It s scary to rely on one person!!!

The things that make you unhappy in the world are not things that you can forget if you want to forget, what we can do is to face the unhappy things that have happened with relief. It's hard to be relieved, sometimes you really forget it for a while, but the unhappy memories that are touched by something else will be repeated. It's not that you can't, it's that every time you feel sad about something unhappy (like love or something), you have to overcome it over and over again.

Whether he will fall in love with you again is a matter of unknown future. He doesn't know, and neither do you. Don't think so much, because it's pointless to think so much.

The development of things is just that we can strive for efforts, but whether it can affect the development of things depends on whether the skills are at home!! ~

Stop thinking that you are useless, it's not that you're useless, it's that you really love him. Don't always remember the good things with him, know that whether you are happy or unhappy, the past will become the past. The good of the past does not mean the good of the future, and the unhappiness of the past does not mean the unhappiness of the future.

But if you keep burying the next time in this abyss of unhappiness because of your unhappiness at this time, then you will continue to be unhappy in the future.

Be sober, there is not necessarily a return on paying, if you choose him and want to be with him, then no matter what, be brave and strive for it.

If you choose him, but you choose to follow fate, then if there is really fate, no matter how many years later, you will still have an intersection, if not, it can only be said that you are fateless.

Love is very variable, maybe in the future when you meet another person, you can really put him down, (but you can still be sure that you really once loved him, the person you once loved deeply, of course, is really loved, but you can't be together, it's no fate) Maybe the person you fall in love with again is your destined person.

Well, yes, rely on a person, since this is the case, then don't think about it, what is your view of love, do you choose to love the person you love or the person you love, choose the former just like your current situation, the person you love does not love you or does not value you, then you choose the person you love, give up the person who does not love you, in fact, you really love someone does not have to be with him, let him be with the person you like, you will not be happy for him, don't drill the horns anymore, find someone who loves yourself!

People are moving from dependence to independence, time will speak for itself, calm down.

You're right ... Sometimes, the more you care about a person, the more you can't get her、、、 the more he won't know how to cherish it. Sometimes it is necessary to leave in moderation and let him know that he is going to be nice to you ...

If he doesn't care at all, then just leave, maybe he doesn't have your 、、、 in his heart at all

So, you can love him, but don't rely on him too much! The most trustworthy thing is always yourself, learn to be independent, learn to love yourself.

Don't give too much of your emotions for someone who is not worthy, because no matter how sad you are, he won't care!

You're so right, it's much better to do what you love to divert your attention.

Give up, really, don't treat yourself badly, women should be kind to themselves.

Since it's impossible, just go, you just haven't met the right person yet.

If you love him, you will insist on it, let him know.

Find other things to do, time can dilute a lot of things! Including feelings!

Learn to be independent, be happy with him, and be happy when he's not around.

When you focus on other things, your tide will recede.

Relying on a person does not mean loving him, then I say, there is a person, you ask him any question, he can come out, and the answers are very satisfactory to you, and you can't do anything or you want to do with him He can do it, then you can also say that you rely on him, but this doesn't mean that you love him?!Do you know? If you like it, don't you want to reciprocate?

Or do you want to reciprocate? If you don't want to give it back, then give it. If you want to reciprocate, then you must use many methods to have a return, first to understand that person, must, but also to coax that person to be happy, when that person is sad, you must always be by that person's side, if that person wants to be quiet, then by that person, but from time to time send a text message to greet that person how he feels, so that person knows that you are caring.

Shift the target! Try to rely on someone else! As long as you can vent your emotions, you can do anything! Confidantes, blue faces, and more!

Then when you are alone in all kinds of affairs, you imagine yourself as him, and you tell yourself: I will definitely do a good job, only in this way, will he not worry about you!

It's normal to rely on psychology, because you don't really try to do those things, you think that only he can do it well, or you think too much about the past, and feel that others are not as good as him, you have to try to discover the advantages of others, I wish you to get rid of the psychological shackles as soon as possible!

You have become dependent on this person, and since this person has left you, you have to be self-reliant, you have to believe that you can, you can do it, you can live without this person, and the earth will still rotate without him.

Don't think so! I was born to be useful, everyone has their own unique skills, but you haven't realized it yet, be patient, try to try, don't be afraid, don't rely on others, live a new world on your own!

In fact, it's not dependence, it's just habit, you are used to having him by your side, without him by your side, you don't know what else you can do, with him by your side you can do nothing, not because you won't do it, but he did it for you, you can think of it this way, he is just a person who accompanies you for a small period of your life.

First of all, you haven't found your own position, which means that your life is very empty, and it's better to find something to do, so that your life will be full, so that you won't have nothing to think about.

Relying on a person is not a good thing, because being together now does not mean that you can be together in the future, a lover may not be able to become a family in the end, you just live with him for a long time and get used to it, habit is the most terrible, slowly take the first step, try to live without him, because your life still has relatives and friends, and you have to go on. Come on.

I will feel this way, but I will tell myself that I am living for myself, and I will be better without him, and I will make myself happy without him!

Live for yourself, don't deliberately think about him when you encounter difficulties, face yourself bravely and take on positive commitments, time can smooth out many things, including feelings.

Now that I've left you, I have to let go of it. No one can rely on making a tree on their own and bearing it on their own.

It is already a habit for two people to be together, but the world is not to say that you can't live without anyone, it's just that you still love him, the more you have to live strongly, live out of yourself, do you want to be a waste product you think you are for the rest of your life.

It's terrible to have this kind of thought, after all, we live in a glorious era of labor, no matter what you have to get through your own efforts, maybe you are now used to relying on others to obtain material and spiritual satisfaction, but you have to slowly get used to it, learn to be independent, although the process will be very difficult, but don't give up, the process is hard, but after this hurdle, you will find that you are an independent and strong, productive person.

Personally, I feel that you are not dependent on him, but on this habit of your own!! It's like when you break a habit, it takes a lot of effort! Ordinary heart, don't look at things and think about people! Let time smooth everything out!

Find your other half, this society believes that it will be happy.

If you think clearly first, if you are going to be at home, you should decisively cut off contact with him, and drag it out to everyone, otherwise you will betray your family and live with him outside.

There is no best and fastest way, the only way is to time to wear out or find someone who really belongs to you, I have also been in the doldrums for more than a year, and you feel the same way, time has allowed me to find myself now, remember that he still has a lot of people... Parents. Friend. Classmates··· Talk more.

Time will dilute everything, it's just a matter of time. It would be good to learn to be self-reliant and self-reliant.

Ask yourself, is it useful to be inseparable from him? Does it work to rely on him? Will he ever be able to come back?

If the answer is no, then start a new life.

If it's hard to be alone, ask for support from other friends and family.

If you know now, why bother in the first place? Breaking up is the stupidest thing to do, provided that you are still in love with him.

People should learn to be independent and self-reliant, and others are ultimately unreliable. Putting all your hopes in someone else, relying too much on one person, often ends up with disappointment. On the road of life, many things are destined to be faced alone, no matter how big the wind and rain are, they can only bear it silently, and they can only rely on themselves at critical moments.

Only being strong and independent and seeking more blessings for oneself is the most correct attitude towards life.

Emotionally dependent people will lose themselves because of blind giving, once the other party leaves their side, it is like the world collapses, the other party does not like your style of dressing, you change yourself according to his mind, the other party hates your friends, you cut off all contacts, etc., the relationship is compromised and sacrificed for love, which is the most typical emotional dependent. Psychologist Honey once analyzed the dependent personality and said that a person's excessive desire for closeness and belonging will continue to evolve and distort in life, and this desire is compulsive, blind, irrational, and has nothing to do with real emotions. You should remain independent and have it appropriately.

Be self-reliant in life, be emotionally independent, not overly dependent, and take responsibility for your own choices and don't become emotional victims.

What about being too dependent on others? I asked myself this question countless times five years agoEvery time you crave your innermost thoughts?

Why are you dependent on others? Being too introverted? Haven't done this question and don't dare to try it easily?

Or is the first thing that comes to mind when I encounter a problem is to ask someone to deal with it for me, afraid of being ridiculed by others? Every time I think about this, the problem is solved. Because you're afraid to do something, and then you're dependent on others.

When you do this, you are more afraid of making mistakes, and you are more dependent, and when you solve this problem, first of all, you have to make yourself stronger, let yourself handle things, and every time you do this, you won't want to rely on others.

As long as you find out the reason, you can start from it, for the other party's life, for the other party's responsibility, let the other party complete it one by one! Start small! Example:

When we were children, we always relied on our parents, no matter what happened, the first person who thought of it was our parents, not trying to deal with it on our own, when we were in school, we got into a fight with our classmates, and we cried and said, I'll go back and tell my dad to tell him to beat you! Later, when we were older, we always thought of asking our parents for money! And why are we less dependent on our parents now, and we have changed, you should all have your own ideas and opinions!

I won't say more!

Learn to do what you can do by yourself, and try to do it on your own. To develop a good independence, the most important thing is to be confident, don't worry about not doing well, dare to try and make mistakes, and succeed after failure, and finally you will find that you can be so good.

Dependence is actually a kind of feeling, it doesn't have to be love, you can see him as the love of brothers and sisters, you also love him, you also rely on him, but you only regard him as your brother. In fact, if he loves you, he will choose you as his girlfriend, but he didn't, he still found a girlfriend, but he still quarreled with his girlfriend for you, in fact, it can be seen that his love for you is very clear, he also loves you, but it is like a relative, like a dead file, but for his girlfriend, it is different. In fact, what you said is very vague, and you can't really distinguish your feelings.

I'm just taking your literal meaning as an answer from someone else.

To make yourself strong, don't be afraid of making mistakes, don't be afraid of being ridiculed, just try to take a slow step on your own every time. Just try a few more times.

Jiren has his own natural appearance, why bother with this, let it be, some people are born with a golden spoon, which is also fate. Hard work is not necessarily successful, and hard work cannot make up for clumsiness, since there are people to rely on, why not be a good thing.

When times are good, dependence is part of emotional sustenance; When adversity, dependence is a parasitic derivative. Life should be self-reliant.

Every time you want to rely on others, think about these things that you really can't do, and then encourage yourself.

Changing dependence requires the efforts of both parties, so that he can cultivate your independence, don't give you ideas and help you do everything, and at the same time tell yourself that if you have to do it yourself, no one in this world can rely on you except yourself.