social people, accumulate some experience for yourself, and see how others get along with colleagues? It's also something that you can learn by yourself.

I do the performance of the sales speak. When we were doing sales before. I have a colleague who ranks first in performance.

Our manager said don't say he wants to light a cigarette during working hours. Even if you order the building, you can do it. Said hahaha laughed.

In fact, the words are not rough. Even that's it, you can do whatever you want in terms of performance.

There are two situations when you get along with your colleagues, one is that you are on the same level; The second is that your positions are not equal, and it becomes a situation of superiors and subordinates. On the same level, it is often not very difficult to deal with co-worker relationships. But once you've been promoted, you'll have to be very careful about your relationship with your former colleagues, as if you don't handle it well, it can make a mess of things.

Therefore, as an elevator, you should pay special attention to the "superior-subordinate" relationship during this special period.