My girlfriend doesn t want to live with her mother in law after marriage, but I don t feel at ease i

It's normal for a girlfriend to not want to live with her mother-in-law after marriage, after all, it's fragrant and smelly, and being too close is really not conducive to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so for the sake of your future life, you also have to live separately, so I support your girlfriend's choice.

But there is actually a solution to the problem of the elderly not being at ease about living on their own.

First, help the elderly find a wife. You have found happiness, and you may not be able to be by the side of the elderly all the time in the future, so you can find someone to accompany the elderly, who are of the same age and have similar interests, find a companion to live with, and experience the happiness of two people, I think it is a good way.

Second, find a babysitter. It's not that you don't care about it all at all, but find a nanny to take care of the elderly when you can't take care of it, so that you can rest assured. Looking for a nanny must find a professional company and professional personnel, otherwise it will be torture for the elderly, after all, it is not excluded that some people do not have the love of the old and the old.

Even if you find a nanny, you often go home to see if the elderly have been wronged, and contact the elderly in time.

Third, buy a house in the same neighborhood as the elderly. Home is close and not living together, there is something to arrive in a few minutes, so it is very convenient, not under one roof, but also to avoid the contradiction, if possible, you can go upstairs and downstairs, but do not install indoor stairs, there must be an independent door, so as to ensure that you do not live together and can pay attention to the situation of the elderly at any time.

Fourth, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law largely depends on the wisdom of the man, as long as you can do a good job on both sides, so that your girlfriend does not have to worry about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law at all, it is also possible to live together.

Marriage is a long-term process, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an issue that requires special attention. When you are on a registered trip, the daughter-in-law may not want to live with her mother-in-law for different reasons, which will have a negative impact on the whole family. So, what if the daughter-in-law doesn't want to live with her mother-in-law?

First of all, good communication must be maintained. One of the most important aspects of the mother-in-law relationship is communication, so on this issue, we must maintain communication. For mothers-in-law, their living and working conditions may be difficult to understand the younger generation, so the daughter-in-law should explain her thoughts and reasons to her mother-in-law as much as possible and communicate with them.

Second, understand each other's perspectives. The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is sometimes due to the difference in perspective. Therefore, on this issue, the daughter-in-law should understand the mother-in-law's thoughts as much as possible, taking into account the characteristics of their age and physical health.

At the same time, the mother-in-law should also understand the thoughts and needs of the daughter-in-law, especially when the daughter-in-law has other work and living arrangements, she should be more cooperative and understanding. Third, consider a simple solution. For this issue, and both sides stand their ground, then we should consider a proper solution to the state bench.

For the daughter-in-law, we can consider renting a house or setting up some private space at home, so that we can ensure personal living space and privacy. For the mother-in-law, we can consider inviting the mother-in-law to stay for a period of time, and respect their living and working habits during this period, so as to enhance the friendship between the two parties. Regardless of the solution, we should face the problem and achieve mutual compromise and win-win results on the basis of communication and understanding.

In conclusion, if the daughter-in-law is unwilling to live with her mother-in-law, we should solve the problem through good communication and understanding, and take appropriate measures to reach a solution. Conflicts between families require understanding and mutual compromise, and I believe that through the efforts of both parties, the family will be more harmonious and happy.

I have seen a conflict between a daughter-in-law and her mother-in-law, and the husband helped scold the daughter-in-law and told the daughter-in-law to get out of their house. But that daughter-in-law, I thought she would pack up her things and leave, but she only hid in the room and cried.

This person is my concubine, such a situation happened on the Mid-Autumn Festival of a certain year, I went back to my mother-in-law's house in the village to eat after work and Lao Tongkonggong, and I saw this scene, the little uncle was short-tempered, it was not me and my husband who drank him, so I almost beat my daughter-in-law. Later, I heard from the concubine that such things happen from time to time, and she also wants to go back to her parents' house, but her mother's family values men over women, and the daughter who marries out will not allow her to go back. The mother-in-law and brother-in-law also looked at this, disgusted that her mother's family was poor, and looked down on her when she was in a hurry to marry them and search the blind family, so they never had a good reputation for her.

Then I was glad that the wisest thing I did was to buy a house with my husband to go out to live, but he didn't dare to let me go, because I also had a share of the house and my property rights, and I wanted to get out of him.