How to deal with forced marriage? How to deal with forced marriage?

<> I think about my current age, I don't have a girlfriend yet, and my parents must be urging me to get married. My parents are actually okay, but I don't force me so tightly, and I only watched 8 in half a year. I was given another one this weekend, who seemed to be two years older than me.

My parents said that it is good to be two years older, and it belongs to the horse, and it belongs to harmony. I said no, they are two years older than me, they must be in a hurry to get married, and I am not in a hurry. And the matchmaker still said that he wanted a building?

Our family can't afford to buy a house under this condition. My parents said let's go and have a look, and the matchmakers have come several times. What if you look at the right eye?

Anyway, it's just to give me a meal. In the end, I reluctantly said yes, I'll see. I thought to myself that it wouldn't be a big deal just to take a look.

I'll just let everyone die after reading it.

Later, I came up with a set of ways to deal with forced marriage. I call it obedience. What the elders say, how do we follow along?

Q: Do you have a girlfriend? You say no. Say I'll introduce you to one, and you'll say yes.

This method is effective and reduces a lot of trouble and saliva.

Marriage is a major event to know, marriage and life are also a new beginning, everyone wants to find the beautiful and picturesque wife, everyone wants to find the hero who stepped on the colorful auspicious clouds and wore gold armor to marry you, but the cruelty of reality makes it difficult to wait for such a person to appear, and the final result can only be the least to find someone to marry.

Forced marriage is a new term, in fact, for boys and girls who don't want to marry or can't find someone to marry, the family forces them to marry or marry a daughter-in-law, which is forced marriage.

In fact, the ratio of men and women in society is still very reasonable, and there is no need to be too anxious to marry a daughter-in-law with so many people in China, there will always be something more suitable for you, although love is not waiting to come, but waiting is always good, forced marriage? Don't bother with it, tell them in detail what the other half they want is like, talk about their ideality 4 What boys and girls are saying what they really think in their hearts, and now they are forcing whoever has money will not say who is getting married early, so the nagging at home is just the wind in the ears. Love is something you feel and go deep into, and it's not your family to talk about it for you.

The status quo of forced marriage is difficult for everyone to accept, so it is also a good choice to find or rent a girlfriend to go home, and it is convenient and fast. In fact, I care more about the strange problem of not being able to find a partner than forced marriage, they are all two eyes, a nose and a mouth, how is it different, I think that as long as it is good for me, I like it, and my appearance is not important at all, I like to look good, how good.

Forced marriage is only temporary, because sooner or later it will have to be found; The other half, so don't worry about anything, the arrival of love has its own providence.

Recently, I have seen many friends say that they are forced to marry by their families and dare not go home, especially when they go home for the Chinese New Year, the Supreme Court, and I will talk about this topic today. How should unmarried children cope with the urging of their parents and elders to marry?

1. Reach a consensus on the issue of starting a family.

Tell your parents what you really think in your heart, you can persuade your parents to explain that at this stage, you will focus on your career first, and you will not consider marriage for the time being, and you will not find a suitable one, let them give themselves a little time, agree on a deadline, and if they do not find a suitable one, let them find a partner to arrange a blind date, and after reaching a consensus on the issue of starting a family, they will also let their parents help them deal with other elders.

2. Nod your head and deal with everything and it's over.

Anyway, it's only once a year, just listen to them and nod your head to deal with the past, don't take it to heart, they won't force you to go to the Civil Affairs Bureau, the elders have a good original intention, and they may also say casually, if you do it with them in this matter, it is inevitable that there will be quarrels and an awkward atmosphere during the New Year.

3. Divert your attention.

My cousin is in his 30s and hasn't finished yet, what am I anxious about" "Auntie, where did you make your hair, so you look young", leading the war to other places, if you really can't transfer it, you will fabricate it out of thin air, saying that you have a dating partner, and you are currently investigating each other, and when the time is ripe, you will take him home when the relationship between the two develops steadily.

In short, marriage is not child's play, it is not necessary to get married for the sake of getting married, but the elders urge marriage out of concern for you, although you have your own ideas, but you must also respect them.

My personal idea is to wear headphones, even if I don't listen to songs, I have to take them. This will block 60% of people who want to talk to you. We may all feel uneasy and anxious when we are urged to marry by relatives during the Chinese New Year, but we must remember that there is a way to deal with anything, whether it is being urged to marry or the marriage plan is delayed, there is no need to be too anxious.

Here are some of the best tips for refusing to urge you to get married, so you can stay on your feet:

1. Don't come close.

The best defensive strategy may be to avoid it outright, not to have more contact with the problem, and even if someone urges you to do so, don't be swayed by this and use your mind to move the conversation to another topic.

2. Shift the focus.

Once someone is envious of their hairstyle and you want to avoid it, you can try to shift the focus to other aspects, such as work, study, etc., and lead the topic to other aspects, even if others put the spotlight back on marriage, you can also move it to another place and maintain a calm topic arrangement.

3. Polite refusal.

If the pressure of being urged to marry is too great, the best thing to do is to politely refuse, you can say to the other party: "Thank you for your invitation and concern all the time, but my marriage plan is not within the scope of my plan, I don't want to waste everyone's precious time, I hope you can understand." In this way, even if the other person does not agree, you can maintain a humble, sincere, respectful attitude and maintain your own posture.

Fourth, according to the situation, the land lease will be moved.

When you are urged to marry, whether it is you or your family, take action according to the situation, whether it is immediately refusing to urge marriage, or postponing marriage plans, there must be practical actions to respect the feelings of the family to the greatest extent.

The above is the best way to refuse to urge marriage, and the things related to the family, we must be more considerate, not forced, but to respect each other's needs, but also to adhere to their own position, and finally embark on their own determined path.

Negotiate with your parents reasonably and calmly, and if the negotiation fails, you can first find the reason for your parents to force you to get married, and then lobby your parents' relatives and friends to make them support you. And you can also send chaos in life, instilling some knowledge with your parents to subtly change them, outside. You can also start to look out for some of the women you are interested in.

When young people nowadays face the urging of their elders to get married, they should play Tai Chi, hide if they can, and try not to confront them head-on. Because the current elders are really terrible, if you say something that makes them unhappy, then there may be a lot of things that will scare you. And because he is your elder, you can't say too heavy words, it's really a belly of anger, so many people choose to hide if they can, can't be provoked, and can afford to hide.

In fact, to be honest, there are many old people who really like to interfere in other people's affairs. In this life, I think it's enough to be able to take care of my own affairs, and there is no need to worry about other people's affairs, because it has nothing to do with you. Everyone doesn't get married, naturally there are their own reasons, maybe it's because they haven't met the right one, or it may be because they want to play for a few more years.

But in the eyes of some elders, it may be a heinous thing.

If you reach the right age and don't choose to get married, they will think that you can't get married, or they can't find a suitable partner for Suichong. I like gossip, and what I say is very ugly. There are some people who may genuinely care about you, but there may be some people who are really just there to see the jokes.

Anyway, under normal circumstances, I just avoid those people in the house. Don't give them any chance to attack me, and don't give them a chance to speak, because that's the only way they won't break in my ears.

Some people may really care about me, but I really don't have the idea of getting married now, I think it's good to be alone, why do I have to care about other people's thoughts? Maybe when I'm older, I naturally want to find someone to marry, but it's really not the right time, so I'm very disgusted that someone is urging me. I can't offend them, I can't say anything serious to them, so the only thing I can do is stay away from them.