I think I m a little bit mentally problematic and can t figure it out.

And that's normal, but it's actually horrible to be possessive sometimes, so it's important to suppress that thought.

You can also think differently, like self-interest

He's kind to you, and if you're suspicious of him, then you might feel guilty too, and that's probably how the conflict in your heart arises

You sometimes need to convince yourself with other ideas.

Whether he loves you or not, just be nice to you, don't hurt you, say sweet things to you, which shows that he loves you

If he doesn't love you, why should he be nice to you?

He could have said one thing and done another, but he didn't.

This proves that he loves you

You don't have to care about the rest, what you care about is that as long as he is good to you and you are in a relationship with him, it means that he loves you, and if he is not good to you and is not responsible, then it means that he does not love you, it's as simple as that!

Do you want to say that your intuition tells you that he doesn't really love you?

Do your instincts usually get right?

Or have you ever been hurt before? It can be seen from both aspects.

Fainted, before...

That's your problem.

Think about it yourself, it's painful if you still can't think about it.

But let me ask you, if your boyfriend must be his first love, otherwise the problem is still there.

It's normal for you to feel uncomfortable, I've had friends who have encountered it, and if you don't feel it, it's not normal. However, if you think that he is not sincere to you, it is a problem with your relationship, not a problem with your heart.

Just let him leave some words in your space!!

Psychological analysis: Hello subject, look at your description to understand your troubles, your state is mainly that you feel that you have some inner obstacles, such as social barriers, such as psychosexual disorders, etc., do not dare to tell acquaintances and friends, and dare not tell strangers, then this state continues, if you can digest it yourself, it is okay, if you can't digest it, it may be ruined Zheng will be aggravated, and it is not easy to solve it after a long time, so you still need to be brave and take the initiative to open the current deadlock. You can try to trust the counselor you like, because the counselor will keep the client or caller confidential, and then open up and talk about some of the problems you have now, including your own fear of being exposed.

In addition, I want to ask if there are some situations in your growth, such as you share some of your secrets with others, others don't pay attention to them, etc., and inadvertently leak them, if this may exist, it is also a reason why you don't want to expose it at the moment, of course, it is just an accident, you have to keep convincing yourself, there are problems to solve. Then take the initiative to open yourself, if you don't want to do these things for the time being, when those thoughts come, it is still recommended that you try to get up and do other transfers, for the cranky thoughts when you are alone, the important strategy is to reduce your solitude and fill the time. Then it is recommended that you can also find some books on psychology and philosophy, and think about it well, and the other is to enrich your daily life, whether it is study, work, etc., it is arranged step by step.

In addition to reading, another way is to exercise more, go for a walk in the suburbs, or go out on an outing with some friends, on the one hand, it will make you more integrated with everyone, easier to trust others, and on the other hand, let yourself not stay aside and think nonsense, these are things you can do, or even you can go to the supermarket next to you or something. In short, it is to study or work hard, when there is nothing to do, you can also go to the library to go around, participate in various activities and socialize, in public, those wild ideas will be much less, in short, you can try it, to be brave from the current state of Tsai Dan come out, come on!

Psychoanalysis: Maybe you have a certain problem in your heart, you are afraid to find out that there is really something wrong, so you will retreat and will not go to a psychiatrist, but you vaguely know in your heart that you have a lot of things to deal with, and this is where you need to deal with it. Some things need to be professionally diagnosed and regulated, for example, you may have a certain amount of social avoidance so you don't dare to face to face with friends, you will choose to quickly hide your psychological activities, and there are many thoughts to hide in your heart, so there are many places worth dredging at the level of self-acceptance.

I feel that I have a lot of psychological problems but I don't dare to speak out, I have a lot of psychological problems, I go to a psychological clinic and quit, I don't dare to find a psychologist, social disorders and psychosexual disordersQuestion ?Obstacle ??

Know your own background in life and make an acceptance of yourself Take the initiative to be aware of your personality traits Take a test to understand your own problems You can take the initiative to understand whether your behavior has some bad effects on your ascension, and if this behavior causes anxiety or other symptoms or distress to others, you may consider psychological counseling. It is inevitable that there will be all kinds of problems in our lives, we are all imperfect, we will unintentionally carry a lot of things on our bodies or hide ourselves, this does not mean that this is wrong, unless it affects your life and the lives of others. And the most common posture is to avoid hiding the truest feelings in yourself, and protect yourself in this way, but we all have the opportunity to choose again.

In this process of being judged by society, we need a gap, pour out our emotions, and be brave enough to be who we want to be. The basic explanation is similar to "some kind of problem", sometimes it is too niche and gives people the feeling that they want to hide, so our behavioral thinking needs to be guided. A long time ago, the British philosopher once put forward the "tabula rasa theory" that the human mind is a tabula rasa, and we will not laugh at the so-called various value judgments, nor will we judge them, all of which are artificially added by the acquired and recognized our own thoughts and feelings.

The purpose of this is to be aware of one's own thoughts, self-judgment, and pain, and any other feelings that may hinder one's growth. This form of self-assessment is to relax one's own mind and be somewhere between distracted and extremely preoccupied, to welcome both good and negative judgments of oneself, to try to forgive oneself and others, not to compare ourselves with others, to have our own lives. We can keep an open mind to different points of view, see that we are an ordinary person, and be curious and take the initiative to adjust even if there are problems, which is good, and if some problems make you uncomfortable, you may be more willing to adjust, which is also the motivation for us to improve, good luck. ?

Psychological tolerance is an individual's response to adversity (difficulties and setbacks, etc.).

The psychological pressure and the ability to tolerate and regulate negative emotions are mainly the strength of adaptability, tolerance, endurance and overcoming to adversity. A certain psychological tolerance is an important part of an individual's good psychological quality.

To improve psychological endurance, simply put: to be bold and careful, to be good at analysis, to dare to innovate, dare to practice. Be fearless in everything, do things calmly, be good at thinking, and be diligent in doing things.

Start now. Be conscientious and responsible for everything you have to do, do your own thing, and demand yourself, and do it better every time. Dare to take responsibility, dare to spur yourself, and slowly improve your psychological quality.

Remember: if you want to do better than others, you have to work ten times harder than others.

Liu Jinchuan, you asked this question in my mobile phone, master, not bad!

If you take a little more blows, it will become a habit, and you will naturally not care about it.

You can try to consult to make your mind more sound.

In order to effectively eliminate the negative impact, the first thing is to carefully analyze and find the crux of the problem, and then take targeted measures to resolve it one by one. Generally speaking, the factors that trigger fear and anxiety in individuals are hunted down, huge debts, and difficult to meet their own needs. For example, if you are worried about the quality of life in the future, then you can work hard now, and it will naturally be possible to live a better life in the future, so that the psychological pressure will naturally be reduced.

At the same time, you can also talk to your close friends often and ask for their help, so that you will be infected by a warm current and not be like that again.

A counsellor can help! We can only tell you some enlightening words later, I think we can learn knowledge, expand your knowledge and hobbies, so that you can make a difference.

First of all, you need to self-regulate, because I believe in the source.

The problems you encounter are only known best in your own heart, just like when you are sad or unhappy, you know what is the way to make yourself happy.

If you can't solve your own psychological problems yourself, then I think you have to ask for help from the outside world.

Hello, friend. In fact, everyone has one or several kinds of white anxiety, restlessness, etc. Especially in the middle-aged age period, the pressure of life, the pressure of children's studies and families, the pressure of parents, etc., is really too much, how to adjust it?

I believe in God, and it is very good to go to church to praise and pray, and I am still happy, and my heart is always at peace.

Go to exercise, run 5 kilometers, and forget about any problems that you can't think of.

It's because you're aiming too high! You should decompress yourself.

Leave a chat to help you.

Do you have everything you can't think of, or are there some things you can't think of? If it's a small thing and you forget it for a while, it may be something that you will never forget, which is more difficult, so take your time.

Everyone looks at things from different angles and attitudes, and some things, others think that small things are big things, and the things you mind the most or your "sore spots" are likely to be your "big things".

There are pros and cons to putting yourself in the shoes of others (which is necessary in interpersonal interactions), and the benefit is that you yourself are able to get along with others. The disadvantage is that you think too much, your brain is running all day long--- what you should say so as not to hurt others, and what you should do so that you don't expose your shortcomings ......It's not okay not to think about others, but thinking too much will hurt you, and you have to learn to regulate, and the pressure can affect your health.

Please don't confront someone head-on, if someone is sarcastic about you, you can retort with tactful and clever words, which is a polite rebuttal to make him understand that you are also a person who needs respect.

Take your time, the road is out of your own, hard work pays off, I believe you will be able to get out of your own confusion.

If you always think about the problem from one angle, you may never figure it out. But the cause of the problem is complex, if you think about it from a different angle, you will make new discoveries, maybe you will figure it out, and your heart will not be painful.

For example, I like someone very much, but no matter how good I am to her, she is indifferent; Instead of always wondering why she wasn't moved by me, I wondered if she liked someone like me. It's like a cat loves fish, and it's useless to give it more turnips.

Actually, everything can have a side to your advantage. Find it instead of always staring at the side that is not good for you.