Ask a psychiatrist for enlightenment My father wants to cut my stepmother with a knife, I m so scare

Your dad hacked your stepmom? Let them go, you can't care about your business. You're 17 years old, just live your life.

Excuse me, are you still studying, you have to work hard, work hard to get into a good school, you can get rid of this group of people. Being with this group of people is painful for you in itself. Change your living environment, but be careful not to make bad friends.

Make friends with motivated people. That's how you can make your life hopeful. Focus on yourself and let yourself have a good time, although your stepmother's son is your brother, he has a very shallow relationship with you in essence, so don't worry about this.

Take good care of yourself and take care of yourself. Either go to a relative's or friend's house for a while, lock the door as soon as you get home, or live on campus, in short, stay away from this group of people. It's horrible.

Open the door first to see what your dad is doing, then run out to find someone to help, wait for your dad to calm down and talk to him well, use extraordinary means in extraordinary times, if your dad doesn't care about your feelings at all, it means that you have no status in his psychology at all. Then take care of yourself, if your dad cares, then you should be bold and say what is in your heart, and see what your dad reacts to make reasonable arrangements, after all, this is also about the direction of your own life, don't be messed up by what facts, and use the law to protect yourself if necessary.

Sometimes indifference can be a disguised form of protection, and trying to change the relationship with your father may have unexpected results.

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Hehe, buddy is very similar to me, but I'm not as good as you, my grades were terrible when I was a child, and I was timid, and I didn't dare to speak when I saw girls, but after a high school graduation party, I changed this problem of mine, that time I acted in a few shows, it was relatively successful, and the temporary leadership role also gave me a lot of confidence, I never found that I had such a side, I used to always pay attention to my own shortcomings, how I felt so shy, etc., but then I began to learn to see my own strengths;

Actually, I'm still not too bold now, but I've become very confident, my classmates in high school say that I've changed a lot, that's because I found my strengths, I saw my strengths, of course, I don't deny my shortcomings, but I know that everyone has their own strengths, and it's not a good thing to focus too much on your shortcomings, maybe we will be born with some shortcomings, but we can improve slowly.

You have to believe that God has closed a door for you and must have opened a window for you, I believe that you must have the advantages that others do not have, and learn to appreciate yourself more and tolerate yourself more. In this way you will be freed from suffering.

You're really introverted, and you even ask anonymous questions! I'm kidding, don't mind, I'm telling you, I'm in a similar situation to you, I'm no better than you.

You have given so many reward points for asking this question, which shows that you still attach great importance to your own problems, is this problem now seriously affecting your life?

In a situation like yours, your academic performance must be very good, because you really have no distractions, you don't think about how to play games with your classmates, you don't think about what kind of party you have with your friends, of course, you are focused on studying.

You've been using the word for twenty years, freezing three feet is not a day's cold, and I don't like to talk much, but I'm happy to help you, I hope we can be friends, and I'm willing to talk to you if I have time, anyway, I don't know anyone, you won't be embarrassed, right

The hardest thing in life is to take the first step, there is no threshold that you can't cross, if you can muster up the courage to do things that you didn't dare to do before, I think you can definitely do it. Look at obstacles that you couldn't face before as "nothing significant." For example, when you see a girl, you think:

This one actually looks very average"; Don't miss the opportunity to perform, the encouragement of your classmates is easy to help you build up your confidence. Everyone gets along with you day and night, they must know you very well, and as long as you are willing, they will definitely help you build confidence. You don't need a psychiatrist for this, because, I'm sure, you can!

Overcome yourself, you can! The most important thing is to make more friends and talk to others. If you can, dating a girl with a sunny spot, not having a girlfriend, such as inviting him to dinner or something, and then communicating with her more, slowly you will find that everything is no longer an obstacle.

I have also helped a girl who is closed off before, and I found that it is not that she does not want to be close to others, but that she has never created opportunities for herself. It's the same for you, if you don't give yourself a chance to be a phobia, you'll never be able to take that step. So, I hope you can do it.

I hope what I say helps you.

It's good to look down on anything, don't go to the doctor! Read more books with positive energy! To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself.

I'm sorry, but I didn't understand the relationship between what you said because of the characters.

When your father stepped down from his previous position, he lost not only his job and leadership positions, but more importantly, his self-confidence. I'm sure he must have thought about it many times before you mentioned it, but he was confused and didn't know how to start. And your and your mother's attitude towards him makes him feel that he has no job, and you may hate him, think that he is redundant and useless, and even make him feel that you may leave him at any time.

That's why he restricts your mother's social life, and even behaves like that, because he knows that everyone is the same thing, and he doesn't want your mother to agree with other people's opinions and leave him. And your family's economic conditions should be okay, so your father is not going to work now, at least your family can maintain a normal life, and such living conditions have not forced your father to work hard to earn money for the family. So he will slack off and not seek progress.

Faced with a midlife crisis, he had to adopt a way of escaping, hiding at home and not socializing with the outside world.

It takes effort from you and your mother to help your father get rid of his low self-esteem. Usually pay more attention to him, communicate with him more, don't suggest what to do, but ask him more how he eats, how he feels, how he sleeps, etc., so that he can feel that you value him. If your mother is able to reduce social interactions with friends for a while, it will be more helpful to talk about watching TV with your father and going out for a walk together.

If there is any work at home, you need to take the initiative to rush to do it, and you must also take the initiative to tell your parents to let them rest more. Touching your father from these little things and making him understand that you and your mother are working hard in this family will cause him to reflect on what he should do for this family.

Say more encouraging words to your father, such as: Dad, what are you great at, I want to learn from you, etc. Affirm and support your father's strengths.

And can you tell him that there is nothing wrong with this failure, and that failure is the mother of success! The second is to slowly change his view of work and position. As long as you persevere, your father will definitely be moved by your actions, he will get out of the trough, work hard, build self-confidence for the whole family, and take on the responsibility and mission of the head of the family!

This is not something that can be solved by a psychiatrist, your father belongs to the love of face, and it is impossible to go to other people's bottom to look at other people's faces. It seems to me that you and your mother accompanied your father to go shopping whenever they had time, so that he could see what was going on. If the home environment is okay, you can open a store.

In this way, your father will still have a job and a job, and he will not stay at home all day. I wish you a happy family!

Spend more time with your dad, not necessarily with him at home, you can take him out to play or let your mother take your dad when she goes out to play...

Give it a try...

Family care is needed, and psychological counseling is needed.

You tell your father that it is better to die than to live, and the face can be eaten as a meal, and a person is a dao to live

For yourself and your own back.

The family doesn't answer because it's for others to see, haven't you heard go your own way and let others say it? If you want to live out of yourself, you have to get rid of the world's rules and regulations and ignorant views and cognitions, you ask your father which successful people have walked the road that others have walked, which of them suffered the most at the beginning of their careers is not the ridicule and ridicule of others, but in the end, what happened to those who laughed at them, only those who are their own garbage will look down on others and ridicule others, and those who have developed by their own abilities look down on others and who have laughed at others' efforts, people want to have face, Being looked down upon by others is an unusual road, face is only available to rich and powerful people, there is no face from those who come from, he has such a good face, you want him to rely on his own hands and head to start a business, even if it is ridicule, ridicule, no face is just not developed when you get up, who dares not to give you face, fantasy is useless, courage and practice are the leading force, to go out and use his ability to earn face, even if he does not get up, he has made efforts, Those who used to laugh at it will also change from disdain to admiration when they see that kind of effort, which is the spiritual kind.

Hobby! Find one for your dad.

It is beneficial, and he likes to do what he likes. Gradually develop his social skills, confidence in himself. Then the right to patiently communicate with him.

Remember to be patient and take it slowly. Also, you have to carefully observe and record every anomaly of your dad. If it's good, support it, and if it's bad, remind you.

You and your mom have to work hard. If it doesn't work, find an opportunity to take him to a psychiatrist, but not too forced.

The problem is more serious, try to find a way to see a psychologist, your father is definitely unwilling, you had better consult a psychologist, and then discuss countermeasures with a psychologist.

Your dad doesn't want to face the reality, get him a job.

I think those of us who are children should think more from their point of view.

Your father's career.

The loss on the bai caused his du

Imbalance zhi

If a person is unbalanced, then he is willing to return.

Something is going to go wrong.

The key answer now is to address your father's imbalance.

In your question, you said that your father is very face-loving and stubborn and refuses to go out to find a job, so if it weren't for that, then you would have solved the problem long ago.

Your father's love of face is due to his character, so if you want to change this aspect of your father's personality, you have to create a new family environment, and to change this environment, it depends on you and your mother, mainly you, and you have to put in a lot of effort to take on the responsibilities of this family (even your father's before), it will definitely be very hard for you.

In the eyes of your father, I believe that he will definitely change, and you will also change a lot, I hope your family can return to a harmonious life as soon as possible!

I communicate with myself what I get, so I want to be happy every day. Can't think of something negative.

The point is, do you care about her? If you feel for her, take the initiative to go to the contact's house. If you don't like her, why care if someone reaches out to you? There is no point in doubting this

This is often related to the environment when I was a child, read more books on psychology, or find someone with qualifications to enlighten me. Actually, it's good to read Buddhism once in a while.

If you do a personality test, it's very likely to be depressive.

Your thoughts are depressive.

Pros may have a situation of numbness to people and things, and the main reason, if it is correct, should be interpersonal problems. The landlord should be open to making friends, communicate more with his family, and let relatives and friends help you get through. Remember to drill the horns of the bull by yourself, remember.

The loss of a loved one will make us feel very heavy psychological pressure, and it will be difficult to accept this fact for a while, recall the past days of our loved ones, and feel that we have doubts about the meaning of life, which are all normal psychology.

However, if you maintain this state of mind for a long time, it is not suitable.

1. Your relatives won't want you like this, especially your grandfather.

Second, your environment doesn't allow you to do that. Study, work, and life will all ask of you.

3. Your state of mind cannot bear you like this.

Long-term repression will have a negative impact, and over time, some mental illnesses will appear.

When you came into the world, you don't know.

I don't know when you'll leave the world.

This life is nothing more than birth, old age, sickness and death, and the only thing that can resist is when to get sick and what kind of disease you have.

If you are sick, just try to heal it, if you really can't do it, you can't think it through, don't worry too much.