What to do with people who are not assertive?

If you don't have an opinion, then you can exercise to be assertive. So first of all, let's see what is called assertiveness, I say it according to my own understanding, if you think what I said is wrong, spray as much as you like.

The so-called assertiveness is your own subjective opinion, that is, you have your own opinion, if it is what others say, then it is not called assertive. That is, let someone help you make decisions about everything, and you don't have the ability to judge at all, which is really not called assertiveness.

In fact, if you are used to not being assertive, it is not necessarily a big bad thing. But after a long time like this, I always feel that my life is not like myself, and it is a bit boring. You should still make your own decisions about your own life, after all, you are the one who pays for your actions.

If you really become assertive, you will feel as if you have opened the door to a new world, and you will live more orderly. Becoming assertive is really not something that can be practiced overnight, it means that you don't have an assertive idea today, and you want to change yourself and become assertive, that's not the same thing, it's the same as not being a fat man by eating in one bite, it's a truth.

Let's start with the small things around you, for example, if you want to dye your hair, but you don't think it's good to dye your hair, here it specifically refers to boys, what's wrong with dyeing girls' hair. When you are hesitating, you want to ask the people around you, and the people around you give you different opinions. In the end, you find someone you usually trust and he is still very much like an opinion leader, and you think this time is better, and he says he won't let you go, and you don't make it in the end.

Although you want to go too, his words make you hesitate not to go, which is very wrong.

Since you want to go, then go, what do you care about other people's eyes. Recently, in an English class, the above is Yolo, and his full spelling is You Only Live Once, so you have to have fun in time.

Then you should grit your teeth and stomp your feet and dye your hair. In October of this year, I am still going to dye a grandma gray, I really don't want to care what others think, I should have a little personality, which is called being assertive.

Only after having a certain opinion on these small things, can you have your own opinion on the big things in the future, but don't underestimate these little things, the main reason for not being assertive is that you are not confident, and you are not sure about this decision, if you have a certainty, you still need to ask others, it's not too funny.

Therefore, you should still be true to yourself, you will find out how wonderful it is to be assertive, don't think about it, just try it a little bit.

<> it seems to me that people who are not assertive are caused by two reasons:

First: family environment, family education. We all know that the family environment and family education are extremely influential in a child's development.

Therefore, I think that the reason for the lack of assertiveness may be due to the fact that children who grow up obeying their parents' arrangements, and children who grow up in this environment generally have no opinions, because in such a family, on the one hand, the strength of the parents and the doting of the parents on the other. Every parent is looking forward to their son becoming a dragon and their daughter becoming a phoenix, they think that their children should follow their own arrangements, so that his life will be smoother and will have a good future, just like the character of Yin Ke's mother in the recently broadcast "Our Boyhood", she will arrange the best path for her children, what school to go to, and even the schedule in life, and some parents are doting on their children, not letting their children make choices, and paving the "brilliant road" of life for them in advance Such a child will often have no opinions, because he is used to the arrangement of the family and does not need to think for himself. This type of child needs to communicate more with their parents and participate in their own life choices.

Instead of following the arrangement of parents and losing their own opinions.

Second: Weak character. This type of person is because of personality problems caused by lack of assertiveness, weak character, easy to follow the crowd, they are more lacking in the responsibility of the choices they make, lack of responsibility, afraid that their choices are wrong, dare not bear the consequences, easy to listen to other people's ideas and shake their own ideas.

This type of person should develop their own sense of responsibility and be brave enough to bear the consequences.

People who are not assertive have to try to analyze the problem and their own inner thoughts and make a choice. Be brave and take the first step.

Analysis: Assertiveness is your independent opinion and perception of things. When others disagree with you, it doesn't mean that other people's ideas are bad.

Mature and assertive people will have their own judgment on what they want to do, and at the same time, they can rationally look at the suggestions of others and learn from others' strengths. In the end, choosing the most reasonable one is not necessarily your own assertion in the first place.

Method: Expand your knowledge and think positively.

On the premise of referring to the opinions of others, insist on making your own decisions on your own affairs.

Regularly voice your opinions online, at home, and in the classroom.

Dare to refuse. Financially independent.

Nurturing children's opinions:

1. Actively solicit children's opinions and ideas, and let children make some decisions on their own. For example, if you take your child to the supermarket to do some shopping, you can ask him what he wants to buy; When you take your child out, you can ask him what means of transport he would like to take; When traveling with your child, ask him what he thinks he needs to prepare.

2. Break the child's superstition about authority, instead of blind obedience and blind imitation.

3 Do home mind games with your child. Parents can identify a topic or problem and ask their children to come up with multiple ways to solve it.

4. Cultivate children's ability to think and judge independently.

5. Frequently ask questions with your child, leaving space for him to think and answer without interfering.

6 Listen to your child's "nagging", listen to your child's "justification", and teach your child to say "no".